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How forgiving are you?
1 year 6 months ago
Well, a close friend of mine came to me in tears recently. Someone she trusted so much betrayed her and hurt her real bad. That wasn't the first time that person did such a thing to her. To us actually. I was betrayed by that person a couple of times too. Yes, a 'couple' of times. Honestly, for me, i'm not an angel. If the same person kept hurting me...one after another...again and again. Well, i couldn't just forgive and forget it all. Even if i did managed to forgive but still i couldn't forget what he/she did to me. Sorry, but i just couldn't do it.
How about you? What do you think?
How about you? What do you think?
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1 year 6 months ago
I give everyone 3 strikes and they are out. I forgive, but I never forget. They would have to do something really amazing to get my trust back, and even then I doubt I could give it to them. Sometimes people do change though, but in my experience it's very rare and not really worth the effort on your part.
Trust always leads to betrayel
trust hurts...
betrayel kills.
I fount that line on one of my wallpapers,no human is perfect, if someone betrays you and asks for forgivnes , grant it, if it continues to happen, youl need to seriously lecture him. Tell him what he/she is doing is wrong, and if that person still continues, just give them their space and go on with your live. No one needs negativity.
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Hm... Ling. Sorry if I've never known that you have such a sad experience...
For me, yes, If I were betrayed like that, I would give an apology. But I'll try not to make the same mistake. In other words, just give him some precious lesson so he will change his attitude. But if I had another choice, I'd like to leave that person and find someone new.
For me, yes, If I were betrayed like that, I would give an apology. But I'll try not to make the same mistake. In other words, just give him some precious lesson so he will change his attitude. But if I had another choice, I'd like to leave that person and find someone new.
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DathmarI give everyone 3 strikes and they are out. I forgive, but I never forget. They would have to do something really amazing to get my trust back, and even then I doubt I could give it to them. Sometimes people do change though, but in my experience it's very rare and not really worth the effort on your part.
Oo...I think there are people who might have made careless mistakes in their lives and hurt others unintentionally...I think i would prefer to forgive and forget...this makes my life easier, coz there is nothing tugging on my heart whenever I think about that person...I let go of things pretty easily >.<
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3 strikes? how nice of you...
I was never betrayed fro my friends. My entire life has taught me not to trust someone easily, so the thing I HATE the most in this world is being betrayed by someone I actually trust. I hate betrayal so much and I am not an idiot to get hurt again, so I will not forgive that person. I might accept his apology and be nice, but nothing he will do will regain my trust again.
I was never betrayed fro my friends. My entire life has taught me not to trust someone easily, so the thing I HATE the most in this world is being betrayed by someone I actually trust. I hate betrayal so much and I am not an idiot to get hurt again, so I will not forgive that person. I might accept his apology and be nice, but nothing he will do will regain my trust again.
1 year 6 months ago
It depends on what the person has done, exactly.
I mean, in my case, some things can be forgiven - perhaps even more than once. But yeah, I'm a "3 strikes" sort of person, too. No one should keep betraying me, or else they're in for trouble.
If I choose to forgive that person, well, this might sound mean, but I think it'd be best if you made it look as if you were doing the person a favor. "Look down on someone only if you are helping them up." If nothing else, it'll keep them from trifling with you in the future. It's happened to me a few times before.
Or else if you can't really forgive them, just stay away from them. If your anger builds up, you might end up doing something nasty, and you'll be the one who'll have to apologize later on.
I mean, in my case, some things can be forgiven - perhaps even more than once. But yeah, I'm a "3 strikes" sort of person, too. No one should keep betraying me, or else they're in for trouble.
If I choose to forgive that person, well, this might sound mean, but I think it'd be best if you made it look as if you were doing the person a favor. "Look down on someone only if you are helping them up." If nothing else, it'll keep them from trifling with you in the future. It's happened to me a few times before.
Or else if you can't really forgive them, just stay away from them. If your anger builds up, you might end up doing something nasty, and you'll be the one who'll have to apologize later on.
1 year 6 months ago
ToegaY-kUnHm... Ling. Sorry if I've never known that you have such a sad experience.
Hmm, well, i'm an easy-going type of girl so pretty much nothing would upset me too much. Ok, if something real bad did occur then i guess, the longest i would moan over it would be a few days then i'll get over it. Um, everyone has sad experiences..hehe. Um, one more thing..i'm not the one having these problems now you see. I just, well, i want to see what you guys think.
3 strikes? Hm, i gave him about 20..maybe more. Still he kept doing it. He kept making fun of us. Oh, to be exact, he humilated us in public...YES, in PUBLIC. Phrase: 'Think twice before saying anything'...NOOO, he probably haven't even heard of such a phrase. Apparently he's so incapable of thinking before acting or saying anything that he's super famous for his biiggg mouth.
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When I don't know somebodys character I let people doing and observe, and I see many things I like about them an others I really dislike... After some time I have enough idea about who I must trust and the trusting point I can reach, and who not.
If somebody betrays me... it means I didn't make a good job. XD
If somebody betrays me... it means I didn't make a good job. XD
1 year 6 months ago
Nope, after the first betrayal, nothing is forgiven ![[#]-(-_-) emoticon](http://static3.animepaper.net/images/emo/redcard.gif "[#]-(-_-) emoticon")
. I was stupid to trust that person again. Hmmm, funny thing was, I was like 10 years old give or take. Kinda young to distrust all people.
. I was stupid to trust that person again. Hmmm, funny thing was, I was like 10 years old give or take. Kinda young to distrust all people.
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It depends on what the person has done, exactly.
agreed
Depends more on the reasons the other person had to betray me in the first place.
I'm not that foolish to think I'm not capable of bad things myself under certain circumstances.
Things had I had the luxury of time, perhaps I wouldn't do.
But, watheva, add me to the forgive and never forget group.
I'm not that foolish to think I'm not capable of bad things myself under certain circumstances.
Things had I had the luxury of time, perhaps I wouldn't do.
But, watheva, add me to the forgive and never forget group.
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agreedPaladinDragoonIt depends on what the person has done, exactly.
"A woman's mind and winter wind change often."
For me it really depends on how serious the person's betrayal is, the worst the situation the harder it is to forgive of course. Usually though I tend to be very forgiving, but I also tend to be a bit more careful around the person to avoid them being able to do it to me again.
1 year 6 months ago
Depends on what kind of level the betrayal is. I've had people who turned their backs on me cuz of peer pressure. Makes me think, were they my real friends to begin with? Thats why now, i dont make friends who are WEAK. Cuz having friends make you have attachtments and therefore if they are weak, they will only bring you down.
as for those traitors? well heres a useful quote i found:
Revenge is the greatest act of forgiveness
Well you can say, im living my life as a loner...well not really (i still have some friends or two who can manage by themselves) but i strive to be a strong individual and not a kind who just hides behind a group of friends.
If you think its unforgivable...DONT FORGIVE that piece of s**t.
as for those traitors? well heres a useful quote i found:
Revenge is the greatest act of forgiveness
Well you can say, im living my life as a loner...well not really (i still have some friends or two who can manage by themselves) but i strive to be a strong individual and not a kind who just hides behind a group of friends.
If you think its unforgivable...DONT FORGIVE that piece of s**t.
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