Yes, funny as it may sound, I came across this topic in my head when I attended a high school friend's wedding last week, it was the most touching ceremony ever, his wife is beautiful, he was looking swell and he is at the tender age of 22.

He has a great job down at the OSK, stockbroker or something like that, quite well to do, and he has some great ideas ahead for how to start a family.

I was in my head wondering why oh why, do I not have a high school sweetheart to share that joy he is having now?

In this thread, we should talk about our delicate plans to become a father after we got married, you know the likes of naming your child, what you wanna do, what you gonna teach little Timmy, how many dogs, how many kids, and so on.

For me, I was thinking about mine and this is what I thought:

I want to have like 2 children, one male and the other female, the children will be called Devon and Ariel, don't ask me about the chinese name yet, but I might decide to change.

I would send them to my old school when they are ready, and at the tender age of seven, I should teach them how to swim as I have learned then.

I would show them the joys of enjoying anime and learning to appreciate old things, they would be exposed to not rap or stupid hip hop, but instead artists who even lived before my time, Little Richard, Bruce Springsteen, Police, Bon Jovi, U2, and so many others, I would teach them to appreciate the finer arts of music and the joys of anime.

at the age of 15, they will participate in the great activity known as debating, they will learn the arts of talking and if they are interested, I am sure they will become far better than me, having spend my days in idle day dreams and chasing after pointless victories.

I shall never hurt my children, they will become my heart and soul, and I will always think twice before giving them any sense of punishment, including slapping and whatsoever, it is always important for me to know my place as a loving parent and a smart parent.

Even in times of bleak hope, I hope to provide them with education, not the kind parents nowadays strive so hard to provide, but the education in how to become a person, a better person, ample moral knowledge and I would teach them the finer points of atheism. (that is even with the objection of my wife). They should learn not to lean so close to a God, that even in the events when we know it is hard to fight, we should be thinking of how to create hope for ourselves and stop praying for a miracle.

They always say you can't hope God to help you if you don't help yourself.

I would teach them that, and assure myself that I shall never force them to take up piano lessons, or learning how to draw, unless they are interested, I just want them to be happy, and they should always be until the day when they leave my care to be independent, when they should be responsible for their own pride and joy.

I guess I will continue the great day dream as you guys go ahead and tell me what you will do for your fatherhood.
Go ahead, say them out loud, it may be early, but it won't hurt.

My oh my, you sure have given it some thought. I don't think that I've given it much thought, I know that I want to have two kids. One boy (Alexander) and one girl (Jasmine). I like Alexander because whenever I say it, it makes me feel like he can do great things (like the Great Alexander). I picked Jasmine because of the movie Aladdin mostly. Jasmine was a princess in the movie and my little girl is going to be my princess. My children will know how to speak Spanish and they will know about their heritage and where their ancestors came from.

My son will be a very honorable and respectable person. He will never be mean but he will not be pushed around. He will know how to treat girls and women. I will teach him how Latin men are supposed to behave and he will be proud of who he is and who is family is. He will know how to take of his family. Work to bring in money, Clean, Cook, and Laundry. Everything a man is supposed to know in order to take care of not only himself but eventually a family of his own.

I picture myself being over protective of my little girl but at the same time understanding. I know that I will be like this because it's the way I am with my little sister. She is the world to me and I hate it when I see guys staring at her, checking her out. Yet at the same time I know that she is growing into a woman so whenever she tells me that she likes someone, I tell her to be careful because I know how guys think. She will know how take care of her family. She will know how to cook, clean and do laundry and help support the man that she loves. She will be able to take care of herself and eventually her own family.

That's as far as I got because becoming a father is not something that I am striving for right now. I would like to be married for some time before I have children. It would be really awesome to become a father but I'm not gonna go out and get some woman pregnant just because I want to become a father. I want to be with the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I want to be sure that my children will not be brought into this world only to have it crushed by divorce or something like that. As for as schooling, religion and other stuff, I'm not sure. I'll just take it as it comes I guess and I'll have tons of help from the mother.

OMG!!Omni you sound soooooo cute!!!!you will be a great dad!!and husband!!Omni please marry me!eventhough i don't think i deserve to be your wife............*sob sob

Eventhough I am not a guy. I don't want to be a mother. I got my reasons for not taking children, I like kids ofcourse, just not want one.

Yes, I will love to, especially with my actual gf she seems like the perfect mother *^^* I've always tought that I would like to have a boy to teach him how to use a katana at 10 and how to shot at 12 but now the idea of having a little girls is taking over, gf influence? most likely =P

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OMG!!Omni you sound soooooo cute!!!!you will be a great dad!!and husband!!Omni please marry me!eventhough i don't think i deserve to be your wife............*sob sob

LOL, don't say that, I am just going through an early midlife crisis.
Speaking of which, how do I marry you lol?

Yes, I will love to, especially with my actual gf she seems like the perfect mother *^^* I've always tought that I would like to have a boy to teach him how to use a katana at 10 and how to shot at 12 but now the idea of having a little girls is taking over, gf influence? most likely =P

You are gonna teach them how to shoot and kill at the tender age of 10-12? Freaking hell, some parent you are. I am talking about being a good parent, not exactly a kind who did take his kid to primary school or McDonalds and do a Quentin Taratino.

My oh my, you sure have given it some thought. I don't think that I've given it much thought

actually, I have given much thought because I actually as far as I may find it hard to believe, hates the thought of having a permanent marriage, I don't like to settle down so fast, but if there is something there that makes me here to stay, I would.

Speaking of which, you seem to have a lot of care for your future daughter, which is great, as I know, most fathers care more for their daughters than their sons, is there a special reason other than what you already mentioned?

I would care for my daughter a lot as well, I would really like to assure her that she will become a lovely lady, I should take care not to always invade her privacy, but if I don't I fear the worse of the world could taint her purity and her personality.

I actually see much bleakness in the future where education is corcerned, with the world being on the fast track of cultural change and all that, I would really hate to be seeing my daughter being exposed to sex drugs and rock and roll before the right time where she could take the responsibility of her own actions and behavior.

Heck, i do hope that never happens.

I would love to protect my angel, but something tells me that is really hard for a father to do.

Eh eh eh :D :D :D...
I'm 36 and i'm a father of 5 y.o. boy.
His name is Federico.
It's a wonderful thing!
It's beautiful to be a father.
Every day is not the same with him.
But it's hard too!
My wife and me are trying to teach to our son the good and the bad... the right and the wrong.
We try to do our best to make him a good person (or the good as we can).
But life is hard...
He will do his experiences, he will hurt (like all of us) but he won't give up... he must keep on... goin' on through good and bad times... this is what i will tell him about life.
Now he is still a child and the only important thing is: have FUN.
For the rest there's still time.

I can’t wait to have kids. (Actually I can wait until the time is right I’m not going to have bastard children) In school I have always been some what of a nerd/geek and can bee extremely sarcastic almost to the point of being a real jerk, because of these reasons I am apparently seen by most of those at my school as the guy they all can't see ever getting married or having kids. Time and time again it blows them away when I say I cant wait for kids. I think about it much of the time I spend daydreaming (which is a lot) and have come to some conclusions about what I would like to do as a father.

For the ideal situation I would love to have twins, one boy, Johan (love its sound), and one girl, whose name changes periodically and I haven’t been able to nail it down recently. I just try to imagine the concept of a small life ready and willing to lean that I can attempt to mold however I see fit. Sometimes I worry though that I see it as too much of an experiment and not enough as a real human life to have a child. For example. I would love to have a boy and a girl but if I had to have only one it would be a girl. They are so much more interesting to me than a boy. I was an only child and for obvious reasons of being male, was never able to experience what female goes through in early child hood directly or indirectly. This is why I really want a daughter to see how she develops and grows. Plus I will never consider my life complete until I scare away a boy friend.

I know these are all coming off as incomplete thoughts but this is what now. IT will surly develop itself more in the coming years.

-Flem Sneezy

Father??You are really cute, I am not sure whether I will become a mother.....

Aaaaaah no kids noo

I'll only seriously think about having kids when I'm both financially and emotionally capable of doing so. Until then my only hope is that I can be half the father that my dear 'ole dad has been to me.

Well of course, I am not asking any of you to consider seriously in jacking up a girl and taking her into the marriage office.
You must take time and I am sure you all have plenty.
It is a scenario you know what I mean, I just ask you all to discuss what you will do if you will take on father hood.

"In life nothing's certain...you'll never know what will happen"

a line taken from a song.

Well, i havent really thought about it...i mean, having a daughter could be good and bad (i think loli is cute so my daughter will be loli right?). But im too much of a bad person to ever find a girl...probably. And heck i dont want to nor do i have the guts to get one.

But man Omnidevil...i was quite suprised that these are one of the things that have been going in your mind. Its quite sensible really...and mature XD

A few years back I didn't see the reason for getting children. My oppinion then was that they were only in the way, stealing pressious time and money from you.
But a year back I started working as a kindergardenteacher (no education ofcourse) and I must say I loved the job. Kids are so full of joy and energy and it sure is contagious.
I love the kids at my work and when they left kindergarden for school it was very touching, even for me.
So considering how much I liked and cared for those kids I can just immagine how much I will love my own kids.
I don't have any speciall things I want my kids to be or do. Like watch anime, play computer games, and so on. I'll let them find their own interests and help them out in any way possible.
What I will do though is try to teach them that there is no difference between the sexes. I won't give my son a room with blue walls and only let him play with cars and my doughter a pink room full with dolls. I think it's important that we don't force our current gender roles onto our children. If my son wants to wear makeup and play with dolls that's fine with me.

When it comes to names I can for some reason only come up with girl names, so I guess I'll have to leave the rest to my future wife :P
I would like to have two children(I think) gender doesn't really matter. If I would get a doughter I would name her: Myra, Yrla or Tindra (all somewhat odd swedish names).

And just on a sidenote it doesn't matter to me if I'm married before I get kids. It doesn't matter if I get married at all, but if my wife wants to get married sure I don't have a problem with it. It's just not that important to me.

(i think loli is cute so my daughter will be loli right?)


And just on a sidenote it doesn't matter to me if I'm married before I get kids. It doesn't matter if I get married at all, but if my wife wants to get married sure I don't have a problem with it. It's just not that important to me.[/quote]

I think marriage is a serious question for most people, their wives often demand marriage when they have children, commitment is much to what a man would say... a social responsibility when you have children.

Of course, you can always subject to alimony, but I don't think it is right for a father not to be close to the family. An occasional case where the wife stays away from the husband even after they are married is rare, or families choosing to be together but living say separate rooms, just until the child is ready to take on life individually.