Do you know the safest way to prevent pregnancy and STD's? The way is simple just don't have sex!! Amazingly it works for every thing! How do you save money on gas? Don't drive a car! How do you save money on food? don't eat! How do you prevent cancer? Shoot yourself!

i'm guessing your a Russian... >_>

As someone else already said, sex is sex.

I don't hold it on a pedestal and I doubt I ever will. I also don't think people have to be in a long-term relationship to do it. If people want to wait before they're married to do the deed, then more power to them. I respect that aslong as people who believe it don't try to make me feel the same way or push me to believe that's how it should be especially considering I've already had sex and what's done is done.

I do disagree with teenagers having sex. When I say teenagers, I mean 13/14 and sometimes 15. I'm not sure why, but I think people of that age having sex is wrong and in a way, disturbing. Depsite the fact they might have "teen" at the end of their age, it just seems like kids having sex and it's unnerving to an extent. Especially if something goes wrong.

Aslong as consent and responsibility is involved from both parties then I see nothing wrong with people havng pre-marital sex.

All said :lol:.

Personally, I believe that pre-marital sex, for myself, is wrong. Other adults who do it, no problem, none of my business. But for myself, I just don't believe in it. What I worry most about when it comes to sex, is the young teens out there doing it.

My 24 year old sister is unmarried with three children, my 22 year old sister is unmarried with two children. Their boyfriends are long gone. They were only 17 and 14 when they had their oldest children. This summer, most of my time has been spent helping my sister take care of her oldest daughter, and my mom take care of my older sisters son, who she has custody of. It's difficult, and sometimes I wish that they would have thought it through. But I do adore my neices and nephew - more than anything.

But I can't help but wonder, "what if?". Pre-marital sex is taken too lightly by teens, some see it as a way to please their boyfriends, some as a way to find love they never found at home. Some for money, some for pleasure. And some, just because they think "everyone else is doing it".

And while sex, the act itself, really isn't that big of a deal, the repercussions for pre-marital sex, especially as a minor, must be taken into account. Too many teens are having sex as a result of puppy love, most of them have no idea what real love is. Too many times, the result is an innocent child.

Probably a bit too young to be thinking about such things, but in today's sociey, it's not really a surprise that teenagers my age are already imagining what it's like, masturbating, or even engaging in sexual intercourse.

Virginity to me is something that should be cherished and not lost to some random guy just due to hormonal desires. Personally, I want to wait until after marriage to have sex. My first time is something that I'd like to share with the one person that I truly would give my life for, to live with forever, and the person that I love with all my heart and even more. If the person sitting next to me doesn't feel the same way, that's his or her choice, not mine. I'm just stating the way that I feel and believe. Some would call me old fashioned or naive even perhaps and others might agree with my view. However so, I'm willing to wait and despite what anyone says, I will.

It's something that I've noticed as well... the pressure to STAY a virgin is more put on the female portion of society than the male. It really isn't fair, but I think it has something to do with the girl becoming pregnant and not the guy. Yet still... it really isn't fair in school when a guy goes to one of his friends and says "I did it with her last weekend," and all the guys are like "Wow... Dude, that's awesome. Could you hook me up with someone?" and then when a rumours go around about a girl having sex with a guy in school, the girl has crap said about her behind her back about her being a slut. And this isn't just with sex as well, I've seen this happen with girls who are "apparently" going out with more than one guy and been called a whore or a slut while being a player for a guy is something that's <impressive> or <cool>. It's pathetic... but I guess that's just how things work now. It's not something that I encourage or agree with, but really, I'd like to know what's been done about it if anything at all.

My apologies if I've repeated what anyone has said earlier, but I didn't have enough time to look through the rest of the posts. =S Keep in mind that I'm not trying to change anyone's view on the subject but merely stating the way I see it as. If you don't feel the same way, I respect that and that's your business, not mine.

You guys and your sex. Sex causes to STD. stop watching dogs have sex

To me, sex is something that is more of something I want to give to the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. Something precious that can never be bought or won over. My virginity. It really is sad in today's world how much life is focused on sex and how pleasure is viewed as just something people do for fun and to be honest, Winter made some extremely good points.

It really isn't fair to the female population. A guy sleeps with a girl and he's a player, a girl sleeps with a guy (or even just a rumor is spread) and she's a slut. It just is the most stupidiest thing I've ever heard of. I don't understand why society views something like sex like that, but I guess that is just the way we are. Though, even with this ever-changing world, I still am rather old fashion. To me, sex is something that should be given to someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, not someone that you don't even know and waking up with a hangover the next day. Though, it seems to most people, they don't realize they want something serious until they've gotten it 'out of their system'.

I was talking with a friend about it yesterday and he was just ashemed as to how many girls he knows just want sex. One of his ex's just dated him because she felt sorry for him and kept asking for sex. He met with his other ex on the fourth of July at his friend's house and she asked him if he had sex with the most recent girl he went out with. I mean, is sex really that important? She made it sound like "OMG! You didn't get any?" like he is suppose to be aiming from the start for sex. I'm not trying to say thats how girls are, I'm saying that far more people today are focusing on sex being the primary basis of a relationship. To me, if the relationship is only about sex, thats pretty sad. No, thats beyond sad. Cause if you can't have sex, then what? Thats not even a relationship, more of just raging hormone kids. My apologies for such strong views, something that I look at sometimes and just shake my head at, but maybe thats because I'm old fashion. Either or, I plan on saving myself for my wedding night. I don't care how inexperienced I am, to me, the first time is the most important and I want it to be with someone I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Oh yes, not all the pressure is on girls to be a virgin. Guys also recieve pressure for being a virgin. Cause appearantly your a wuss if you haven't taken advantage of girls. Though, I do think how some guys treat girls is pathetic. I don't know where someone gets the idea that they can grope/molest/touch someone in public without their personal consent and in a way that they are rather uncomfortable with. To be honest, if you want to be a virgin, be one. Screw whatever anyone else says. If they feel that its important to have meaningless sex and its not something you want, then its their loss. I personally go by my own beliefs and my individuality. If someone thinks I'm a sissy or a loser because of my beliefs, I could care less. I truly feel bad for women for receiving such pressure, but hang in there ladies. Be strong and continue to push foward. Yes, people can get you down, but stick with your beliefs =), cause believe it or not, you have people out there that support you for that. I tip my hat to the ladies that have to deal with that kind of pressure, any form of pressure in life can be stressful. I tip my hat also to the gents if they have to deal with the same kind of pressure and then some.

It really isn't fair to the female population. A guy sleeps with a girl and he's a player, a girl sleeps with a guy (or even just a rumor is spread) and she's a slut. It just is the most stupidiest thing I've ever heard of. I don't understand why society views something like sex like that, but I guess that is just the way we are.

I've always felt that this was ridiculous. It's almost as if guys are given free reign to act like asses about sex while girls are expected to maintain a contradictory purity in the eyes of the world. I lost my virginity at age 17, but unlike alot of people I hung out with I never went around going "Dude, I got it on with...." cause I always have had respect for the girls that I have dated and been in relationships with. I never felt the need to present myself as some "playa" or build a reputation based on sexual exploits. All in all I've always thought that American society had strange views on sex anyways, so the difference between how men and women are treated are just another sign of some of the odd perceptions in our society.
Going back to another topic I saw brought up earlier, I do feel that sex is better when it is with someone you genuinely care for and love. Speaking from experience, I have always felt that casual sex was fun at the time, but very empty and meaningless after all was said and done. I dunno, maybe it's just the way I see things, but I would much prefer to experience something like that with a person who I truly felt an emotional bond with.

Hum...well i dunno...i think sex should be kept for after marriage stuff. I guess thats just me being a Christian but im pretty sure that you'll feel better about it after marriage. Cause after marriage you need not to feel guilty of fathering some mysterious child that may one day appear at your door and call you "Daddy". Personally i think that most sex is the result of lust not love. Seriously, even though im a guy i am amazed at the ammout of girls that fall for the line "if you love my you would have sex with me". It seems like such a stupid thing. That line right there is dripping in lust for the body. Oh and by the way i think that people who get pleasure from hookers have no life and they just want to enjoy the body as much as they can. Its really dumb in my opinion

Its really interesting... becasue sex was never thought of expressing love, l until now. Becasue when you go back there were arranged marriages all teh way up till the 1920's and then people jsut married for money. after married for race, then for love after the 1970's. Now though many people are dennoucing sex , they look at it as a vulgar form of love. I mean we have evolved to a new height of experinces and knowlegde of each others sex. In my own opinion is that many parents and adults believe that sex should wait while schooling is priority. Which was very very different from the 1880's where getting married at 12-14 was natural and having 10 kids by 25 was natural. As always kids always go against parents and right now sex is pressured among kids, even in teh best neighborhoods kids are getting pregnant and losing their virginity. To me sex doesnt have to be a romantic thing but atleast do it with someone you care for. Cheers!

I guess I could be considered among the generation grown up under a heavy influence of sex and drugs. Frankly, I think sex is completely overrated. If I abstained the rest of my life, I could honestly care less.

Personally, I don't think pre- or post-marital sex matters. What matters is this - are you having sex because it feels good or because you're in a relationship and you truly like (love?) each other? Sex without feelings is meaningless. Call me old-fashioned but that's what I believe. I agree that sex is basically just for procreation. But I also think that on some level, it's possible to communicate certain feelings across that you can't through normal conversations and the likes. (Although that might be pushing the envelope a bit.)

No, it isn't fair that there is a greater expectation for women to remain virgins when they are also the ones constantly being used to appeal sexually. There's just too much of a double standard and I've long since learned to ignore most of what the world says. It's wrong and hypocritical half the time.

I honestly won't care if my husband is a virgin or not. Even if he wasn't, what can I do to change the fact? I would have married him because of who he is, not because he still hasn't lost his virginity.

Well, I gave up on reading all of the posts on the fourth page. Two have been added since I started reading this thread.

Anyway, I'll go to Whiteblaze first; When that person said you needed to get laid, they were being sarcastic. As to your first post when you said somthing about being absolutly pure, (no porno or impure actions), I'd like to see that person. They are few and far between if they truly exist at all. Especially on the Internet.

As to my own beliefs, "impure actions" are almost a gimmie. I can't tell you haw many women I've f'ed in my mind. As to the actual act, love and sex are connected, I honestly would not fuck (lets face it, sex and fuck mean the same thing and fuck fits so much better here,) somone that I had no emotional connection to. I want to love the person that I have sex with and not just have it be some wild fling that means nothing. I want to meet somone that I care for and wait untill I know. That though does not nessaraly mean marrage however. My sister for example I know had sex before marrage, and as far as I know, only with her now husband, now they are married and just had their third kid. (BTW she is 12 years older than me.)

I dont see virgenity as somthing that should be held scarcred, but that doesn't mean "go with the flow". Franly, if there was a way to tazer teenagers that try to I would be all for it. I can't tell you how many times I wanted to punch a guy in the back of the head because they were making out with somone in the hallway. Hopfully I'd knock out one their teeth. That being said, I you know what you are about to do and what it means, then go for it. But know what you are getting into.

If any of you want to know, I'm 19 and a guy and a virgin. I fill that anime equivlient of a nerd save that I'm fat instead of skinny. I have only asked one girl out in my life and I was shot down (later I learned that she was dating the entirity of high school with one guy,) and that was five years ago. I haven't been able to do so since. I had been hitting on a woman from high school that I met and McDonalds after we graduated, and I learned that she was pregnant. I have horrable timing...

Anyway, this seems to be more of a self made repression than anything else. Because here on the Internet, I have more femle friends than I have friends period in real life. Of course, several of then are underaged or engaged, or lesbians for that matter, but that just shows that I lack of relationships is more of my inablilty to comunicate in real life and not in jsut pure lack of communication skills.

If any of you are wondering where this rant of mine is going, I thought that my actions would speak better than my own words. obviously I'm not ready if I can't talk to women in real life. I'm stopping now before my rant goes elseweare even farther away and my laptop's heat sterilizes me.

A general observation: It seems that men here are more laxed on this subject than women. There I guess is my answers the the varience of reflections of virginity between the sexes. The only way I can see this beleif changing is if more men become abstinent or more women act like the "little black book" toting men you protray here. Just a though.