Let me start by saying up front that this discussion is not new. I'm pretty sure it's been debated before, but I'm still intrigued particularly by how girls view this matter.

I know that "good" guys tend to be a lot more shy and thus girls probably don't notice them. However, I also know of many cases where the "good" guy is just as outgoing, friendly and witty as ever, but still fail to impress the girl he likes. I get the feeling (not saying it's true, but from where I stand it seems to be the case) that girls just like to go for guys who are rebellious and are otherwise "troubled". Again, not all of them are like that, but perhaps deep down whether they realise it or not, most girls DO tend to be partial to the "naughty" boys.

Do you know any such cases where the girl chooses a boy who's 'adventurous' but regrets it later? Do you have female friends who openly admit they prefer "bad" boys? Ever been one of those guys who had the same thoughts as me? Anyone have any opinion on this matter?

Lots of my friends have gone out with "adventurous" boys and have regreted it.I think that since bad boys stand out more they're easier to "spot", shy guys on the other hand, I belive can last a lot longer in relationships because it's more of a one on one you and me situation. From watching my friends go through these experiences It seems to me that bad boys are more hard to keep, I guess cause they're not as romantic and cute as my friends would like them to be. They're more like naughty and hot. Personally, bad boys do catch my eye, I would like go out with someone who's a bit more "calm". The kind of guys that look adorable and are sweet. When it came down to it I could really go either way, but I have to admit bad boys are easier to get in trouble with.

Well, those boys catch my eyes, but it depends on their personalities too.
One of my friends chose an adventurous person, but their relationship didn't work out well. But I also know a few with a steady relationship with their guys. I guess it's just a matter on how you relate to your partner.

Where i've been, i've seen alot of the "bad" boys are all the same...example: at the gym i go to, there are all these 'bad boyz' but they are all the same. How they dress, how they talk, (especially hair, for some reason; rat-tails are now in fashion) and what they do.

Listen to a song by DMX - good girls bad guys...it explains it all there

Well, I guess I shouldn't answer this post because I don't have much experience with guys.. but I think that in many cases, girls are attracted to bad boys. It is as if most girls want to try out a bad boy just once at least. Of course everyone has their preferred types. I never really believed that this was true until I went out for my own bad girl. I was never attracted to the type, but it might have been that she was the exact opposite from the love of my life of whom I'd recently broken up with. I think, too, a lot of girls think they can change him. I never understood that- why would you want to change something you were initially attracted to? ^_^

I reckon it works exactly the otherway round, boys feel atracted to bad girls, but it's kind of different when you feel atracted to a bad girl, you know what I mean?

The girls I know - myself included, because I'm also a girl - find bad boys alluring...ut not always. You can be a "bad boy" but still be "good" inside. When it comes right down to it, we prefer "good boys". :)
For us, bad boys are people we'd rather admire from a distance. We prefer to keep it that way.

kieselgurgh

I reckon it works exactly the otherway round, boys feel atracted to bad girls, but it's kind of different when you feel atracted to a bad girl, you know what I mean?

LOL... no. What do you mean? ^_^'

Well, when you feel atracted for a bad girl it is merely physical atraction, you just fancy about their body (mainly) but when you feel atracted to a "good" girl it is usually the personality what makes you feel atracted to everything else.

Once I heard a chick saying "there are 2 types of guys,: those that I want to sleep with and those who I want to marry me". And I've heard pretty much the same description from other females.

Am I clear this time?

I think there is a chance you might disagree with me but please understand I'm speaking a guy, anyway, I'm interested in your opinion.

kieselgurgh

well, when you feel atracted for a bad girl it is merely physical atraction, you just fancy about their body (mainly) but when you feel atracted to a "good" girl it is usually the personality what makes you feel atracted to everything else.

Once I heard a chick saying "there are 2 types of guys,: those that I want to sleep with and those who I want to marry me". And I've heard pretty much the same description from other females.

Am I clear this time?

I think there is a chance you might disagree with me but please understand I'm speaking a guy, anyway, I'm interested in your opinion.

I think you make a good point. And I agree with you to some degree. I have a little trouble with the quote that the girl said. But then, maybe that is what is wrong with marriage today. I dunno. ^_^

I always have a weakness with "dark, troubled" really handsome men...because for me they exude mystery, and for some reason I want to give them comfort. (man I'm too soft)

But naughty, two timer bad boys? Nah, even if they're the cutest guy on the planet, I'll definitely get violent XD

Woman/girls are just weird, and if you try to understand them, you'll end up in a nut house, cause nothing makes sense.

I remember seeing something on.. E! the other week I think (I think it was that channel) about the top 25 sexiest bad boys. Yes they are attractive because they're just so hot xD And you see many stories of sweet girls winning over the baddest boy's heart, but it rarely turns out that way in real life. The majority of bad boys have a "f*** her, dump her" attitude about them thats just repulsive =P

Perhaps to facilitate discussion, a better definition of 'bad boys' could be made. What I mean by 'bad boy' is not necessarily the way they dress or look, but rather the things they do and the kind of attitude they carry. I don't see anything wrong with dyed hair or cut-off jeans. But when they drink themselves silly almost every day, spouts cusses everytime they open their mouth and physically harm those around him, I find it hard not to label them 'bad boys'.

What I sometimes don't get is why a guy seems so 'attractive' when he's irresponsible, totally self-centered and selfish or in essence a total jerk. True, there's always another side to a guy no matter how bad, but when he's got a colourful history of dumping girls left right and center and perhaps even using force on them, it makes me wonder how he managed to break so many hearts in the first place, if you get what I mean.

Being rebellious seems to do the trick. It's somehow appealing and 'cool' to go against everything that we've thought to be 'good'. The 'good' guy who sticks to the 'straight and narrow' is just simply bypassed. I guess to a lot of people, 'good' simply equates to 'boring'...

Then the question would be, is being with a 'boring' person who treats you well better or being with an 'exciting' jerk?

I don't know how long could a bad boy stay a bad ass. One day everyone have to find work and I don't think employors like bad boys. If kids would know that a lot of good jobs won't take guys with an record maybe they would think twice before rebell against authority. When school age girls look for a guy they don't have a job title attach to them because they are still kids and they could end up as anything in the future. Assuming that the bad boy cut class a lot and don't study and was in trouble with the police, we give him his future job title, say he is a landscape architect. Than would a girls want to date a gardener or someone with a better job. So the good boy shouldn't worry about losing the girls to bad boys. Once they all grow up they will come around, just hope that the girls is not all used up. Many sexually active girls have to check for sexually transmitted diease and cancer annually. I don't know how school girl now a day come up with the money for the exams or tell their parents they need the money for this because of that. However I think girls these day are so independent they don't need to found guys with nice jobs, but still it would be nice to date someone with money than without. Sometime I think maybe the bad boy is been use by the bad girls.

I don't know if girls know this but some bad boys wanted a nice girl for keep and bad girls on the side. Thats why I told my bad boy friend that he being seifish thinking he will keep messing with the bad girl now and will marry a nice girl later.