For a few years now I've been living around one rule: don't care about something if it doesn't affect you in anyway.

I came to this realization after watching one of Russell Peters' video on YouTube, where he says he doesn't give a damned about gay marriages because it doesn't affect him, but, jokingly, he says he's more worried about same-sex marriages because his family's origin is Indian.

It took me a while but I'm totally used to it now - I try to only care about things that affect me with some exceptions. I can't always do that obviously. If I see children sitting on a bus with their mom I'll try to speak without any swear words. Situations where I care about others is the main exception to this rule, I find. But overall, as a general rule, I try not to let things that doesn't affect me bother me.

It's kind of a double-edged sword. At first, I realized that if I filter out all the stuff that would normally make me angry but doesn't affect me right away I wouldn't feel offended by it. On the other hand, when I do see someone who cares how many times Britney Spears gets pregnant it really irritates me, unless they were her relative or something.

There are countless examples I can draw where this "rule of life" has helped me. Just about everyone says the car I drive (2008 Subaru STI) is ugly as hell. I've come across dozens of forums, blogs and websites (ie. YouTube) where people have said that, yet, because I don't care about what others think because I think the only gains I can get out of people's opinions are constructive criticisms I completely mute out their opinions. Heck, the same car was on the show Top Gear and Jeremy Clarkson completely hated that car, yet, because I know just about everything you hear from Clarkson is a joke and Top Gear isn't meant to be taken seriously, I still love his show.

People's opinions are just one thing I generally try not to listen to unless it's constructive criticism. I realize that I have to be careful with what I do and do not care about because I feel I will make a huge mistake if I ignore something that I do need to care about.

I think that's my general idea. Now my question is, is this "way of life" or "rule of life" overall good or bad (keeping in mind it doesn't always work)? Sometimes I question whether or not the way I live is right or not, if I will change in the future, if other people share the same views as I do. Shout out your constructive criticisms lol

I think that peoples' opinions about you or your life might not bother you, but that the people themselves are what really annoy you. You don't understand why people are gossipy (in regards to the Brittney Spears example you provided) and meddlesome and it's that you find bothersome. People hate your car? You don't seem to mind. And you're pretty freaking polite if you're taking the trouble to watch your language around children, because last time I checked courtesy and apathy are mutually exclusive. You shouldn't forget that everything has the potential to ultimately matter.

Care to someone else huh?
For me, i won't care.
Why did i said like that?
DID they gonna know if i was in trouble ? DID they gonna know if i was sad and help me? Never.....

Someone care to us have a special "reason" and i don't want if someone help me with something "reason" that will make us in trouble.

Frankly, i don't expect too much from them.

If you care too much about people, they'll keep coming to you with their problems and involving you in their lives. Sadly enough, they won't give back that same concern when you're the one in trouble.

I have some special people that I like very much.. so I`m care about them. It`s my best friend and my family.
I cann`t say that I ignore other people. I can help, can listen about their problems, but I don`t worry so much about them.

I totally agreed with Erineth
except my parents my aunt ,
they care for me but' hope nothing in return

I dont care about anything or anyone except anime
though thats a problem xD
like at school when my "friends" are talking about rumors and those things
uggh
i tell them not to tell me
i dont care about rumors, what good will it be to hear them :S
some also tell me anti-social but just ignore, ignore...
ignoring is the best method to avoid things you dont care about :O

yoselin12

I dont care about anything or anyone except anime

Now this is sad. How is it even possible to have anime not only as your prior hobby but as your only hobby in your life?...

Goship! Do that! You are a person and a person's nature is to goship about things that happen in their community. Ignoring your "friends" makes them care less and less about telling you the goship and one day you will realise they wont be refering to you anymore. Then will be the day when you will realise that you are alone. Being alone sucks and it is never someone else's fault, it is yours and only yours. You get to pick your friends and enemies in this life, if you place everyone in the latter group you will end up having a miserable life.

yoselin12

ignoring is the best method to avoid things you dont care about :O

Ignoring people in the way you mean it is just and easy way to fake your willingness to fight about your interests. Go there and voice your opinion or you will end up in that cyrcle of goship and it is not really great to get talked about...

"Ignorance is bliss."

I am a person that only cares about itself, its thoughts and that which poses some interest. Due to that, I adore Haruhi, she's so damn awesome. However, I take this to the extreme, meaning I ignore almost everything that doesn't seem interesting, which is small talk, strangers, reality, etc. Blaming it on hedonism.
I do like to throw some ideas under objectivity sometimes, though this happens in my head. I also do act the hypocrite when forced in society (meaning only school, where I lately developed a burning passion for my PSP). It's a pretty bad thing when I word it like so, but I can say I'm satisfied with how I'm living at the moment, even if most around me say it's wrong.

SWhisssper

Ignorance is bliss.

I myself used to be a hardcore gamer. A hardcore gamer is person pretty anti-social, arogant and ignorant.

I was lucky enough to have someone who showed me the way out of that mess. I know how hard it is to leave that "perfect" world you live in but there are things out there but need to expirience.

My girlfriend was the one who pulled the question after 2 months of patience and understanding. "Me or the games?". THEN i realised that all that was a fake world of limited satisfaction and i went like "WTF am i doing?".

I had a girlfriend and i didnt go out with her, isn't that stupid? I don't mean that you can't have good times in games and anime but the fake feeling of superiority will fade when you are finally forced to go out ot the society.

Thanks to my girlfriend i am now as social as possible, having no complexes and scrubles about myself or waling up to a stranger and talking to them.

What i think you need is a good friend, one of the opossite gender would be the best, they have their ways of making you realise how special you really are. Then you will realise that you don't need all that fake stuff to fill up your ego and feel superior.
Self-Development gets you far. You can change the whole world but first you need to change yourself.

Depend on the situation.

satoushigeki

depend on the situation.

I totally agree. It really does depend on the situation and the circumstances

Insults...

I've learned to not care, I've been insulted a fair share as well. The majority of my life, about many things. I've learned to just ignore it and pass by, however, even by ignoring it a small amount of pain still remains. There are things you should care about, and things you shouldn't. You shouldn't really take notice to comments that are out to offend you, just ignore them and keep going. However, you shouldn't just 'not care about anything that doesn't affect you.'

An acquaintance is crying on the street, does it affect you? No. As a good person, should you to the very least ask what's wrong? Probably. Most have come to ignore anything and everything that doesn't affect them positively.

Your friend is getting bullied, does it affect you? No, not if you don't want it to. As a friend, should you do something about it? Yeah, if you care for that person as a friend.

Rather than "I don't care for anything that doesn't immediately affect me." It should be, "I don't care about people's opinions about me."

Someone above me said something along the lines of... "Even if I show them care, they won't show me the same care in return." If you care for someone expecting something in return, you're 'trading' rather than giving. Getting something in return isn't the right motivation to care for someone.

I think that ignoring other peoples opinions is wrong, everyone should have the right to have a opinion of there own so that we can discuss them and find out that everyone is different.

I have been a person which liked to care for people even though I didn't really knew them, opening doors and helping people with stuff even though I didn't know them was fun I thought. But lately humans have become so ungrateful when I open a door for a old woman which has a hard time walking she walks through the door ignoring me totally and after that people just continues to run through the door so that I can't let go of it because I don't want to hurt anyone. Suddenly I have gotten the job of holding the door for everyone and no one thank me instead if I try to let go of the door they look angrily at me.

I don't care much any longer now days I do the stuff people do against me because if I care for them they will behave bad against me.

How much do we need to care, maybe enough to put us in our right side. well, we do need to live by our own rule and the thing that makes us the real "us". still, there's a moment that we need to hear others as well. it's is required in order for us to adapt but not to the point that it changes us without thinking. you need to deal with others and stuffs that is important to you.

since we all have our own perspective, and we are capable of reasoning, then our actions must also be reasonable. it's okay to live the way you want without any limits to what you wanted to do, but would you really do so if you're overstepping boundaries. if our actions doesn't concerned others, no need to hold back then except if that's what you really wanted to do for yourself. either you care for others first or you're an island, it's still you.