I'm always told that marriage is a wonderful thing and it shows how much you love your partner, but think of this way, How long does an average marriage last? Marriage cost money and since an average marriage last about 2-7 years, people get divorced and a divorce cost even more money than a marriage. So, I don't think people should marry because you already know your in love with your partner.

So, do you think people should marry?

I haven't married someone yet. But I plan to get married one day.
Well, divorce is not something that happen to everypoeple, right?
My grandma and grandpa already married for more than 50 years now. My mom and dad, more than 17 years.
Sharing our feeling and love is not wasting time or money.
I personally think that love has higher value than money.

But, there is a friend of mine who already plan not to get married forever ^^
And that's because she loves Shane ( Westlife ) and Kurapika more than any other guy ^^;

People should get married because it's a symbol of love. People shouldn't marry someone else if they don't love them, or if they think their love will get broken by affairs or cheating on. Personally, I think marriage is a risk, but as sad as it is, some things don't last forever, but when given enough love to want to keep it alive, I think marriage could work for some people.

I prefer not to say that they or we 'should'... To know when the best option is to get marry or not is up to you. If you find someone you really love, that loves you back, why not? It's not gonna be a waste of time or money. You are just showing the other person how much you care about your relationship, that you want to spend the rest of your lifes together.
Now, there are people that really think they are happy and have a good life only because of their families and friends, and they don't think they should get marry to be happier. So, i can't say to this person 'you should get married', this isn't right. It depends on the person. Some people that are only by theirselves sometimes show how much they need someone. Then i can say that MAYBE he/she should get married.
Anyway, talking about me, i plan to get married someday. I don't believe that i'll stand to spend the rest of my life all by myself.. and would be good to have someone that important by my side. But i'll get married just when i'm sure i found the right person to be with me.

Love or money. That is what i see. Yes i should marry if i really love a woman.

Yes, I will marry. People don't really date anymore. People don't spend the years to actually know a potential husband/wife. They feel an immediate attraction and decide to marry after three or four months, then they realize they are marrying someone they don't really know and that they were actually incompatable.
Also, people are becoming so materalistic that they spend more time getting more money to get more stuff than nurturing their relationships.

Well if i love then i m will to take the risk of marriage. No one can tell what destiny or whatever have in store so to try and second guess destiny or gods is purely trouble. Beside if you love your partner enough then it stand to reason that you should take the step.

It depends on the individual. Yes it's a wonderful and beautiful thing, can sometimes be bitter too, so in short bittersweet?? >.<
Anyways, everything has advantages and disadvantages. See how you look into it. If you're into money, don't spend them on marriage(s) then. But if you really love the person, it's worth it to live with the person for the rest of your life. Yea, why not? (I like Hilary Duff for her song, 'Why Not' ^^) Money is not an excuse to avoid marriage.
By the way, marriage is not to show how much you love your partner, and a lot of marriages last very long. Not everyone gets a divorce.. Like my parents? Grandparents? Like I said, it depends on each individual..
If you ask me, there is no such thing as to 'should' or not. It is up to the individual. And for me.. Hmm.. I don't know if I'll marry or rot being single.. *lol* I just have to y'know, see first.. When I think it's time and I really love my partner, I might say, 'I do'!xP
If you think I'm talking crap, kick me... >_< Sorry! *runs before its too late*

.. melissa

I think people should get married just beacuse it's happy! even though it costs a lot of money the feeling of being married is worth the money. if it end up in divorce then...too bad. but i think it's worth if you really wanna do it.

Deoxys114

I'm always told that marriage is a wonderful thing and it shows how much you love your partner, but think of this way, How long does an average marriage last? Marriage cost money and since an average marriage last about 2-7 years, people get divorced and a divorce cost even more money than a marriage. So, I don't think people should marry because you already know your in love with your partner.

So, do you think people should marry?

I spent 37 years of my life loathing marriage with a passion. I'd seen my mom married and divorced 3 times, my dad married 4 times, my sister marry and divorce and my aunt commit suicide after and due to her divorce. That will put a damper on things. Plus, I had a lot of fun just having sex with a lot of women :)

Ironically, I had only known my wife through the internet, but after 3 months of talking--BAM! I paid for her to come to the US and we were married in 10 days. To make it more interesting, not only was she a virgin, but we didn't first have sex until after being married for 3 months. After almost 3 years, we are still married, and divorce won't ever be an option--we are too crazy and no one else would have anything do with either of us.

How's the above for a righteous, "WTF?!" I literally woke up one day in Jan. 2004 and said, "I'm going to change my life and get married," and I did. As cavalier as that sounds, though, I believe strongly in the marriage covenant.

As for cost, well, I beg to differ on which is more expensive. When I was single, I was responsible for only myself and spent money like mad. Getting married was the best financial decision I ever made.

Is marriage for everyone? Nope. You have to be WILLING to undertake the responsibility and not give up on that resolve no matter how bad it gets (and it WILL get bad at times--worse than you can imagine). As the cliche goes, "If you can't handle the heat, stay out of the kitchen." Is there any age requirement? Nope. Everyone is different and handles the concept of marriage based on their own set of values. I couldn't have gotten married at 18 like my wife, but for her, it wasn't a problem or issue.

I don't know if people should marry, but I know that they should have the possibility of marrying, as it is now days.. =] If it just keeps being a source of problems it will eventually get out of use... ^_^ As for me, it's one of my dreams, so I'll try once I find the right person, and it's not a dream because I think of it as something perfect, but it's just that the idea of sharing your life completely with the one you love most seems good enough. ^^

I don't care about marriage. I am againist any kind of marriage. Whether gay, straight, alien whatever marriage. Just unncecessary for marriage.

True, marry someone it is up to you. If you want to . If you want to show your love, Just show your love. I think that is enough than marry. Let love each other.

Marriage has I believe only two benefits... one, depending on the circumstances of the relationship. 1) Marriage is good for the whole legal aspect (this could also be a disadvantage), if anything happens to your partner (knock on wood); then it adds a sense of security afterwards (I've seen family take all the assets of the couple and leave the non-married spouse with anything, even if the spouse has been with them for a lifetime). 2) Religion / Morals, some people hold out on sex after marriage. You can see how marriage benefits this, due to the fact it isn't going to happen beforehand.

In reality, marriage doesn't make you love someone more; you should have the amount of love before and after the marriage (unless you believe love grows over time, but you can do this as an unmarried couple as well). Marriage is a symbol of saying "I'm only yours" and tells others that you are already taken; though cheating does break this rule. Marriage is a lot like dating/bf/gf, except the break up takes a lot more time and legal issues (due to the fact that most marriages are only lasting as long as long term relationships).

So basically marriage is only as good as you make it; you can do the same thing as a unmarried couple, all depending on how you feel about it. In the end, I agree with marriage, it is a special event that you can bring your friends and family to, and show that you do love the man/woman that you are with.

*twirls his wedding ring thoughtfully*

You don't have to spend a lot of money to get married, but that's not really the issue here and I understand that.

Divorce is always a threat when you get married to someone. It's natural for people to cool off or make a mistake in choosing a "domestic life partner". Stella and I agreed that we would do a pre-nuptual agreement to protect each other in case something happens. Not that we wish that it does, but weird things happen to people as they get older. Our pre-nup is pretty straight forward. What's mine is mine and what's her is hers. Whatever we share, we split. If we own a home, we sell it and split the money. Whatever we have in our lifetime fund retirement plan is split. We love each other very, very much and neither of us feel as if we could live without each other even if things aren't going as well as we want them too. However, staking one's life on someone else's whims is a fool's gamble. That said . . .

Marriage, as I've said on other threads, is a mixture of three things:
1) You agree, publicly, to be physically exclusive to your spouse. It sounds archaic, but I feel a lot safer knowing I am the only man that Stella sleeps with. Cheating can kill you both or at least make you very miserable.
2) You agree to support each other financially and mentally. Free back rubs and knowing that if you lose your job you won't lose your home take a lot of the stress of life away. It also helps to have another person around to smack you in the head when you're drooling over a 60" TV to replace your 50" TV.
3) You agree, publicly, to not kill each other. You are saying to your partner that you are willing to put up with tripping over their clothes in the middle of the night or waking up with no blanket. Even though you own a crow bar, you promise not to use it in anger.

That's pretty much it for us. We have rings made out of Tungsten alloy, since it is the hardest metal you can buy. It's a little reminder for us that we want this thing to last as long as we do. My fingers will rot away some day, but this ring will last forever.

Regards, Aaron

Hmmm.. Marriage.. As I know, there are some kind of marriage.. As you watch on TV.. 1st mean is for money.. Hehehe, you watch lot of Drama movie, and you will know why I told you so.. Hehehe! 2nd is the symbol of love! Hahaha! This is the main reason for marriage, in my opinion!