About the time... 5 years? I would have suicided if I didnt die at the very second I hear something like that. But of course have enough time to forgive.

No never.

Only a dumb person would ever forgive someone who has betrayed him/her (well, on your kind of situation anyway).

Same thing happened to my sister, and she is still kinda madly in love with the guy. Man people these days >.>

Well, with me, ill probably forgive anyone who betrays me. Ill forgive them when im in their funeral.

Five years is a long time for someone to do that on. I would feel betrayed if something ever happen like this to me; however, if you understand the reason why she did it. Then it may be easier for you to forgive that person. However, the hard part for me would be trusting that person, not he forgiving part of it all. It would take me a long time for me to trust that person who ever betrayed my trust.

I really don't know to tell the truth; however, what I do know is that every person is different in this type of situation.

From what I can tell, it was not "why" she did it, she was just unfaithful from the very beginning.

Ahh yes friend betrayal is quite eh..excruciating..but none the less common...have i forgiven the person? well rather i have just ignored her and she has gone back to being just another human(or not) stranger i see from time to time...swt..

Forgive, maybe I can.
But for 5 years
it's really unreasonable
Many things in life tell me that if a person can do it once they can do it twice. Or even you are not the 1st person she said that to, and maybe she is in needs of someone when she tell you that.

Personally I don't think I can forgive that person, I rather hear her say she love someone else rather than cheating behind my back. Trust is not something that should easily given to someone unless you are really really sure of it, but love is something that just happen to be in someone's hand, That's why it's called "stealing a heart" .

So you can maybe forgive but you can't decide that you will passionately love her or not.
P.S. "You can CHANGE what you believe, but You can't CHANGE what You know"

Betrayal cannot be forgiven. It's not going to disappear as if it never happened, it's always going to be there in the back of your mind that this person willfully and maliciously destroyed the bond of trust and love between the two of you. They can say they'll never do it again and that they love you but it's already proven otherwise.

You can choose to say, "well, we can still be friends." I'd probably say something like that just to help them but any romantic relationship is dead, completely. Live and learn and don't sacrifice yourself or your morality.

Betrayal... it is someone that cant be forgiven,
but after few years it seems like I wont think about it again.

Trust is what built our society and the ones, who cannot understand and be part of this constitution, will undoubtedly be obliterated by good citizens and the will of the people. We are not free, we must follow rules. We are not animals but some people like acting like ones. These ones will always suffer to consequences of a life without control, only for childish pleasure, kids venture, sweet youth passion.
Who cannot trust in anyone in our society will remain in loneliness until understand what made this society. We must be together to face destiny, or we will be obliterated like the dinosaurs, who weren’t able to build society.

My master always taught me what is love and how it can move mountains from their basis, and how stupidity have transformed love into a feeling, a simple human feeling, inside their hearts, their minds, like a thought, and summer breeze, a leave falling from a tree, all human things that inevitably will rot with time.
We all are compelled to believe in something that will bring us some peace inevitably, even if your belief be yourself, you will think there is something inside you that bring your strength back to you in bad moments, to make you believe you can do something. When you cannot or are not able to believe anymore, you need therapy like me.

Personally I'd forgive her... But I'm not exactly the type to take advice from, as my philosophies on life are generally self-destructive. ^^;;;;;

"Give people every chance you can in hopes they'll make something good of it, but never expect them to do anything but take advantage of you."

That's what I do... I may have some sort of a personality disorder, since as you can see sometimes I put others first a little too much, which doesn't seem natural to me. Although sometimes I wonder if subconsciously I expect something back from people... even though I don't consciously expect anything.

Sorry to hear that happened to you. =( *hug*

Betrayal is but of an ideal built by humans and their teachings. First of all, it starts as a society of people that all live together in peace, trust, happiness, or that try to. As humans we should all very know well that that is not possible. We have things called emotions and desires, and they can be piqued by what others tend to do, or even more directly when others confront you with it. If we did not have education, no interaction with others, than betrayal would not be known of in this society. But, that's not possible, because humans again, have desire; desire to learn, to watch, to listen, to mimick others, to approach others, to talk with others, etc. We use ourselves in the way that we believe is right, and most of the time, we are oblivious to the ones around us and what they think. I believe in this concept and "betrayal" is only a joke made up by humans. But, since betrayal can only be done when the prerequisite of trust has been established, then betrayal is unforgivable. What betrayal does is terminating that trust between the ones that have it, and causing those that have (once) believed in you, to lose confidence. What traitors have done is used your trust, used you, to finish whatever they had to, and leave your side. That is truly unforgivable to me, and no matter how that person regrets it, I would turn my back on them.

If you really love someone...

I think it is easy to forgive if you really like someone - you would still want to stick with that person no matter what - but that does not mean that you have to be with them after they betray you - may be it is better for that person if you are away

Arthurgomes, if you have forgiven her then that's very admirable of you. However I personally do not believe that you should be getting together with her. Trust in each other is one of the most important things in relationships, she may have learnt from what she did before but if she has broken your trust she can do so again at a crucial moment (say when you two have an argument).

You are more of a solitary person, so am I. We need someone who can understand that part of us and not go seeking other things with other people if they said that they accepted us. Otherwise they never truly accepted you. For your sake, don't get back with her, it will cause more pain in the coming future.

Cheers,

Betrayal is the worst. I won' forgive someone who betrayed me that easily. but, it doesn't mean I don't want to forgive him/her. at

Well if it was 5 years, then it'd probably take me 5 years to forgive them. Yet, i don't think i could ever trust them again.