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Friendship That Drift Away
6 months 1 week ago
Have you guys ever made a good friend in school and then the next year that you saw them again they were starting to have more fun with other people. You don't talk much and don't laugh as much anymore. Then before you knew it, they wasn't anything left between you two......
6 months 1 week ago
Yup all the time. You'll find out that most of the friendships that you make with your class mates are really short lived and only last as long as your in the same school or same class. Most of the people that i would hang out and run with I haven't seen in 6 years and I can hardly remember there name. One good friend that I made when I was in earning my associates in college I again haven't talked to in a couple years. Life goes on and we are in different states and our life plan led us in different directions and we both got busy. I guess that's one of those realities that suck about life, but there's really no avoiding it.
I've had people who I used to hang out with just disappear without saying goodbye, like after graduating from high school. It's not like we did something bad to each other and now we hate each other but it's more like we weren't "close" enough to hug, cry, and say farewell to each other lol. I just get the feeling that I'll see them again 10 or so years down the road so I'm never that disappointed. You make new friends when you move on anyways. Besides, there's Facebook if I was really desperate to find an old friend.
Falling out of touch with good friends seems to be a natural part of life but the good news is that as you grow as a person and begin to develop interests in different things, you'll find a stronger connection with people in the same situation and that can foster new friendships. It's always sad to lose a good friend by simply "growing apart" but unfortunately it isn't really something you can force back together again. Respect and appreciate the friendships of your past and certainly don't burn any bridges, but don't let that sadness obscure your vision when it comes to new friendships and opportunities. In the end, it's most likely for the best.
6 months 1 week ago
Oh my, yes, it's happened to me many times. For my part, I prefer it if friends drift apart - as opposed to when friendships are broken by lies, bad behavior, jealousy, etc. Based on my experiences, if friends drift apart, well, you're still friends. Just not as close to each other as you once were. You may not even greet each other sometimes, but there are no hard feelings. I think that's preferable to when a friendship is broken up over fights or other issues; usually afterwards it's very difficult to maintain a civil relationship with them, and often the problem, whatever it is, tends to continue.
Of course, you could patch things up, too, but it's difficult. And kind of off-topic. XD
Sometimes it's necessary to drift away from old friends. Like, say, if you move away. You'll have a hard time maintaining contact with them, and you may become sadder and more frustrated because you don't want to let them go. But if you make new friends, it helps ease the pain and boredom a little. The important thing to remember, I think, is that making new friends does NOT mean abandoning old ones - nor does it mean that you're being abandoned.
Of course, you could patch things up, too, but it's difficult. And kind of off-topic. XD
Sometimes it's necessary to drift away from old friends. Like, say, if you move away. You'll have a hard time maintaining contact with them, and you may become sadder and more frustrated because you don't want to let them go. But if you make new friends, it helps ease the pain and boredom a little. The important thing to remember, I think, is that making new friends does NOT mean abandoning old ones - nor does it mean that you're being abandoned.
I saw some good friends I had in college the other day, they kept bugging me to come out because I have been overseas for a year. Anyway it's just weird you have nothing to talk about except experiences you had in the time you were apart. To be close friends i think you need to experience things with them and have some common ground be it you work together or you study together. Once that's gone it pretty much goes downhill.
6 months 1 week ago
Friendship is all about looking out for each other and helping each other blossom, but relationships which isolate you from friends and family consumes so much of your time and energy that you barely have a moment left for other friends and family, and tend to engulf you to the point that you feel like you are suffocating. Friends who have each other’s best interest at heart know that everybody needs space sometimes, and they are willing to step back and allow you to adjust at your own pace knowing well that this does not mean that the friendship is over, you cannot partner/befriend with someone who does not share your goals and dreams simply because no matter how hard you try, you cannot teach people to care about you. This lack of appreciation for your true self will contaminate your environment and rob you of the ability to be the person you were meant to be, and you tend to move away from these friends. Just my own personal experience!
Yup. Happens all the time in school.
Not only is not being in the same class a factor to friends drifting apart, but also peer pressure and sometimes popularity.
I think friends have expiration dates, so I don't think they actually last "a lifetime".
I also prefer if friends drifted apart instead of friendships broken by lies, and what-not as mentioned above.
My best friend who I've been friends with for 3 years has decided to ditch me when we entered high school because she suddenly became popular.
Friends drifting apart happens to everyone, and I don't think it's avoidable.
Not only is not being in the same class a factor to friends drifting apart, but also peer pressure and sometimes popularity.
I think friends have expiration dates, so I don't think they actually last "a lifetime".
I also prefer if friends drifted apart instead of friendships broken by lies, and what-not as mentioned above.
My best friend who I've been friends with for 3 years has decided to ditch me when we entered high school because she suddenly became popular.
Friends drifting apart happens to everyone, and I don't think it's avoidable.
It happens...and the more you grow up, the lonelier you'll get (in the sense that most people once they marry, start to hang out with the couple of usual friends. sometimes, childhood friends may appear but unless they live near you or at least in your same city, you may not see them that much)
Friendship is above too much or too less, it is just sharing the vibes and joys of each other. In friendship , why and how much/too much is not there but Humanity is terming everything by 'how much return , why ..etc.' Humans are made to view every person, situation, relations as 'Economical.' You may be aware about Law of Diminishing Returns, as stated in Economics. It says if you have desire for water, you consume one glass, and you feel satiated, but when you take second, the satisfaction you got from First Glass of water will be lesser. Still you persist for Third Glass, the satisfaction will be at its low. And when it comes to Fourth, the negative satisfaction, means, heaviness of stomach or vomits may start.
But the Friendship is above such Laws, yet the mind is conditioned by society and parents. The mind always sees the Benefits and Returns. Till one is getting positive results, the Friendship remains deep and bonded. But when either side is getting Negative results, the mind starts to find that it is Too much. So let Friendship Fade or discontinue or anything.
But the Friendship is above such Laws, yet the mind is conditioned by society and parents. The mind always sees the Benefits and Returns. Till one is getting positive results, the Friendship remains deep and bonded. But when either side is getting Negative results, the mind starts to find that it is Too much. So let Friendship Fade or discontinue or anything.
6 months 1 week ago
I dunno, I don't really find that much of a problem like that with my friends. Yes, they do drift to a degree, but I (or my friend) always tries to make an effort to keep in touch... and I think thats good enough for me because I think its unrealistic to be able to keep all your friends for all your life.
6 months 1 week ago
Yup, all the time, especially when i went out to collage and came back for the first year. when i was in collage i missed my old friends so much, but during the summer we got together and it seemed kinda awkward.
6 months 2 days ago
That happened to me before. It was more like we still hung out, but when they would hangout out of school they would not invite me or some other people in the group. Well, there's just some friendship that don't last long, but for those that do, you know that they're friends worth keeping. :D
I've had that happen to me several times throughout my life, and I guess I just got used to it. People move on, and friends often grow apart. It's just the way things are I guess. That's why I always try to make the most out of the time I spend with my friends, because you never know what tomorrow brings.
I think that's pretty common nowadays.
At some point you're going your own way which is bound to be different from your friends.
It happens all the time with me.
For example my best friend in 5th grade.
Nobody could seperate us but we both changed school and we met up less and less.
Funny enough that I came across her a few days ago, talking about old times and how we miss it a little.
We're planning on meeting each other again :)
At some point you're going your own way which is bound to be different from your friends.
It happens all the time with me.
For example my best friend in 5th grade.
Nobody could seperate us but we both changed school and we met up less and less.
Funny enough that I came across her a few days ago, talking about old times and how we miss it a little.
We're planning on meeting each other again :)
