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i'll talk with you later Hikikomori
I was recently runing around on the internet (like i normaly do, although mainly just looking for topic starters this time) when i came across info about the phenomenon/dissorder, (or what ever you wish to call it) Hikikomori. Im not good a summorizing (sorry) so best to look at full description on link below.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori
What do people here think of Hikikomori? Dose anyone know someone like this? Or is this even you?
Although I do pull away from others at times ive never done so for multiple month let alone years (probly a week or 2 at most(during summer)). Although I woulnd mind it ^_^; I think people "suffering" from Hikikomori are just smart people who have seen the bad flaws in society and relized theres no point in sticking around.
(Topic not ment to offend anyone .... ^_^; )
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori
What do people here think of Hikikomori? Dose anyone know someone like this? Or is this even you?
Although I do pull away from others at times ive never done so for multiple month let alone years (probly a week or 2 at most(during summer)). Although I woulnd mind it ^_^; I think people "suffering" from Hikikomori are just smart people who have seen the bad flaws in society and relized theres no point in sticking around.
(Topic not ment to offend anyone .... ^_^; )
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And i thought that i was anti social 0_o
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My, my. Where do them teens get their Vitamin D? They must have really weak bones!
There isn't that much pressure exerted on teens in my place so cases of hikikomori individuals are probably rare. But Japan! Yeah, I've met Japanese students who are more reclusive than the most introverted of my peers is. And no, they're not otakus (in the literal sense of the word). I do feel sorry for 'em 'cause they miss out on things one can only do as youths.
There isn't that much pressure exerted on teens in my place so cases of hikikomori individuals are probably rare. But Japan! Yeah, I've met Japanese students who are more reclusive than the most introverted of my peers is. And no, they're not otakus (in the literal sense of the word). I do feel sorry for 'em 'cause they miss out on things one can only do as youths.
3 years 1 week ago
Kowai... -_- (scary) Actually it might actually be me... I am always in my room! (well maybe not because i eat downstairs and watch tv ^.^) But the fact is, Hikikomori or a bad mental problem that makes the person stay in there room and not come out, is a problem that can be prevented (umm I know it so if that site said it sorry >.<) number 1, don't bully people, number 2, try to be nice when you break up with someone (yes, some people get really sad about that and become a hikikomori...) number 3, don't do things they hate! (such as if they said not to go read that person's books, don't!!) number 4, don't embarrass them... There are other ways to prevent this but sometimes they are just doing this because they think they look bad or something is wrong REALLY WRONG with them. Hikikomori is very scary...
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That sorta of sounds like me in some occassions...hehe im always confined in my room cuz either of studying or surfing the net. but im not that hikkomori type! i do hang out with friends! =D=D im not always confiend in my room 24/7. i like to socialize by going to the movies or just going out and haviong some fun and also to keep fit!
"I think people "suffering" from Hikikomori are just smart people who have seen the bad flaws in society and relized theres no point in sticking around. " yeah true...hikkomori does affect the person mentalliy i guess... =P
"I think people "suffering" from Hikikomori are just smart people who have seen the bad flaws in society and relized theres no point in sticking around. " yeah true...hikkomori does affect the person mentalliy i guess... =P
Wow.Some parts of this I read and go,"Thats me!" but others I don't...pretty interesting.I think I'll bookmark this...
That's quite interesting and enlightening. It's also disturbing to know that a lot of psychosocial (word? whatever.) problems such as these are on the rise in many societies.
I concur. I think the degree really depends on individual circumstances; people encounter differring amounts of the contributing causes and so the 'symptoms' may manifest to a different degree or not at all.
I think you may be partly right here, I can observe this in some people I know. But the thing is, such behavior is often seen as escapist, not being able to face up to reality. It can really worsen things for the 'suffering' individual because being labelled as 'soft' or 'spineless' really becomes additional pressures to conform to a system that they are already retreating from.
I believe there is a lack of understanding that people and their characters are formed by their interaction with the society ... thus the society in general then blames the individual for failing when things like this happen, rather than examining the bigger issues of fundamental flaws and issues within the society itself. For instance, the excessive pressures of the education system is cited in the article - and that is certainly something that needs to be examined.
On a less serious note, I think everybody needs a little quiet time to themselves once in a while, just to get away and chill out, reflect on things. Just as long as you don't forget to pick yourself up and move on after that. ;D
flyingknifeWow.Some parts of this I read and go,"Thats me!" but others I don't...
I concur. I think the degree really depends on individual circumstances; people encounter differring amounts of the contributing causes and so the 'symptoms' may manifest to a different degree or not at all.
CloudtheClowI think people "suffering" from Hikikomori are just smart people who have seen the bad flaws in society and relized theres no point in sticking around.
I think you may be partly right here, I can observe this in some people I know. But the thing is, such behavior is often seen as escapist, not being able to face up to reality. It can really worsen things for the 'suffering' individual because being labelled as 'soft' or 'spineless' really becomes additional pressures to conform to a system that they are already retreating from.
I believe there is a lack of understanding that people and their characters are formed by their interaction with the society ... thus the society in general then blames the individual for failing when things like this happen, rather than examining the bigger issues of fundamental flaws and issues within the society itself. For instance, the excessive pressures of the education system is cited in the article - and that is certainly something that needs to be examined.
On a less serious note, I think everybody needs a little quiet time to themselves once in a while, just to get away and chill out, reflect on things. Just as long as you don't forget to pick yourself up and move on after that. ;D
. . . speechless, what do they do?
and i thought that i was anti social 0_o
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2 years 11 months ago
As it`s already been said, everyone needs some time for themselves....as long they don`t go overboard. sometimes I stay away from the world for about a week but that`s it. Going out and having fun with your friends, even if it`s only once in a while (they`ve all started working now, so it`s harder to see each other T_T) is just way too good to miss ^^
2 years 11 months ago
Go read the manga "Welcome to NHK" for a humorous recreation of a hikikomori. It's hilarius.
Myself, well, I go to school and all, so I'm not a total outcast, but I also like to be alone ;D
Hikikomori is just about people not being able to handle the pressure others set on them. I find it rather strange, since majority of people around here almost naturally shrug off everyone else. But since it seems to happen mostly to the younger teens, guess it is understandable; they want time to develope in peace and it isn't granted to them. This is what you get and it is a sign that the parents have failed in their job.
Or, if it the person is an adult; it is a sign that he relies too much on others. Find him a cave and let him live as a hermit. :p
Or, if it the person is an adult; it is a sign that he relies too much on others. Find him a cave and let him live as a hermit. :p
I agree. This behavior as well as many forms of isolation from depression are escapist behaviors. The main problem is that it allows people to live outside of reality which is a self-reinforcing behavior.I think you may be partly right here, I can observe this in some people I know. But the thing is, such behavior is often seen as escapist, not being able to face up to reality. It can really worsen things for the 'suffering' individual because being labelled as 'soft' or 'spineless' really becomes additional pressures to conform to a system that they are already retreating from.
I once had a friend lock himself up in his room for 3 months after his break-up with his first love. And I quite literally mean he locked himself in his room...only coming out to get food. I tried many times to get him up and out without success. What really sucks about it is that was my last free summer before I moved to Florida and it really hurt our friendship.
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WikiBeginning in the 1960s, the pressure on Japanese youth to succeed began successively earlier in their lives, sometimes starting before pre-school, where even toddlers had to compete through an entrance exam for the privilege of attending one of the best pre-schools.
Hoe-lee-sheet. This would make a very good essay topic. This also explains alot about the Anime cliches. The most notable one being school. I'd go as far as saying that 90% of all Anime contain some type of school boy/girl and in that 90%, 60% of which the characters go do stuff like fight evil, get transported to another dimension, etc. If viewed in this light, Anime can be viewed as an escape for those Japanese students whose life consists entirely of school and homwork and studying. If I was in that situation, I would definitly be willing to escape that life and go capture some Clow cards or something. Or, I can just get the next best thing, which would be to watch a cartoon about it...
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Sounds like an extreme condition of someone who's anti-social. I am actually pretty anti-social myself. I feel uncomfortable in large groups. I never know what to say and what to do. I just feel weird. ^^ I think it's due more to an issue with low self-esteem with me though.
I've seen a documentary about this phenemenon on TV a few years ago where they followed a boy that had Hikikomori. His parents bought him everything he asked them for behind the door of his room and he didn't even came downstairs for dinner, so his mother always brought him his dinner upstairs.
They also said a lot of children who have Hikikomori commits suicide at the end, so it's definitely a big problem in Japan.
They also said in the program that the enormous presure from studying and school in Japan is the cause for the high suicidenumber under children and the high number of children with Hikikomori.
They also said a lot of children who have Hikikomori commits suicide at the end, so it's definitely a big problem in Japan.
They also said in the program that the enormous presure from studying and school in Japan is the cause for the high suicidenumber under children and the high number of children with Hikikomori.
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