Wow it's been a long time since I did a thread this question has been on my mind for a long time now and I have always wanted to no what others thought about the topic...In our quick fix instant oatmill society everything is fast paced and we never really slow down and think about things..most girls my age (16 and up) all they think about is boys and what everyone else is wearing..when were this age we want to find love and someone we can devote our time to but can you really put an age on loving someone?..My best girlfriend and I both agree that you can't put an age on it...that if there is a 8 or 9 year age difference it doesn't matter just as long as your truly in love...now granted we don't believe that 12 year olds should be dating or seeing 18 year olds or that 17 year olds should be seeing 35 year olds because there has to be a limit some where.. but it's not really anyone elses concern if you love that person or not..I'm more then aware of the law and what most people think about this topic and most people who voice there words on this are adults so I want to hear what teens my age think about it..girls and guys...love is such a hard thing to find these days now that teens have started doing "friends with higher limits" I think that everyones true goal in life is to find someone they can be happy with and who understands them...in any relationship there has to be four things..1-Comunication...2-Respect...3-Common Intrest...4-Trust...without those things there is nothing but mindless *cough* sexual situations...but if you find someone who has all those things but is a bit older or younger and you fall in love is it anyones place to say you can't? ...I want to no what anyone thinks about this topic...thank you in advance for replying^^

Yeah, i agree with you! ^________^ Cuz i, myself, have a crush on a guy that's 3 or 4 years older than me! Shhhh...don't tell anyone! Hehe.

After you turn 18 and are deemed legally mature/sane in society, you can love anyone you want and the law will protect you. So wait it out. -_-

To be blunt, before the age of twenty one most people I knew were still too immature for any form of permanent relationship (some even after that, myself included). Age does matter... Four years difference when your 16 is a big deal (you 16, him 20). Four years difference when your 20 is less of a big deal (you 20, him 24). Four years difference when your 24 is irrelevant. You'll live a long time.. get to know yourself a bit more first. Trust me, you and the world around you will change in quantum leaps before you hit 21. At the very least hold off t'ill your sure what your feeling is reciprocal (i.e. his feelings towards you match yours). Take your bloody time... you have an abundance of it. (aka, listen to puppychow)

I can say a lot more, but I'd rather not get into it more than that ^_^

Well, it has already been pointed: as long as you don't pass certain limits (AKA pedophilia), it's OK.

It all depends on the maturity of the couple and the love they feel for each other.

Well as for older, i would say that it's only possible if you're 18 and over. but for younger, that depends...either it's the big difference or not if that person is probably 3 to 4 years younger or about there, i think it'd be okay, (since i know some who has) but if it's wayyy younger than that, than they'd be on their own figuring that out by themselves. lol ^_^

The years , really make no difference , my parent are 9 years appart in age.............and tey bine marryed for like 20 years so . i dont know :)

In my mind.. again doesn't matter when it comes to love. Love is from the heart.. so.. there really isn't any purpose for age to matter. When you think about it, most people don't act their age anyway.. some are more mature.. some are not..
I'm not really saying.. go out and get yourself a 10 year old. That's fine.. if you love someone way younger.. but the number age, I believe is more in set for sexual purposes. A mentality of a child doesn't completely comprehend sexual matters.. so, I can understand why some people look the wrong way at that..
But, love from the heart.. doesn't necessarily means you have to have sex with that person..

Well, I guess my point really is.. no, it doesn't matter when it's love.

Normally it depends on the attitude of the person or the maturity level. Some who are already past 18 but are still not very mature minded because of the way they grew up. Age can be a factor in the long run cause it might become a problem if they will have children,meaning how old will they be when their children is at a growing age and will it be enough for them to teach their child the right values plus the experiences cause they learn more from it.

I agree with most of what's been said already, but I'd go further and say that the age of sexual maturity is entirely subjective. For instance, I live in England, where the age of consent is sixteen. Many people lose their virginity before then. However in some parts of the world it's as low as twelve, and I believe in some parts of America eighteen or higher. If I went to America and had sex would I suddenly be too young for it? It's all about when you personally are ready for a sexual relationship, and I would say the same about relationships with large age differences. One man's poison and all that.

*~Pips~*

sanzosgirl19

...in any relationship there has to be four things..1-Comunication...2-Respect...3-Common Intrest...4-Trust...without those things there is nothing but mindless *cough* sexual situations...

*cough* tooo .....

Ok, just kidding. This is a question I'm not able to answer to... I don't care loving business and it is a long time I'm not felt in love with someone else... I'm not interested to having any kind of romantic relatioship with anyone... But I personally suppose there are no age limits talking about love... Maybe you must be 14 or older for feeling a mature love, but the age differences between the two lovers are not existing...

I think it's an unfair judgement to put any kind of age limit on mature love. It all depends on the person. Some people might never feel mature love.

*~Pips~*

Yeah, i agree with you,Maybe you must be 14 or older for feeling a mature love.
My point really is.. no, it doesn't matter when it's love

Pippin4242

I agree with most of what's been said already, but I'd go further and say that the age of sexual maturity is entirely subjective. For instance, I live in England, where the age of consent is sixteen. Many people lose their virginity before then. However in some parts of the world it's as low as twelve, and I believe in some parts of America eighteen or higher. If I went to America and had sex would I suddenly be too young for it? It's all about when you personally are ready for a sexual relationship, and I would say the same about relationships with large age differences. One man's poison and all that.

*~Pips~*

The 18 and over thing in america is refering to adulthood. So if your over 18 and have sex with someone under 18 your ass gets thrown in jail.

If you are a 16 year old kid and have sex with your 16 year old girlfriend. I don't think you will get into trouble. Also i think its like 16 or 17, depending on the state. Now it some girls over protective father got a lawyer. He could get you on something else.

andricon-girl

In my mind.. again doesn't matter when it comes to love. Love is from the heart.. so.. there really isn't any purpose for age to matter. When you think about it, most people don't act their age anyway.. some are more mature.. some are not..
I'm not really saying.. go out and get yourself a 10 year old. That's fine.. if you love someone way younger.. but the number age, I believe is more in set for sexual purposes. A mentality of a child doesn't completely comprehend sexual matters.. so, I can understand why some people look the wrong way at that..
But, love from the heart.. doesn't necessarily means you have to have sex with that person..

Well, I guess my point really is.. no, it doesn't matter when it's love.

I think saying it's from the heart, while true, is also too idealistic. Love is a mental commitment as well, to care for/about the other person. Marriages in America fail because no one commits anymore, because they alway feel the option "Oh well, I could just re-marry." as a second choice option. Too many people bail out on love/relationships because they become dull for a time. Love isn't always fireworks, its endurance. And that comes from the mind as well. I believe the most important thing is mental maturity. Physical maturity is a necessity, so I'm not goin there. But if someone is mentally mature enough, and their body is grown, then I think it's ok. The question is what defines mature? Hundreds of years ago 12-14 would be fine, and honestly, it was, because at that age women knew enough about the world, what to expect, etc, in order to be able to deal with these things. But nowdays (in America's social spectrum at least), we have kids (yes, kids) graduating high school and college, without ever having have to experience an even near-full range of deep emotion. So if you find someone who has the mental capacity to find and look at love/intimacy objectively and honestly, then I believe they are mature/old enough for love/sex/relationships. (In america, this rule doesn't apply much, as we have a massive stock pile of air heads (guys and girls mind you)).