I rarely hold a grudge with people. I am forgiving most of the time. If I ever hold a grudge, it's because I do it to entertain myself.

I'll forgive alot depending on what it is i myself have made alot of mistakes however things like racism and the like i never will injustice pisses me off to such an extent that i go into a berserker rage think an overdose of pcp like abilities only without any drugs but if someone just gets into a fight with me or gets me back for wronging them i'm cool i belive in an eye for an eye not an eye for an eye for an eye basically you wrong someone then they can get you but you can't get them back and vice versa but this comes from someone who has been betrayed more often by authority figures than peers or lessers.i also go by the concept that humans are neither good or evil but a blend and that good and evil are abstracts.

If and when I am screwed over by anyone, group, company, or person, I do not get that settling scores mentality. I do, however, will remain suspicious of that person until the day I die. The only other thing I end up doing is the factoring of such past sins against me. I have an incredilby good long term memory.

I do believe in second chances, but in all honesty, it depends on what the person did that determines how easily I'll forgive them.
Example, a friend of mine stole some movies from my brother while he was hanging out at my house once. He told me he had to go to the bathroom, so I showed him where it was. He took the movies from my brothers room, because it was next to the bathroom at the time, and he took the discs out of the cases. He took the hid the discs and slipped the cases under the bathtub.

My brother immediately accused my friend of stealing them, and I got mad at my brother, because I felt my friend would never, ever do something like that to me.
Well, I was wrong. I found the DVDs a few days later under the tub as I was cleaning my bathroom. I was so pissed..I stood up for him, even got angry at my own flesh and blood for telling the truth. I never wanted to see him again.
But..he apologized to me. I felt that he was genuinely sorry, so I gave him another chance.

It wasn't long before he decided to steal from me again.
I can't forgive him this time. He lied straight to my face, told me he had changed, but he didn't.

I've never been more angry at a person in my entire life. But, you know, there's people like that out there. I don't know what possesses them to do these things, but they do them anways.

Hrm. I guess this post got a little more self indulgent then I wanted it to.

To be honest, I'm a rather spiteful person. I may not do anything to get revenge for the wrongs that were done to me, but I'll make sure they never forget about it (verbally that is). I consider myself to be very nice, I treat everyone how I would want to be treated. So I don't forgive or forget betrayal very easy.

Thankfully I've been pretty good with who I choose for my friends because known of them have felt the need to betray me in any form. Its never happened and I hope it won't, because I'm sure the end result would not be pleasant. I consider people who betray those close to them scum. I mean really, what would possess you to betray someone you were once close too? Its just stupid.

I tend to operate on a partial-forgiveness mode: I forgive, but don't forget. I feel that this is generally appropriate, as forgiving is necessary in all personal relationships, but forgetting borders on stupidity and occasionally crosses the line into outright idiocy.

However, this only applies to wrongs someone does to me. If you hurt my little sister or my closest friends, I don't forgive you, even if they do.

I would forgive the person but it would take time to forget the action that was done to me. For me it would just cause another conflict or accident if the person could not forget because it's going to be embedded in the person's mind and when the situation becomes worse that person will eventually remember the past action that was done to him/her. So I'd try to forget as soon as possible because it can haunt me and the person that did this to you.

I would force myself to forgive them. Just because they hurt you doesn't mean you have too instantly start hating that person. There are those situations where you will never feel comfortable around those people again, but you should always forgive and never make them seem like they go around you. That only makes the situation harder for you because you are making more enemies than friends and that is no fun.

There is nothing that i cannot forgive, i have forgiven a lot of things in life but certainly not forgotten, cus i feel that what ever people do, they try to do for their good but unfortunately it happens to be against us.

We as humans should forgive them and let them realise that what they did was wrong, and if you forgive you must forgive from the heart and just let it go and pray that will let it go.

I would have to say I'm not really forgiving.

I should be more forgiving though.

I think I'm pretty forgiving. At least, if I do have any grudges, I don't remember them.

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