I have been looking that most of all are teen around here, so I want to read your ideas, I'm a mom and I was a teen too, and made many mistakes, and I never talked with my parents because I was afraid of them specially my mom. But now is very different, I don't want to make the same mistakes and I want to my babies trust in me, talk with me, to help them to no make the same mistakes I did. So I'm still on time to learn how to make that. That's why I want your opinion.
Thanks for your future answers

I listen to them as long as they don't 'attack' me on something I did wrong in my life. I just want them to support me with whatever I do, and make me learn from my own mistakes instead of preventing me from doing sth wrong.

As for being afraid, there are a lot of things that would make you afraid so I can't really answer it, but the reason I am kind of afraid is because they always seem to judge me if I do something wrong while I KNOW what I did wrong, even though I know they just want to help me in most cases. So I don't know, I don't have children yet but, I'd let them make the mistakes themselfs just to let them experience the bad side of their decisions. Well, unless it's life threathening :/ I WOULD tell them my experiences, but only to give them at least a good inside of the decision. Like on smoking, if they want to smoke, it's fine with me, but I do tell them it's very addictive and it destroys your lungs, but if you don't care go ahead. :)

Hope I helped you a bit at least, and tbh I actually find this thread interesting ^^

Thanks gh4z, you are right tell them the mistakes I did when I was young. Sometimes when you are a parent you want the best for your children

I've always trusted my mom and dad. :)
Even when I was young, they'd never let me off without an explanation - like when I wanted something we couldn't afford, they'd say "You don't need that right now," or, "We can come back for that later." And they always made good on their promises; if they can't there's always an explanation. That's one point: explanations. I'd not trust my parents if they did things seemingly for no reason. I understand that parents have to keep some things secret from us kids, but heck, even an explanation like, "You're too young to understand right now," was always good enough for me. :)

Listening...I always listen to my parents. I don't think I've ever outright disobeyed them. XD I guess it's because they'd listen to me as a kid; even when I'd say I was afraid of the dark because I'd just finished watching a horror movie, they'd not laugh at me or ridicule me. They would just listen and offer all the usual reassurances...What really enabled them to respect them is that they still respect me. They don't try to pry into my secrets or anything, and even now they always listen. We don't even fight with each other because we always make it a point to talk before jumping to conclusions.

And finally, what really helps me respect them is that they're honest. Everybody has to lie at some point, I know, even my parents, but I'm glad they try to be honest with me and my brother. They always give us honest opinions ("Do I look stupid in this outfit?" XD) and try to keep us from making mistakes, even if the truth might hurt. But they're still not afraid to admit their own shortcomings and, um, idiosyncracies. :D And above all, I respect them because they're not afraid to show their emotions - like telling us they love us or saying sorry. It's the little things like hugs and saying "I love you" that mean a lot. I KNOW it sounds tired and sappy and overused, but really, it always feels good. :)

What's not to trust? They have experience in a lot of the things we might be feeling and anything they tell you not to do or advice most have some value to it. I'm lucky my parents always listen to what I have to say and that they are always positive about things. So, I truly trust them in almost any case. Well, as for being rebellious, that is something a bit different, thats a wanting for more freedom i'd say.

There are not many people i trust. I may trust my parents, but i do not always listen to them.

Because I don't have the same kind of loving, good parents as most people, it is hard to say that I trust or listen to my mom. I only trust that she will always be the same..

She never really talks to me, does anything for me besides pay tuition, or even gives the type of love you would expect from a mother(no "i love you"s or hugs or any type of affection) so it is hard to put her in a good light for me.

._. If she does decide to say things to me it is usually negative, so I try not to listen to her actually..

Thank you so much for all your answers, think if I want to be listen I have ti listen first, seems that I'm in the correct way, think

In my case I don't listen to my mom and I've never needed to cuz she taught me to manage myself without needing help from others.

I see it as really good thing...
I've never needed to ask someone for advice in my life and I'm not afraid of asking for help when I need help..
But I'm the kind of person that doesn't get help cuz I'm the one helping.

It depends significantly on your children. The reason being that, I, as a fellow teenager (a unique one, I may proudly exclaim) listen only as long as the information that the opposing party tries to feed me is logical. Otherwise I put it into my 'myth' folder found deep within my inner cave.

Explain to those brats of yours step by step, the results-- if the action is made, the results-- if no action is taken, etc. Also, this is also an important part, the past, present and the future. I'll leave the meaning to your imagination. History--a clue.

I trust my parents and do listen to them.
But my parents are not always my favourite people. They ignore the fact that I do everything they say and that I'm a good child and continue to pick out the terrible things that I RARELY do and over-exaggerate them. One time I was just hanging out with my friends at the park--there were 4 girls and one guy who came out of no where--my parents saw, since the park is right next to my house, and they refused to speak to me for a week, and a for a month I was treated like a bad child. Why? Because apparently we looked like we were doing drugs (which they should trust me and KNOW that I would NEVER do that) and because there was 1 guy there. As if we were doing anything--we were talking innocently in the middle of tons of people.

I am grateful that they teach me whats good and bad in life but at the same time I think they need to loosen up a little bit. They think I'm Satan and do terrible things and WILL do terrible things but if they looked at other kids my age I know they'd eat their words.

I listen to my parents, but it doesn't look like they take my opinion into consideration. Often times I am at odds with my parents as to what is the best direction to take via something. Mom contends that she has had experience, and it's the same thing for my Dad, who seems to have a fetish for destroying video tapes of all shapes and sizes.

If I were taking all this into perspective, I think it is part of the overall plan to trust in myself. Sometimes, I don't have my parents to give me some sage advice, and in a few decades, I know I will have to trust my own decisions. My mom and dad are out there to set me up to make the right decisions, and I listen to them. They just don't admit it.

But that's my mom and dad for you. Smashed video tapes and all.

Trust my parents? Yes i do.
Listen to them? ...No i don't. Reason being is that they care about me... over the top. i'm grateful for them being so kind but i feel like a bird trapped in a cage. We need more freedom! My opinion is believe in your children, love them, free them, be them. =]

The times when I was pissed off at my parents can be counted in one hand.

Me and my brother find it very hard to listen to our mom, considering the fact that she (used to) go crazy on alcohol, (used to) smoke cigs (and pot), as well as go out and about alllllllll the time. And the fact that she's on her third marriage at the moment.

But we love her because they got us through the tough parts of our lives and made us who we are right now.

Of course, we don't tell our parents everything, but they don't need to know everything, eh? =p

My teenage years are long gone. So you'd know.

My parents are very important people in my life. So it's obvious I trust them. Kids trusting their parents becomes clear when they realise the children are the most precious things for the parents.