Umm is it worth it to still maintain you relationship to that certain person or is it better to break up with him/her? so guys and gurls wat do you guys/gurls think is it worth it or not?. For me its not because its way better to end it on the spot than making it longer the longer you guys still together the more pain you guys will suffer thats my opinion how about you ppol?

I think it´s way too difficult to live that way, maybe a friendly brake up would be better than not seeing the other person... that´s the way I look at it

Well, I know long distance relationships are possible. It really depends on the people involved and how much you really care about each other. If you think it's more painful to be together in this type of relationship, then you need to end it. But you and the other person can decide differently and you could work it out. So, really, it depends on what you really want to do.

I really think that long distance relationships are basically the same as the regular relationship, just more personality is displayed between the two.

Long-distance relationships can work, I have no doubt of it. A friend of mine left for Italy today to get married in a couple of weeks. He's been in a relationship with his girlfriend there for 5 years already. Now you have to be honest and admit to yourself right away that it will NOT be easy. And you'd better be more than 100% sure that the person is worth it, and you both have to have unwavering trust in each other. If either person is missing any of that it won't last very long. However, if both people truly believe in their hearts it's worth it, and will make the sacrifices needed to be certain that things work out, they can and will.

I find it not very reliable, you can say that you're still be with the person over long distance but really you're with another person.

personally, i refuse to do anything over long distance. it's not consider love if you cant see each other and do things with each other but talk on the phone or what not.

Long distance relationships never work out. For one: HOW MANY PERSONS ARE GOING TO ACTUALLY STAY HONEST WITH EACH OTHER. Two: there's no flirting involved, no hugging, no "actual" kisses no nothing. All you do is talk and occasionally one of you would come down for a visit or two but after awhile you'll just move on.

Long distance relationships never work out. For one: HOW MANY PERSONS ARE GOING TO ACTUALLY STAY HONEST WITH EACH OTHER. Two: there's no flirting involved, no hugging, no "actual" kisses no nothing. All you do is talk and occasionally one of you would come down for a visit or two but after awhile you'll just move on.

Well, you don't need flirting, hugging, or "actual kisses" to maintain a good distant relationship. Who says you need to do that? ;)

Long-distance relationships can work, I have no doubt of it. A friend of mine left for Italy today to get married in a couple of weeks. He's been in a relationship with his girlfriend there for 5 years already. Now you have to be honest and admit to yourself right away that it will NOT be easy. And you'd better be more than 100% sure that the person is worth it, and you both have to have unwavering trust in each other. If either person is missing any of that it won't last very long. However, if both people truly believe in their hearts it's worth it, and will make the sacrifices needed to be certain that things work out, they can and will.

Wow... what a great topic... I had a boyfriend from Michigan before coming here, and we were perfect together. I wouldn't count on a long distance relationship unless you both cared enough to work hard for it. Even though we're long distance and care a lot about each other, he broke up with me to see other people here... It was a good decision, but I really felt like I could have made it work. Anyway, we still feel like we're together when I come home to visit... So it isn't a big deal for us, but I know sooner or later I'm going to find someone else and forget about him.

Also I was wondering if anyone knew.. like I have negative papers now and I know it's from them rejecting my wall, but I'd kind of like to know why they rejected it... any way to find out? (pm me please!)

If I were ever in such a situation I would suggest a break up as long distance relationships are very unlikely to work out, and I would rather end the relationship there rather than have drag on with both parties' relations souring...
If we really resonate together well, I guess it would work out, but I would still break up with that other person because if either him or me were to be unfaithful to each other it would hurt the other party. We both could spend the time away single, and perhaps realise that our relationship is special, or that he is the right one, and after that perhaps we would come together again.. ^^"

A friend of mine just broke up with her b/f the other day. She started going out with her boyfriend shortly before she moved to Santa Barbara from San Francisco for school..broke up with him when she was back here for Thanksgiving break. If absence does indeed make the heart grow fonder, I have yet to see evidence of that.

Well.. i'm currently in a long distance relationship.. O.o and i do truely believe it'll work...

it's REALLY REALLY hard at times b/c you don't have that physical closeness that you once did. And sometimes you're both very busy so talking can get very low...
but it depends on each person's personality, devotion, trust/honesty, and visits. My bf and I want to get married when i graduate college ((he's in Fl and i'm in NY)) so of course breaking up just b/c we're kinda far from each other is kinda dumb O.o.
He's currently working almost 10-hour days to save money so he can move up to NY in a year.. and i'm in school. But we truely trust one another and are completely honest with one another. I'm not a party girl and he works a lot and doesn't go out a whole lot, so that elimates a lot of worries from "bad situations". We talk everyday from b/t 20min to 2hours total I have a digi camera so he can see pics of me, and he has a camera phone and sends me pics of him that way. We text each other during the day as well. So even tho we're far, we still keep in very close contact ((which is a must for us)). And as for the lack of physical closeness, well you can kinda figure out a couple ways to get kinda close >.>, so it's not too horrible.
we've been apart for 4 months now (we were together for almost 2 years before i moved), surely that isn't crazy-long or anything but i can honestly say that i am VERY clingy so it was definately a shock! And we both agreed that if we cannot see each other very much then neither of us could work thru it... but i spent a lot of time with him before i left, then i saw him 2 months after i'd been in NY, and will see in 25 days again..... B/c when we're apart, i do get lonely when i spend even just a few days with him i feel completely confident about us!^_^ it helps a lot b/c we do have future plans of us together rather then just "dating" or something which i'm not always sure if that's worth being in an LDR.

so it can be done!.. but for those who don't have a lot of strength, trust, and devotion then it's very hard. And if you go out a lot ((to say parties)) where you're around people who are having fun and hitting on ya then being "taken" would seem more like a "burden". and a relationship isn't gonna work when a person thinks of it THAT way. And it's compromise as well, both should take the time to write and talk to eachother howevery much they need to. And it cannot be one-sided; even if you're completely devoted, if your partner isn't then it REALLY WILL cause a lot of heartache. And if there's all these "breaks" taking place then that's really showing insecurity and doubts that can't be afforded to have in a long distance relationship. And if the couple hasn't been dating very long (less then maybe 6 months) then it really may not be worth it unless you know that you truely love the person ((and not just infactuation)). BUt even if it's true-love, the personality of your partner could make it end :/

so it really just depends. I've read about lots of couples that deal with military partners where they BARELY talked at all and held out for over 5 years, and others that end up cheating and lying to their partner who's too gullible O.o.

Long distance relationships definitely are hard (trust me-- i have past experience) . anyway, the break-up hurts less i gues (we weren't even going out though..) anyway, just being friends form faraway places is hard enough. i don't recommend them but they defintely are possible. it's possible to love someone no matter how close or far they really are. i find lon-distance realationships to be a pain in the Axx though.. i think if you call adn e-mail it's not always enough-- that you have to really be there for each other.. adn the stuff in tjhe bedroom . hehe :) anyway, yes they are possible and yes you should go for it if you really love them, but no they don't always work out like you thought they would. :(

I personally think that if you have a friendly breakup it would be better than to have a really long distance relationship. First reason is that in the many days/weeks/months/years that you dont see each other, your personality might change and might not be suitable for one another. Besides if you are friends and you end up coming back into contact with one another, a relationship might restart, only a possibility. Overall, its better to break up but keep a friend to friend relationship. Like the chatting and stuff like that. If not you will forget about each other and one day when you meet each other at some random place, you will be like "have i met you before?" and the other will be asking the same thing...now that would be awkward.

It depends, is the person worth it? If not, brake up. Now, this gets me thinking...how do long-distance relationships work?
How do you know they are honest with you? They could also be with somebody else WHILE talking to you! It just won't work.