willowstick

if a girl tells you she loves cuase your personality shes lieing cuase there has to be physicle attraction for her even pass a glimps in your direction

EXACTLY.
If you're not physcial appealing in some way, it'll be hard for girls to give you a chance. I know it sounds mean, but it's true.
Unless you've got connections.

Ugh, ok this is how it works. A guy's priority is looks first, personality second. A girl's is personality first, looks second. In general, for most girls, it doesn't matter how you look as long as you're healthy, clean and well groomed (although it certainly wouldn't hurt to look like brad pitt or whoever).

The problem is every guy thinks he has a good personality. They think personality means being nice to her and buying her things and worshiping the ground she walks on. In reality, women resent that and it exudes a "you're too good for me" aura that gets them bored and pushes them away. Just treat every girl like she's not good enough for you and they'll believe it, pretty soon you'll have to beat the super models off with a stick.

Its all bout' the looks

Okay lets blow the covers off of this scam. Lets be upfront and honest here right? I myself being female, am pretty sure I speak for others here too.

First impressions are ALL about the looks! (you cant see personality... so its only natural) (example in nature, when birds or foxes etc mate they go by looks too, like fur shine, or bird feather arrangements..etc) It judges how "genetically fit" another is. BUT that being said relationships based on appearances usually dont last long, plus animals dont get married unlike humans.. Personally I like individuals are fair looking, and even just your "average joe" as long as he is sweet and loyal. As people age they tend to search for long term partners than just your brief fling, so be patient, the right one is out there for everyone!

No not exactly... even though good looking guys with bad attitude can give a reason for it.
mostly just look okay and still can follow up with your own communitty.

Ok well i think all girls prefer good looking guys, but since good looking is an opinion it depends on the girl. As a guy i have been shot down, called ugly... who cares anymore, but i have have also been called hot... so i am not bragging about myself, personally i think im ugly and i admit that, but when i first hit that age... the ugly age when kids start liking other kids... my standards were set to high for myself and i see that now, i based everything on looks when i knew some girls were blatantly evil. So as i lowered my standards i noticed i didnt get shot down as much, i guess it makes sense, ugly with ugly, hot with hot... but like the girls i date now, they think im hot(i think), i thik their hot... and personality is definatly a bonus, if your ugly and you have an ugly personality you will probably always fail in this area

Um. Obviously. Just like guys prefer good-looking girls. Which is not to say that it's the only criteria people have - a lot of people, myself included, look for a good personality first - just that if one had to choose between two equally nice guys/girls with great personalities, they would obviously go for the better-looking one.

Plunkies

Just treat every girl like she's not good enough for you

If you really believe that, you're going to end up a sad, lonely individual. For your information, being a selfish prick is not attractive, and being put down doesn't turn a girl on.

I think this question is very much depending on t he person. Ok here's my take on it. Girls in the end like guys for the personality. But most of the time, like probably 60%+ of the time, they look for a guy that looks good and not care about the personality until later. Looks good but personality sucks, then move on to the next person. There are some that look for the personality from the start and it does work out. But seriously, no matter how nice your personality is, you can't go out with someone that is completely ugly. They have to at least look average. That's my take on it.

I think this debate could go both ways, I feel that personality accounts for a lot of who you are as a person. After all after a certain point in time looks aren't going to be everything. I have been on both ends of the spectrum being turned down based on things that are in my opinion superficial and not paying attention to girls who aren't that good looking. Sexist pig remarks aside at the end of the day when you are dating a girl named "Candi" whose intelligience, humor, and general thoughts are incredulous idiotic as you would expect with that sort of name. You are no better then when you are turning down a girl who isn't as good looking but has all those traits that "Candi" lacks. I guess what I’m trying to get at that looks are great, hell they can be fantastic, but you can’t raise a family on good looks. I don’t think this argument proves that nearly half of all marriages end in divorce but I’m sure that this is a part of it.

Oi, Oi this is my first post, nice to meet you all. Cheers.

Though im black i prefer white guys. i dont know why its just really weird. though i do still think black guys are cute .but i would probably pick a forien or a white guy first

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Plunkies

Just treat every girl like she's not good enough for you

If you really believe that, you're going to end up a sad, lonely individual. For your information, being a selfish prick is not attractive, and being put down doesn't turn a girl on.

Heh I suppose that quote taken out of context does look pretty bad. The problem is it's very hard to teach "game" to people. It's not a matter of outright insulting her but instead dropping hints that imply that you have higher standards than most people. I don't care what you look like, but assuming you're very attractive... (ironically I can only hit on hot girls, when it comes to average or below I'm totally lost) ...but assuming you're very attractive you probably get hit on by 10 or 15 guys a day. And all of them are probably "nice" guys and they're all probably stumbling over themselves to make you happy. They do everything they possibly can within the first few dates that they think a girl might like, they say "I love you" way too early, buy you too much stuff, go overboard on dinners, call you too much, and generally send out a weak "You're too good for me" vibe. Now if you have to consistently deal with that kind of crap and then you come across a guy who's actually a man, who's confident, who treats you like just another normal human being and at times like an obnoxious little sister, yeah you find that attractive whether you'd like to admit it or not (excluding gold diggers I guess). Hell I dunno, if being a player makes me a selfish prick then so be it, but I'm anything but sad and lonely for it.

Look, you ask any girl what she wants in a guy she'll always say the same things...Smart, nice, loyal, and someone who'll treat her like a goddess. But there are tons of guys like that, so why are they the ones having such a hard time keeping relationships? Why do most women go through those kinds of guys like tissue paper only to find themselves fantasizing about the dumb jerk with the motorcycle, no money and a crappy apartment that she dated 3 years ago? Because despite all that jerk's blatent faults he had one thing those other guys lacked, he required effort to keep.

I may come across like an over-confident ass but I'm not, the fact is I'm the nicest, most gentlemenly guy a girl will ever meet. But I won't hesitate to crack a joke at the expense of the unapproachable supermodel and I sure as hell ain't no punk. You'll never see me being unreasonably nice to a female because she just happens to be extremely attractive, and that's why they'll always be attracted to me. It's funny how "love" works huh?

The girls in general looks for the first juste the physik and perphaps after the mentality of man

and yes it's funny how "love works" ;)

If a guy looks good at first glance, a chick will talk to them more willingly. on the other hand, if a guy dosent look so hot then he wont be spontaneously talking to women, now will he? Take me: male:moderately well built. but my face isnt a face that says "hes drop dead gorgeous, i want to talk to him.", its more like a face you have to stair at for a while to see the SUPA-HOTNESS in it. if youve done this, you know what im talking about.
if i go and take off my shirt, it compliments my face and i look SO TOTALLY HOT...so yeah...if i was on a beach..girls would talk to me
ahem..to get to my point..girls DO overall prefer good looking guys..