Well i'm deathly afraid of my dad dieing and i want to tell him about it but i don't know how to bring it up.. and i'm also scared about what he will say when i tell him about my fear... what should i do.. can i have some adivce?

First of all why are you afired of your dad dying? and just tell him I'm sure he will understand.

I'm afraid of my dad dying cause he's like.. the closest friend i've ever had.. he's always been there for me.. and listened to be when i needed someone to talk to.. he's been like.. my perfect best friend and dad

That's a typical dad. Don't worry, I'm sure he'll know you care. :P At least, that's what a dad is supposed to be. o.o"

No doubt, one of the best friends that we have in this world is our father. He is usually beside us in happy and hard moments. So, itâ??s normal you are afraid of losing him. But, donâ??t try to hide this feeling and talk it to him. Because I think of a relationship between parents and children we must maintain an open speech. :D
Bye... :wave:

Well, I don't have the same experiences as you for I don't know my father. But my advise to you is to tell him out straight about how you really feel. You said so yourself that he is someone you can talk to, so I think this is something important that he would listen to every word that you have to say. You shouldn't be afraid, you'll feel better once you tell him because I'm sure he'll cheer you up with his words. I wish you the best of luck then.

i'm afraid of my dad dying cause he's like.. the closest friend i've ever had.. he's always been there for me.. and listened to be when i needed someone to talk to.. he's been like.. my perfect best friend and dad

thats not what I meant, I meant somthing like "did somthing happen to him"

Oh.. well since he's 52.. and i'm 13.. and well he's getting old.. and can't do as much as he used to.. and i know it's normal and all.. but he has diabieties.. and i'm just.. scared he'll get like.. a chest attack like he did last time.. and he won't be able to contact anyone T.T

I know this is kind of off but. this reminds me of a MTV show that was aired not too long ago. about compulsive disorders and phobias or what not. there was a girl on there that was afraid of her mom dying or rather the thought of death and loss. during the show they tried to get her over her fear. they had her mom donate blood while the daughter was watching and stuff. and towards the end the daughter was given the task to do an open eulogy or something like that. (kinda weird when your saying it to a person that is still alive) well thats the gist of the episode... dont really remember to much about, it just reminded me of your fear is all.

Well first of all...If you don't fear the death of your dad. You're probably a total dick. Well that was a waste of a first post. Either way, your dad won't be offended by it.

It seems you and your dad have a close relationship so you shouldn't be afraid to tell him how you feel. There's never a right or perfect moment to talk about death - you and your dad should sit together in private and discuss how you feel. Start out simple - tell him how much you love him and how much he means to you then tell him how you feel about his situation and how you're afraid to lose him. You should be more afraid of not telling him until it's too late (hopefully this will never happen).

I know what it's like to have someone close to you be diabetic. My mother-in-law has one of the worse case of diabetes - she's constantly in and out of the emergency room and on dialysis every other day. Sometimes we think that she won't pull through but she does. Have faith in your dad - I'm sure he's a strong man and will make it through each struggle.

I had to go through the deaths of my two grandmothers in 2005. One was on 20 June 2005 (old age) and the other was on 31 December 2005 (old age + diabetes). I was very close to them when I was small. They pampered me a lot. And it's not like their deaths were sudden. We kind of expected that they will pass away soon seeing their condition and age.

Death is inevitable. All we can do is accept it and move on. I'm not sure if this is your first experience with the passing of someone close, but the saddest moments will only be during the initial hours of passing and during the funeral. I'm not sure if you are doing a Christian, Buddhist or Taoist funeral due to the period between the passing and the funeral. For Taoist and Buddhist funerals, the cremation is usually 3 or 5 days after a person has passed away. During the period in between, there will be chanting and reciting of incantations by close family members (led by a Taoist/ Buddhist monk or nun). So, the saddest times will be when you see the deceased last face (in the coffin) and when you follow the funeral procession to the crematorium. I understand that a Christian's funeral is a very fast process.

Oh...the second funeral will always be less sad as compared to the first no matter how close the deceased is to you. It's because yu have already felt the bitterness of a person passing away and have developed an emotional resistance to it.

Anyway, I digress. If you are afraid of your father passing away, my only advice would be to spend more quality time with him. That way, you won't regret anything once it happens. Everyone is afraid of death and I'm sure your father understands that you too are afraid.

Just talk to him, im sure he will understand...yes spend more quality time with him, dont be afraid...yes im afraid too, but what else can we do? people will die someday...just the time...dont worry, not only you afraid of it, im afraid of it too...

What dias said makes a lot of sense. The best thing you can do is to spend more quality time with him. Let him know that you care about him now that you can, so you won't have anything to regret should something happen in future. Just make the most of what time you have right now.

Wht dias and joylyndasaid makes really good point,
right now your dad wants you to be out there enjoting your life to the fullest befor you grow old and your afraid of him dieiny ,
so how about spending your lovely teen years with your father ^_^
my dads 50 now and im 13 too,and even if your dad has a few illnesses i hope you two can spend lots of time together and have lots of fun together ^_^