I wanted to knwo what you look for in a person. In terms of being...
a friend,
a gf/bf,
a spouse.

I look for a person who is kind and trustworhty as a friend.
As for a gf i look for a girl who can be passionate, always energetic, and fun loving.
A spouse, not even their yet lol but i jsut put it in there for the older folks on AP!! :)

In a boyfriend, I'm looking for maturity, sweetness, and humorous. As for a spouse, eh..not thinking about that. For a friend, fun to be around with, caring, kind, cool, and understanding..

Hmm. Quite easy if you ask me. Kindness and some other things that catch my eye. Basically I don't like seeing rudness, bratiness, or some other thing.

A friend - someone who is semi-smart, someone I have fun with, and they won't pressure me to do anything life threatening.
boyfriend - someone romantic, trustworthy, loves me for who I am, and makes me feel happy!
a spouse - someone I can trust, someone who can handle my weird quirks, and will love me unconditionally and our children if we have any.

(btw, I don't have a boyfriend or a spouse)

Something in common so that we can base our friendship/relationship with that one thing we share.
Common belief - religion, tradition, culture, etc.
Something not in common so that we get to know each other and find each other's uniqueness.

For girlfriend material, just a girl who can love me for who I am. I'm a little too much to handle and I tend to be a little psychotic, so the girl needs to be patient and tolerant. She doesn't have to be the smartest or the prettiest or completely standout in a crowd. All she needs is an honest heart.

A friend... must be a willing to talk and approach and does not let me do all the talking. If s/he just sits and listens quietly, I can only presume they don't want my company.

A gf... must be pretty much the same, but gives some booty. :D

A mind...

A friend - a person who I can trust, who I can talk to easily, who knows that I won't tell them everything about me but also knows that it doesn't mean that I HATE them, and someone who I can hold at least one intelligent conversation with.

A boyfriend - a person who has all the traits of a friend, but who cares about me, will be willing to be there whenever I need him, someone who I can love, and someone who is kind, sweet, and thoughtful. He doesn't have to be absolutely perfect, but to me, my boyfriend is and all these things and more, but I won't list all his traits. =X <You know who you are. ^.~ ~>

A spouse - [I'm not here yet either, but wth] a person who has all the traits of a friend and all the traits of a good boyfriend, someone who will stay by my side no matter what happens, and someone who I'll never lose my feelings for, and just someone who'll love and care for me until the end. Simple as that ~

For a friend- i look for someone who i can get along with well and have laughs and good and deep convos with and someone who i know is trustworthy and doesnt ditch me when i may need them
For a boyfriend- [including the same things i look for as a friend] and respects me, is thoughtful and sweet and faithful, but not really sappy, is honest with me, and maybe not "love me with his whole heart" love but just loves and cares really deeply for me
For a spouse- [same thing as friend/bf traits except >] does love me with his all his heart and who i can spend the rest of my life with

There are several characteristics I look for in a significant other: one who is compassionate, loyal, faithful, modest, honest, cute, interesting, and intelligent. Of course, a person bearing all of these attributes will be considered my �??ideal�?�, but I suppose the chances of me finding someone like this is quite slim. Haha�?� Well, if anything, I would like to find someone who is similar to me in beliefs and interests. You know what they say: opposites attract but similarities bond. =)

Friend - There must always be an element of betrayal to a person before I really feel as if they are a friend. They don't have to stab me in the back in a demonstrated case, I just have to feel that there's the possibility they would for whatever reason. In fact, one of my greatest friendships was based solely on the fact that we were fierce rivals at first, and then learned to cope with each other.

I don't think this is unique to myself, any learned person can tell you that past and future enemies can make the best friends. It's just more pleasant if they were enemy first and friend second.

Aside from that bit, I can befriend nearly anyone, but few become real, true friends. In John C. Maxwell's Today Matters, he mentions a statement Dr. David Van Hoose, a college professor, proclaimed in a Psychology 101 lecture:

"If you have one true friend in life, you are very fortunate. If you have two real friends, it is highly unusual."

Girlfriend - With the state of the world as it is, I sometimes wonder if anybody really even considers what they are looking for in who they are dating, at least aside from physical attractions. Even in all of my own self-righteousness, I realize that physical beauty plays a large part in any attraction toward a girl that I develop. It is a fact of life hard-coded into our very beings by the nature of being homo sapien.

So yes, to be honest I am looking for a visual beauty. I'd like to say I can do without it, and to some degree I can, especially for just casual dating, but because I don't casual date, I want to date someone whom I think maybe I could continue to look at for the rest of my life. In terms of this, I tend to prefer a nice, healthy length of hair. I am not attracted to a girl physically if her hair is too short (and yes, that's vague, I'm aware of it). I can see their beauty, but it's not something that works for me.

There's a certain soft pleasantness about the face that I have to feel when looking at her, particularly when she smiles. Sure, there are seductive beauties with hard cold looks, but it's only a matter of fantasy that makes them look good. Once again, I think of this in terms of not just a girlfriend, but a girlfriend whom I might consider more of later on. There has to be something about her that is more than just a little exciting physically, without it being pure lust.

Along with that, I will never date a girl out of pure lust.

Personality and character...each person is an individual no matter how many other people are so similar. If I were to lay out something very definite, I would be betraying the chances of true love. True love doesn't look, it realizes. This goes, of course, to all the aspects of a member of the opposite sex; physical, sexual, intellectual, moral, etc...

If you're constantly looking for anything too specific, you'll set a standard far beyond, or maybe even in the opposite direction of what your heart really desires, and whom you were meant to be with. Yes, I'm a firm believer that every person has one true love in this world, and if they allow it to be, they will eventually meet up with that person and share a wonderful life.

To return to personality and character, I guess they have to be someone I just jive with. A combination of similarities and differences. It's so much easier to feel that a person is what you desire than it is to really describe what you are hoping for.

Spouse - Admittedly, I've already sort of answered this with my girlfriend response. At 19 years of age, I don't think I've really considered marriage yet to any degree. I've dated 4 (in a few days I'll hopefully be able to say 5) girls. I could come up with a lot of idealistic desires based on my reading, films I've watched, people I've observed, but I think this is one of those situations where you really need to be careful in setting any concrete expectations. Certainly you want a certain amount of committment, and you want someone you desire greatly. But as I am now, I don't think, in the interest of love, that I have any right to say what I'm looking for a in a person to marry.

Friend-- someone i can talk to for ages... like forever... ^^... as long as were both having fun were both good.. ^^
bf-- uhh... ditto... someone whose really sweet and will make me soo happy and will give me lots of sweets... nyahahaa... uhm.. i really have no idea... i dont really mind if he's not the best-looking as long as we love each other i guess thats fine... i really dont know.. im too young for this... ^^
spouse-- really am waay too young for this... im not really thinking about this stuff as of yet... im not ready yet.. ^^

All are equall to me, and I really want to like the persons attitude, behaviour. Looks isn´t something that needs to be good.

And since this, I have alot of friends. Even female friends. But there is noway I can get any of them to be my gf. Which is a pity.

One thing I would like for a gf to understand is my obsession with games/anime/manga. And maybe sometimes I want to try some stuff that is weird for us Europeans... Cat-ears and such...
yes, I´ve played to many erogames and watched to much anime.

Friend- easy-going and talkative
Bf - responsibility, maturity

Friend: I look for tolerant, easily humoured, smart people with an eccentric taste in friends.

Boyfriend: He shouldn't be talkative. It would be best if I don't need to speak to be understood.

Spouse: Someone with whom I can be blind to all of his imperfections. That, given that he must be smarter than me, and taller by at least two inches, so that he can be leaned on and cuddled at will. Must be good in bed.