Forgive it if he/she can't understand that what he/she doing is hurting me.

And forget the person who hurt me, if he/she do the same thing again or worse.

I'm using the 3 strikes metode 2. But i dont have any feelings of sorrow nor am i angry at arround max 20 minutes after some kind of incident i kind of just forget when all 3 strikes ar consumed i pretend to still be a "pall" with that person but i only keep interactions with that person as long as it benefits me anyway i aint strict sometimes it can be more than 3 strikes depending on the situations.

Depends how bad and what they did to me more then anythingand if i could get something against them that would make there life a liveing heck like they did mine. like start spreading false rumor's and not stop for a whole school yr forget them and move on but if you know its them and they have a diary well have some fun before you stop talking to them. put it this way with she/he was rumoring about me was they were doing with some one else all written in there diary so i scanned it and put it on the net.

but if it was a mistake and unintentional yes i would forgive

I forgive too much, however i don't forget
so they might get a little payback when they need me

YOu dont want to be my friend, trust me. I dont forgive easily. I need to change that.

dathmar

I forgive, but I never forget

That's me =] if you're true friends and the one who betrayed you is really changing for the better then i guess it's alright. I always had a soft spot for the sad/bad/evil people though. Basically i forgive but i never forget. When i think about it, i probably get sad but you can't get sad for life... so just live happily

Too many factors to consider

It depends on how I feel about the person. If I really like them I'll give them a few chances. If I didn't like them that much to begin with then I sever the friendship. But what the mistake is also affects my decision. If they sleep with my significant other it's an automatic friendship ender

I'm more of a - 3 strikes and your out- type of person.

Maybe cause I'm too laid back that I can just either overlooked the problem, forgive them, or just plain forget about it.

BUT then again.. I do eventually get my revenge. Its complicated ^^

I suppose it depends on weather or not they were truly sorry for there actions.

I'm by no means perfect, and I expect people to occasionally do things they are no proud of. If a friend of mine did something to betray my trust, but I was sure they truly felt sorry about it I would most likely be able to forgive them (unless it was something really, really, bad). If they didn't show any regrets about there actions, then I would need to seriously reconsider our friendship.

Well, a close friend of mine came to me in tears recently. Someone she trusted so much betrayed her and hurt her real bad. That wasn't the first time that person did such a thing to her. To us actually. I was betrayed by that person a couple of times too. Yes, a 'couple' of times. Honestly, for me, i'm not an angel. If the same person kept hurting me...one after another...again and again. Well, i couldn't just forgive and forget it all. Even if i did managed to forgive but still i couldn't forget what he/she did to me. Sorry, but i just couldn't do it.
I fount that line on one of my wallpapers,no human is perfect, if someone betrays you and asks for forgivnes , grant it, if it continues to happen, youl need to seriously lecture him. Tell him what he/she is doing is wrong, and if that person still continues, just give them their space and go on with your live. No one needs negativity.
Depends on what kind of level the betrayal is. I've had people who turned their backs on me cuz of peer pressure. Makes me think, were they my real friends to begin with? Thats why now, i dont make friends who are WEAK. Cuz having friends make you have attachtments and therefore if they are weak, they will only bring you down.

as for those traitors? well heres a useful quote i found:

Revenge is the greatest act of forgiveness

Well you can say, im living my life as a loner...well not really (i still have some friends or two who can manage by themselves) but i strive to be a strong individual and not a kind who just hides behind a group of friends.

If you think its unforgivable...DONT FORGIVE that piece of s**t.

I'll take off one leg or one arm and call it even. anyway, that depends. although as they say "to forgive is to divine" -- hehe

time has always the power to take that away. and if you still cling to the short-comings of other people, then it's just going to ruin your life. you can't be free unless you learn to forgive. that is the only way to escape a troubled past.

be angry and all that. but in the end, try to learn to forgive. still it calls for the best option

I am much too forgiving. My only problem is that I can't seem to quit. I have wonderful friends, friends that I love, that I would do anything for, that would never hurt me. However I have had friends in the past that have scarred me very badly. There are a few people I talk to today that have the ability to still hurt me to this day, yet I still talk to them. Why? Because one, I am too forgiving; the two, I just can't let go. I don't want to lose them, even though everything tells me I already have.

Overall, I am much too forgiving, however while I do forgive, I do not forget; and someday I might make the right choice after someone has gone too far.

If someone hurt me once, I would forgive them, but certainly never forget. I would never fully trust them again, because I would be wary of being hurt again. After the second time I might forgive them, but it is more likely that I would not forgive them and keep them far away from me. I believe in second chances, but that is about it. By the second time you should know better than to hurt someone. Especially the same person. By the third time I would definitely be fed up and would just about hate that person. They would never get my forgiveness and I would certainly never trust them again with anything! If I was to be hurt twice by the same person, they might get my forgiveness and maybe even trust, but it would take something radical for me to ever trust them fully again. Once I get hurt by someone I am automatically wary of them for as long as I know them.

Sure no one is perfect...I trust really easily...And that its hard for me to distrust them completely...I forgive them as easily...Even if its something harsh..Sure I may need to take a day to absorb the pain...But I will forgive them...Because it shows that they mean something to you...Just like everyone around me...They are important to me even if we haven't known each other for long...I will forgive anyone...Just give me time..xD

I cant really say i'm a "forgive and forget" type person. My cousin stole a game and a memory card (both of which he already had) and lied to my whole family's faces. That was almost 10 years ago and I still haven't forgave him.