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Online/Long Distance Relationships
Has anyone tried this? did it work? what do you think about it? i'd like to hear some opinions.
They take a good deal of time and hard work and dedication and when I say a LOT I mean a lot.
If a relationship starts long distance, sometimes it's easier to maintain it that way because you're used to being apart for long periods of time...But sometimes the times that you're together make the times apart absolutley unbearable.
On the flip side, if a relationship doesn't start long distance but becomes that way, it's so much harder to keep together. When you go away to college, relationships fall apart left and right because so many people can't deal with the distance. It doesn't mean that they're bad people or that they don't still love each other, but rather that they're human and need somone's love and affection more often then they can have it.
If the love is true, sometimes it's worth waiting over time and space to be with your loved one. But it's not an easy lifestyle, and it's definitley not for everyone.
If a relationship starts long distance, sometimes it's easier to maintain it that way because you're used to being apart for long periods of time...But sometimes the times that you're together make the times apart absolutley unbearable.
On the flip side, if a relationship doesn't start long distance but becomes that way, it's so much harder to keep together. When you go away to college, relationships fall apart left and right because so many people can't deal with the distance. It doesn't mean that they're bad people or that they don't still love each other, but rather that they're human and need somone's love and affection more often then they can have it.
If the love is true, sometimes it's worth waiting over time and space to be with your loved one. But it's not an easy lifestyle, and it's definitley not for everyone.
2 years 1 week ago
Depends on the term Long Distance. Me and my Girlfriend live close and go to the same school, but we don't really see each other all that much, and only really talk on MSN or something. But we always seem to find time for each other whenever we can. Shes a great gal and all, but it just sucks how we don't see each other that often. I would say its "Long Distance" because the only time we talk allot is at a long distance.
2 years 1 week ago
Uhh... hasn't this been covered in this forum before?
Long Distance Relationship
and loads other, but that's the one that's alive for now.
To answer your question, I've been in a few. I ended up with one quite permanently, but that's a different story. I guess, you are mature enough to decide this yourself. In the end, you know what a relationship feels like. Now, imagine you, with all the restrictions regarding flirting, dating, etc, minus her being there (only online chatting and occasional visit), minus the jealous glare when you saw someone really hot, and a few hours on video chat every day.
Can it work? Yeah, one of what I did apparently worked, but keep in mind that at that point, it has become normal relationship, not long distance anymore. It started as an online relationship. We talked a lot, exchanged pictures, emailed each other, and then, he visited. We still talked a lot on the phone after the visit. A few months of him visiting every fortnight or so, he decided that he wanted to just move down to wash. dc with me, and he did. We ended up living together, and well... things work out :)
So, generally, can it work? Maybe. It depends on the person. How much do you love the other person? Can you still be with him/her even when there's this REALLY hot, smart, nice girl/guy who's falling hopelessly in love with you? Can you honestly say the same about him/her? Can you still trust him/her even when he/she was missing for a few days without news or explanation? Can you say the same about him/her? Can you both see yourself getting together at least once in a while, and eventually going to normal relationship? Can you both survive even when your buddies are all touchy feely in front of you? Can you both stop doing what he/she hates even when they're not with you?
If you answer yes to all those, well, you have a pretty good shot, and don't let anyone talk you out of it. But otherwise, I think... well... it's convenient to have a long distance relationship as an excuse to fend off persistent guys, but it's not going to last that long... Invest on a really good bottle of cognac.
Long Distance Relationship
and loads other, but that's the one that's alive for now.
To answer your question, I've been in a few. I ended up with one quite permanently, but that's a different story. I guess, you are mature enough to decide this yourself. In the end, you know what a relationship feels like. Now, imagine you, with all the restrictions regarding flirting, dating, etc, minus her being there (only online chatting and occasional visit), minus the jealous glare when you saw someone really hot, and a few hours on video chat every day.
Can it work? Yeah, one of what I did apparently worked, but keep in mind that at that point, it has become normal relationship, not long distance anymore. It started as an online relationship. We talked a lot, exchanged pictures, emailed each other, and then, he visited. We still talked a lot on the phone after the visit. A few months of him visiting every fortnight or so, he decided that he wanted to just move down to wash. dc with me, and he did. We ended up living together, and well... things work out :)
So, generally, can it work? Maybe. It depends on the person. How much do you love the other person? Can you still be with him/her even when there's this REALLY hot, smart, nice girl/guy who's falling hopelessly in love with you? Can you honestly say the same about him/her? Can you still trust him/her even when he/she was missing for a few days without news or explanation? Can you say the same about him/her? Can you both see yourself getting together at least once in a while, and eventually going to normal relationship? Can you both survive even when your buddies are all touchy feely in front of you? Can you both stop doing what he/she hates even when they're not with you?
If you answer yes to all those, well, you have a pretty good shot, and don't let anyone talk you out of it. But otherwise, I think... well... it's convenient to have a long distance relationship as an excuse to fend off persistent guys, but it's not going to last that long... Invest on a really good bottle of cognac.
Most long distance relationships bellyflop to hell because it's hard to maintain a relationship like that and not seeing any benefeits (ie like seeing the person, hugging, kissing, etc.). Besides it's hard to be faithfull when the person isn't there. It requires a lot of determination.
Not gonna happen if you ask me
i just believe that the person you love has to be by your side otherwise it's not gonna last for long
it's ok when your bf or gf has to travel somewhere for some time but to meet someone on the net who lives on another continent and than fall in love with him, that kind of relationship won't succeed
but if you meet someone on the net who is at least within your own country there could be something in the end...
i don't know i think it depends on the will of the ones who are in love in that way...someone will do everything to go and make that relationship real...
i just believe that the person you love has to be by your side otherwise it's not gonna last for long
it's ok when your bf or gf has to travel somewhere for some time but to meet someone on the net who lives on another continent and than fall in love with him, that kind of relationship won't succeed
but if you meet someone on the net who is at least within your own country there could be something in the end...
i don't know i think it depends on the will of the ones who are in love in that way...someone will do everything to go and make that relationship real...
I've never been in a long distance relationship. Many of my friends have though and it's never worked out. Personally I think I'd be able to pull it off, but I've never tried it.
Hard but possible.
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Anything is possible if the 2 parties put their minds into it. but with our kind of lifestyles nowadays, it's going to take a hell lot of determination. ther are some people who have no qualms about poaching other people's beaus, and you're just either going to have a lot of trust in the person, or be ready to walk out due to your own suspicions.
If by internet relationship, you mean one of those rediculous I-don't-really-know-who-you-are-but-we-talk-a-lot-so-let's-date sort of IM bf/gf things, then that is incredibly stupid, immature and not really dating.
And long distance relationships only ever seem to work when both parties are completely committed, cooperative and communicate well.
And long distance relationships only ever seem to work when both parties are completely committed, cooperative and communicate well.
Well, many people say long distance relationship is hard to maintain.
and most of them think that you'll be separated after a few months.
like, you cant live your life without a person that will love you and you'll love back.
people think that a relationship is strengthened when you have eachother.
like you personally see eachother.
but i think, what matters is that you both love and trust eachother.
and i can say, i it really, really, hard to be in that kind of relationship.
im on it now, and it is really hard.
we were together with my bf, and he needs to go abroad and live there.
like, damn, it was really hard to cope with that situation.
but now, i became used to it,
and eventhough there are many temptations, i trusts him,
and he trusts me.
it like, testing your love for eachother.
v(^o^)v
and most of them think that you'll be separated after a few months.
like, you cant live your life without a person that will love you and you'll love back.
people think that a relationship is strengthened when you have eachother.
like you personally see eachother.
but i think, what matters is that you both love and trust eachother.
and i can say, i it really, really, hard to be in that kind of relationship.
im on it now, and it is really hard.
we were together with my bf, and he needs to go abroad and live there.
like, damn, it was really hard to cope with that situation.
but now, i became used to it,
and eventhough there are many temptations, i trusts him,
and he trusts me.
it like, testing your love for eachother.
v(^o^)v
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I purpously haven't read any of the other posts in this topic. I'll give you my true feelings and opinions on a Long Distance relationship, as I'm in one.
They're tough. The girl, Heather, I met and began liking when she was living over here with me in California. After knowing the person and being with them, it's VERY hard. You actually have physical memories with the person you're with and it can hurt VERY much. However, the way you feel when you are reunited with them (even for only an hour or two) is well worth it.
You absoulutely NEED trust in each other If you can't trust each other, you will constantly wonder if they're being faithful with you, and may end up fighting because of this.
If you two truly love each other, then you should really try your hardest to be with your love. It will be worth it in the end.
I'd add more, but I need to go. If you plan on having one, good luck!
They're tough. The girl, Heather, I met and began liking when she was living over here with me in California. After knowing the person and being with them, it's VERY hard. You actually have physical memories with the person you're with and it can hurt VERY much. However, the way you feel when you are reunited with them (even for only an hour or two) is well worth it.
You absoulutely NEED trust in each other If you can't trust each other, you will constantly wonder if they're being faithful with you, and may end up fighting because of this.
If you two truly love each other, then you should really try your hardest to be with your love. It will be worth it in the end.
I'd add more, but I need to go. If you plan on having one, good luck!
Haven tried online relationships.. but in my humble opinion there should be a law against it.. I read a stupid story once where some idiot actualy dated his mom online (accidently of course).. :( doesn't get any more idiotic then that..
Some people have problems with trust even if they're 5 centemeters apart.. heh.
My Advise: One of you needs to sacrifice what it takes to be close to the other ^__^ optherwise just forget about it.. or you might end up hating eachother....
nekone041You absoulutely NEED trust in each other If you can't trust each other, you will constantly wonder if they're being faithful with you, and may end up fighting because of this.
Some people have problems with trust even if they're 5 centemeters apart.. heh.
My Advise: One of you needs to sacrifice what it takes to be close to the other ^__^ optherwise just forget about it.. or you might end up hating eachother....
*pushes his glasses up and glances at his turkey-napping wife*
Sheesh. I cannot imagine a LDR. Not being able to touch the person you love or look into their eyes except through a computer screen would be insane. Before my wife and I were married, she almost accepted a job in Seattle. I told her, even though it tore my heart to pieces, that if she wanted to take the job it might be best for us to separate. It just wouldn't be fair to either of us. What if she walked into a coffee house and fell in love with a guy immediately? Would it be fair for her to give up that love for a phone receiver every once in a while? Would it be fair to force her to leave half her heart in New York and go across the nation to work?
I would definitely want her to be happy in life, and if letting her find love in another man's arms would have made her happy, I would have done that. Now, I don't have to make that choice. She chose to stay in New York (not because of me, but because of her family), and our lives have been entwined ever since.
I have all the respect in the world for anyone who can cultivate a long distance relationship. It requires a trust and patience that I can't fathom. I can only say that I feel extremely lucky to have someone to hold and talk to at my leisure. Good luck to all of you who love from afar! Hopefully we will all have a cheap mass transit system soon so that you can visit the ones you love!
Regards, Aaron
Sheesh. I cannot imagine a LDR. Not being able to touch the person you love or look into their eyes except through a computer screen would be insane. Before my wife and I were married, she almost accepted a job in Seattle. I told her, even though it tore my heart to pieces, that if she wanted to take the job it might be best for us to separate. It just wouldn't be fair to either of us. What if she walked into a coffee house and fell in love with a guy immediately? Would it be fair for her to give up that love for a phone receiver every once in a while? Would it be fair to force her to leave half her heart in New York and go across the nation to work?
I would definitely want her to be happy in life, and if letting her find love in another man's arms would have made her happy, I would have done that. Now, I don't have to make that choice. She chose to stay in New York (not because of me, but because of her family), and our lives have been entwined ever since.
I have all the respect in the world for anyone who can cultivate a long distance relationship. It requires a trust and patience that I can't fathom. I can only say that I feel extremely lucky to have someone to hold and talk to at my leisure. Good luck to all of you who love from afar! Hopefully we will all have a cheap mass transit system soon so that you can visit the ones you love!
Regards, Aaron
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