There is a classmate of mine with whom i was very close. But since a few months i barely talked to her. Cause she left me in the lurch a couple times. That hurt my feelings. I chose not to talk to her but didn't told her that she hurt me. Usually i consider myself forgiving, but in this situation i just cannot forget what she did. She asked me if she did something wrong, but i didn't know what to say or how to explain why i'm sore about her. I still don't know what to do.

Ive been betrayed by one friend back when i was 11 and since that time, i have not trusted one person with all my secrets. Rather, different people know different things and thus, i dont have one best friend but rather, a lot of good friends.

When it comes down to forgiving....dont ask me fer forgiveness right after you've ticked me off/ betrayed me cause then the odds are that i wont forgive you AND yell at you. Give me ample time and i'll eventually forgive you.

If I am unwilling to forgive others who have wronged me, how can I expect my own sins to be forgiven? I will always try my very best to forgive someone, no matter what it is they have done. However, while I may forgive a friend who has betrayed me, that does not mean I'm going to trust them as easily again.

Betrayal is some thing that I wouldn’t and won’t forgive, even if it happens just for once. I don’t care what their excuse for doing this is nor I’m eager to sit there and wait for their next attack. So what if it makes me an unforgiving person? Why should I care for a person who didn’t care for me in the first place? In my experience, a person who is doing such a horrible thing to others and betrays them, knows his problem better than any one else and doesn’t need my lecture or some thing like that and I have gotten hurt enough to know that if you let a poisonous snake crawls near your feet; you will be killed in the second blow.

Remember what jin did said, in samurai champloo, " god would give you a second chance, not me ". I do quite agree with it, i didn't apply it all the time of course but most of the time I do, because people who tend to use you or hurt you needs to prove themselves that they are worthy of being forgiven before being so, well, that is how I think.

...sorry,but Im not an angel either.
But,if that person deserves to be forgiven,why not?

Someone very dear to me did something that made me very angry,and I mean very...
He hurt me so bad,it was so painful for me...I've been a demon.(I even promised to kill someone who betrayed me)
But after the pain,Im able to forgive him...and Im glad.I made the right decision.

...sorry 'bout that.

I've been angry lots of time and some are forgiven and some not.depending on the things they made me angry about.just one thing that i'm still very angry about:when my
friends came to my house to play,my grandpa told them to go home by force.I want to do some revenge about this sometime and nothing will make me forgive him,not even his death

If somebody betrays me until I feel that I can no longer put any trust in them will means I will never forgive them. Because you can never ever believe the words they speak when apologising. If the problem occurs due to accident, or if I know what they did is part of their nature then I can forgive them. Sometimes I do curse people in my mind when I'm angry with them but I will forget about what happened soon.

Quite forgiving, but there's this line when I get really angry, and decide to erase a person from my vision.

I had a classmate once in seventh grade who was such a leech. I didn't mind it that much. When I got to eighth grade, I got around new friends and hung out with them even more. This leech classmate started b*tching them, saying those new friends were stealing me away from her.

I got angry and decided to erase her. I don't talk to her ever. Even now that we're in college and we're both in the same school.

She even made a scene once. In school. I was sitting on my seat near the blackboard (I wear glasses) and then she went up to me and had this whole speech going and cried her eyes out. I just asked her right after "Are you done?" And walked away.

Oh yes, I'm like you. I don't have a very big heart so my heart is quite limit. One time is already enough, two times I can consider to forgive, but three times is my limit. I think your friend is a too good person. Why did she forgive him, she should punish him instead. If someone betrays me, I'll take my revenge and I will make sure that my revenge is harsh.
But it's not always the case. If one person who has a very good reason to be forgiven then I will forgive them. Hate someone and unable to forgive them, this feeling is hard to live with. Wallowing hatred only makes you bitter, so just let it go and live your peaceful life.

I think everyone here also got the ( LIMITED )...when someone who makes you hurt and angry so much...i wont forgive them and its very hard to accepted it..even the loves one too..

My mom says I'm too kind sometimes, but honestly, I'm a faker. If someone betrays me and they apologize, I forgive them in words, but in my heart I hold a grudge against them forever. That's my policy: hold a grudge for life, and when the time comes, let all the bad blood out.

I suppose it would depend on the person. I find that 3 chances are enough for the average random while if it was a close friend and it was serious I am not so forgiving but then again I might completely overlook what happens but if it was major I would be quite vexed.

I do believe in second chances, but in all honesty, it depends on what the person did that determines how easily I'll forgive them.
Example, a friend of mine stole some movies from my brother while he was hanging out at my house once. He told me he had to go to the bathroom, so I showed him where it was. He took the movies from my brothers room, because it was next to the bathroom at the time, and he took the discs out of the cases. He took the hid the discs and slipped the cases under the bathtub.

My brother immediately accused my friend of stealing them, and I got mad at my brother, because I felt my friend would never, ever do something like that to me.
Well, I was wrong. I found the DVDs a few days later under the tub as I was cleaning my bathroom. I was so pissed..I stood up for him, even got angry at my own flesh and blood for telling the truth. I never wanted to see him again.
But..he apologized to me. I felt that he was genuinely sorry, so I gave him another chance.

It wasn't long before he decided to steal from me again.
I can't forgive him this time. He lied straight to my face, told me he had changed, but he didn't.

I've never been more angry at a person in my entire life. But, you know, there's people like that out there. I don't know what possesses them to do these things, but they do them anways.

Hrm. I guess this post got a little more self indulgent then I wanted it to.

For me, it really depends on the person that hurt me, how bad they hurt me, and whether they did anything after doing so to redeam themselves. If they're willing to keep the lines of communication open afterwards, then I'm more wwilling to forgive them...or at least discuss things with them and try to put it behind us. If they don't do anything or act like their angry at me, then I'm less willing to forgive or continue to talk with them.