Sooo i need help

and i dont know how to help them

i am christian soo i do pray for them but i wanna help them more

the person that gets abused doesnt want anybody to know (his girlfriend doesnt even know!!)

the other is just really depressed cause people are makin rumors about her and the person that started them is her ex-best friend. unbelieveable!! the ex-best friend is the guy's girl friend (the one that gets abused)

HELP!!

thanx

-xKoroNekox

How old are they? Is there any relative they can go to? You should convince them to look for advice of some autority represetative.

Sounds rough, I recommend some advice.

For the person with abusive parents:
Convince the guy to tell his girlfriend. Then, let the guy talk about what the girlfriend has been doing, the rumor thing, and tell him to compare it. Be like, "When you spread rumors about your ex-bestfriend, it's like me getting abused by my parents. It hurts inside for your ex-bestfriend, and it hurts outside for me."

If you don't like that, don't use it. This situation seems a little rough, sort of hard to think of how to fix it.

Ok mate this is what god made the police for and for the rumors a good a** kicking will work joking i dont know what to do for the rumors

The best way to work with the rumors and changing them to make them look like a badge of honor instead of something embarasing, tell me what it is and i`ll think something out.

later, revenge must take place, of course, bue violence doesnt solve anything (even if it feels so damn good, still they wont learn) so do some special treats to those bastards, better than rumos: Reality, they must got something.

as for the abuse, how bad are we talking about here? age? is he getting hitted? how often!, my dad used to beat me up sometimes... but i deserved it, i totally respected that.

Oww no! If the abuse is really bad then someone has to tell kind of autority. It's very important to take action if it's serious. The situation could get worse the longer it's held off.

Don't look to God for help, do it yourself or tell others like your parents or teachers or any adult in the school.

Do your friend a favour and report the abuse, legally and ethically is see no other choice.

Okay, if the abuse is out of hand ie Black eye, bruises along limbs as such and constantly appearing then seek someone with authority at school, can be consellor, principal, teachers, youth worker or the police if you see brutality. However don't think of involving friend's parents as such, that just complicate matters further. As for rumours, let them wash over, the over your friend shows that he/she is effected by this, the more fuel and the more people will see the rumours being true or close to the truth.

What they said. If someone you know is being abused, tell someone you trust...But be tactful as well. Don't try to take charge completely of the situation...
Rumors are rumors are rumors...They're not true, and that's all. If people believe them, so what? Live so that no one will believe the rumors, and they'll see how shallow they've been.
Good luck, man. Rootin' for ya. :)

Abuse? get an organization called. Talk about it with your friend, even if he doesnt want it to be known to anyone, his life will get better if he does so right?
I would call myself if he didnt do it himself. Even if that might cost me his friendship, it's the best for him. Though I would let him know that I would be there for him anytime

Thats just childish stuff between the two girls...its about time they start talking to each other and settle things between each other...thats all i can say, tell them to talk to each other or something so theres like...a peace between them!

and your friend...he cant hide things in...and not even telling his girlfriend! he needs to see a counsellor or you have to help him...

If you report the abuse to an adult in most sates here at least in the US they are required to report this to DHS. I am not sure what they do in foreign countries but I assume they have human services or police that would do something. If the person spreading rumors is still in school report this to the school counselor and they will use the schools anti-bullying policy to clear it up. More than likely though if your friend is going thorugh the issues with the bause investigation the girlfriend should be too busy helping him to continue to start rumors--if she isnt then she is worthless to begin with and your other friend should just confront her directly and tell her to grow up. If she is using the internet or any media device to spread rumors-report her and have them shut her down.

For your friend that is being abused, I think you need to talk to him about the situation.
I am sure he is afraid of telling someone about it, but you need to reassure him that it is important that he tell an adult you trust or even the police because that IS NOT how people are supposed to be treated. He might be reluctant at first, but if you offer to go with him and stick by him it will make it much easier. Alot of times, people that are being abused might feel like it is somehow their fault or that they deserved it. This is false. It is never right for a person to abuse their child/spouse/family member EVER.
If he doesn't report this, then you need to.
They might not know how to stop being bad people, so if you inform the authorities your friend doesn't have to be abused and then the parents can try and take steps to either get counseling or if they cannot be redeemed then your friend shouldn't be around them anyways. It's hard because I'm sure your friend thinks that his family cares about him, and if they really do then they will work harder to become better people.
I hope it all goes well, please let us know.

If your friend is really abused, then try to convince him to talk about it to someone he trusts. I don't think that it will be good for him to tell his girlfriend, since she is spreading bad rumors about someone else, I do not think that she will understand anyway... sorry for saying that, but I personally would not trust someone like her...
If your friend has any relatives to whom he could talk without being afraid, then try to support him and to entice him to do it.

How old is he anyway? That's quite important to know... Is he able to talk about it to someone else except you? Is he feeling guilty about what is happening to him (actually many people especially children develop some king of guilty feelings toward that kind of situations)? If it is the case, try to make first understand that it is not HIS fault, that could make him able to talk about it to someone else.

I think that he should talk to some relative first, and try to see if that relative is ready to take him for a while if he is planning to tell the police or something like that, besause he would not be able to stay at home if he does so. Then try to get informed about how this kind of cases is treated by the police or some specialized organizations.

That's all I can tell you for the moment. Good luck. But please take it easy and don't stress yourself too much about it because if you do so you won't be able to help him at all. Inform us of the situation as soon as possible please !