That really blows, dont blame you for not forgiving them if they did do somthing rather horrific. i kinda tend to hold grudges myself.

Hmm, I'm not forgiving at all! I'm just uber empathetic so everything people do I can understand the reason why. Infact, I've never had to forgive anyone because no one needed forgiveness nor have I ever been betrayed to an extent that it requires contemplation to forgive. Ahh I just love how my mind works and I also love the emotions I have, I must be in a state of zen or something. I can't even remember the last time I felt hurt, looks like my emotions have succumbed to my will entirely! Wait there's a better way to explain it, it's like forgiveness doesn't exist for me anymore because there lacks a purpose of forgiveness or a cause for it.

I cannot forgive others if they treat me badly. my mother for instant did something really bad to mein the past, andi knowthat i can never ever forgive herforwhat she did.

If that really hurt me badly maybe I can't forgive him/her
But,honest,I don't like to have enemies or kinda the one hate me or something
All I can do is say
"What?Oh,I forgot that.Something like that will disappeared in my sleep"
Something like that
but,if I really got mad I'll say
"WHAT??!!Who do you think you are??!!I'll never forgive you forever and ever!"
Maybe it's a little harsh..

Firstly, it depends on who betrayed me. Some people I would forgive no matter how many times they hurt me. Its just their personality that I couldn't stay angry at. Regardless, It also depends on what the person did to me and how many times. I think that if it was something very serious, three times is the most I would forgive.

I fount that line on one of my wallpapers,no human is perfect, if someone betrays you and asks for forgivnes , grant it, if it continues to happen, youl need to seriously lecture him. Tell him what he/she is doing is wrong, and if that person still continues, just give them their space and go on with your live. No one needs negativity.
o...I think there are people who might have made careless mistakes in their lives and hurt others unintentionally...I think i would prefer to forgive and forget...this makes my life easier, coz there is nothing tugging on my heart whenever I think about that person...I let go of things pretty easily >.<
Depends on what kind of level the betrayal is. I've had people who turned their backs on me cuz of peer pressure. Makes me think, were they my real friends to begin with? Thats why now, i dont make friends who are WEAK. Cuz having friends make you have attachtments and therefore if they are weak, they will only bring you down.

as for those traitors? well heres a useful quote i found:

Revenge is the greatest act of forgiveness

Well you can say, im living my life as a loner...well not really (i still have some friends or two who can manage by themselves) but i strive to be a strong individual and not a kind who just hides behind a group of friends.

If you think its unforgivable...DONT FORGIVE that piece of s**t.

I would forgive him/her if it's only a small problem to me. But I couldn't forgive someone if she/he betray my trust. I will not forget it and maybe I wouldn't like to talk to him/her again.

Hmm. I don't agree with the 3 strikes out kind of thing. Counting the number of mistakes your friends or other people make is somewhat unfriendly and makes yourself a bad friend in the first place.
I've never been "betrayed" because I've never told anyone a secret before. To tell the truth I don't really have any secrets so I guess betrayal is kind of impossible. However, there are people I don't trust but in general they aren't my frie4nds obviously. You should choose friends carefully. None of my friends would betray me. I can normally tell just be observing them.
If I was betrayed, I'd probably forgive them though. Everyone makes mistakes or does thing on impulse that they later regret. Its just that if they don't regret it and wouldn't mind doing it again that makes it a problem. But if they really didn't regret it then they wouldn't really be your friend would they?

No one ever betrays me twice, because I kill them after the first time

Woah now that's kinda extreme huh? :) Anyway I guess it has to depends on what my friend did. Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, one would not be fully in control of his faculties and he'll tend to over react, or jump into conclusions. Usually I'd try to ask around to get the full story first. For all I know, perhaps I was the one who started everything first. After that I'll try to cool down and think over it again. Especially for a close friend, if relations sour over some trivial matter, it'll be something I'd regret for the rest of my life.

But then again, if it really was his fault, I'd give him a chance if he has already apologized and appears sincere about it. After all everyone makes mistakes. But if the same thing happens perhaps I'd start to consider why we were friends in the first place.. I'd probably distance myself from him from then onwards. But this is all theoretical of course, since I haven't gone through such painful experiences yet.

In conclusion I'd say it really sucks if such thing were to happen. I'd probably end up feeling depressed over the whole thing for sometime. Hope it doesn't happen to me, and not again for most of the people here :)

Honestly, I'm a soft-hearted person. If anyone did something wrong or hurt me, I'll be angry at that time. But after that, when they apologize, I'll forgive them. I'm not angry for a long time, and I forget very quickly.
But I had much experience of being hurt because I'm a person prone to injury. So when someone did bad thing to me, I try to remember and remind myself never let that person hurt me again. Although bad things they did to me ended long time ago. But somethimes, when I suddenly think about it, and I feel very unpleasant.
Everyone make mistakes in their lives, but the important thing is how you repair the fault you did. Saying something badly to another people, tell lies to others, or evil-minded just because your benefit, people can forgive for what you did, but in their mind, it became an obsession which can't be erased. So, please think carefully before say or do something that you know it will hurt others.

Honestly, I'm a soft-hearted person. If anyone did something wrong or hurt me, I'll be angry at that time. But after that, when they apologize, I'll forgive them. I'm not angry for a long time, and I forget very quickly.
But I had much experience of being hurt because I'm a person prone to injury. So when someone did bad thing to me, I try to remember and remind myself never let that person hurt me again. Although bad things they did to me ended long time ago. But somethimes, when I suddenly think about it, and I feel very unpleasant.
Everyone make mistakes in their lives, but the important thing is how you repair the fault you did. Saying something badly to another people, tell lies to others, or evil-minded just because your benefit, people can forgive for what you did, but in their mind, it became an obsession which can't be erased. So, please think carefully before say or do something that you know it will hurt others.

I'm a very forgiving person... that's just the way I am. If someone hurts me really badly, I'll be mad at them first, but I'll eventually end up forgiving that person. And I'm not the type of person who holds grudges.

Ah forgiving..I'm not sure about others but I'm the type who forgives VERY easily..Although it's not a good thing, grudges aren't that great either. The longest time I've held a grudge against anyone was probably about a month..and that was because my boyfriend(ex now) dumped me and used the excuse of cancer (when it was evident that he didnt have it) to leave me.

There's always a good side to forgiving because it gives you a chance to understand the other persons perspective and have a chance to patch the relationship up.

On a scale of 1 to 10 I'd say I'm about 8.5 for forgivness xD

Depending on the severity of the betrayal or 'irritating' action, most of the time I will forgive. I can never really forget but I do forgive. If if does come to that point of 'near hatred' then it just does. I can't change a persons personality, nor can I hope for them to for my sake. It's who they are and little can change that, if I don't like who they are then I just have to accept it and get on with my life. Why waste time with them when I could be making friends with people I actually do like.