I have watched alot of anime and most of them were about love. But, do people really give love letters or build up courage for a long period of time just to confess? I would like to know about the difference between love relationships in anime and love relationships in reality.

I don't really care about love relationship, for now. University and job take me a lot, and I don't have enough free time to spend for my personal business. Sometimes I feel a little lone, but just for a little. The last time I felt in love with someone was, more or less, one year ago. I met a girl from a different university in a pub. I passed something like a week sending her sms, talking about kidding and similar stuff, then I invited her to have an aftenoon togheter and I confessed her my feelings. That's all. I never wrote a love letter, and I use to confess what I feel after very short time (maybe I'm a little impulsive!). I suppose love business and relationship are very emphatize in anime and manga, because of authors want that readers feel the same of their characters. But, to create this kind of feeling, every action must take a very long time, and the psycological feeling of characters must be explained from a 360° point of view....

Finding my love one isnt the most important either
i just wanna concerate on getting a degree or a masters 1st
love comes later

I think there is any love stories like in animes in reality. In animes (romance) the love relationship between the main characteres are too strong to be true, like sacrifice his/her life for his/her love (like in Shuffle).

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and do people really give love letters or build up courage for a long period of time just to confess? i guess its the best way to get the girl you but i guess not all the time you will get wat you, am i right
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Too bad anime/manga is only the dream of the creator...but that kind of stuff happens to some people. but for most of us, it is nothing more than a story...

Heh, I wish my love life/relationships would be like an anime.
I'm one of those people who can't express my feelings .. and take a long, long time to confess them. And when I do, if I do, they get all jumbled up.. and the other party does not understand.. or thinks I'm crazy.
Yeah, I wish I could find that guy [or girl] that would like.. understand my dumb points and can read me like a book.. and all tha jazz.

.. but, I don't know if I could handle the cutsy stuff.. *shudders*

Man, I'm a girl.. but I'm not all about romantic stuff..
At least with anime, I'm learning to be more.. open about my feelings.. and I should just say whatever.. because that's best way really..
.. and I do fall down a lot.

I wouldn't mind a love life from an anime provided it's not a complete failure like this other time...

A (painful) segment of my love life happened to be replayed in Kare Kano. Funny thing is, I watched it right after breaking up, which was kinda awkward. Being reminded of your own failure and how things could've turned out is NOT fun. >.<

If I could choose, I rather do things the slow romantic way in romance anime by passing love messages, exchanging secret glances, and the such then build up to the confession... *sigh* I guess it is a dream after all...

I don't think a lot of the love stories in anime series are realistic (like Hana Yori Dango) though they do make good story-telling. It would be nice to have someone who's willing to die for you and love you no matter what without asking for anything back but I also know it's not realistic.

The only thing is I will only be in a relationship with a guy who also enjoys anime because to me, it's important to have someone who shares similar interests because really, complete polar opposites don't attract.

Hrmm, well. Ive only really been in love once, and I wasnt exactly building up the courage or writing love letters or any of that sort of thing. It was more of a 'acting stupid' with a mate. The girl I liked and her friend thought we were just jerks. But then I hung out with her without my mate, and we were just talking and stuff. I wasnt acting like a fool anymore. We became really good friends, started going out a couple of weeks later. That lasted for winter (because she only comes down from where she lives in winter) But we are still really good friends. Ive also done the building up courage thing and writing letters, but I think that was more just for the thrill of trying to 'win someone over'. I never really felt for them as I did for Mel.

Lol i had dreams about stuff like this happening to me and then i wake up in surprise :p stuff like that not only doesn't happen, it's probably the complete opposite of how american society works.
i guess one could wish for it if it was really desired, but it's unrealistic to think so most of the time.

Heh, ive never had a dream about it. But ah well. Ive had some cool dreams where im in love with some of my best friends though.

Hey, maybe my story will change your opinion, guys:

When I was in Senior High, I was in school with boys dorm and girls dorm. Boys and girls dorm are separated quite far enough to caught young men flirting in girl's dorm. Love story act such as dating, holding hands, even talking intimately (close) are prohibited! But this is how my story begins...

Once upon a time, my school are having some kind of cultural night show internally, just to show to the school's foundation how the students are creative and care to protect their culture.

Me? Do I participate? Nay, I'm just the man behind the screen, or should I say, I made the 'screen'. I was asked to decorate the stage with my few friends.

And this is the scene when I met her:

It was a shiny day with no clouds blocking out the sun. The decorating team is working in some room to create artworks from sterofoam. My friend suddenly ask, "Hey, can you get some brush and paint at the dorm?". I was glad that he ask! Coz I'm getting kinda boring working there. Then I take a route pass a gym hall.

Hmm... whaddya know, there are people who rehearse their act for cultural night's theater. And you know what? I'm in the theater club too. So I take a slight look at their performance. And I found out that those people are from class 3 10th grade. I recognize few of my fellow theatre club from that class. I watch their play, dance and sang. But hey, I found out someone that make my eyes more to look for.

It was her, for the moment I don't feel any sensation, but the more I watch her the more I beginning to like.

Later I found out her name. I wanted so bad to meet her and greet, but I can't put up my courage on to this!
And you know what? For three years, I can't put up any courage just to say 'hello' or something. I can only 'see' her from distance and gather more and more information on her from friends.

At 11th grade, my feelings are known to my closest friends. They say that she is single right now. I wanted to make a move, but too late, someone has already surpass me.

I always pray day and night, hope for miracle to happens, just like manga story. And the miracle starts from the 12th grade. God answer my prayer and put me in the same class! Class 6 Science!

Hmm... eventhough the miracle happens... still it is up to me to make a move. And the courage is not yet gathered.

Time flows by and it is in the last quarter of my senior high. There is a trip to Jakarta. All of the student are taken to many historical places. And lastly to the amusement park! I was hoping I have friends to company me but I was alone there. My friends left me cost I had a throw up when the wheels start to spin fast... >.<

Then I walk to nowhere, hoping that she are nearby, and wow, she was nearby! She was with her friends taking pictures. Luckily I was nearby, I was asked to take their pictures. Then, one of them asked why am I alone? I said I was throw up and left by the party. They were laughing including her, but man! I'm glad that she laughed, she must be think I'm a funny person. That's a good start. They asked me to join them, and of course I wanted to!

... but the story continues... next time :)

Awww so sweet.
They guys i liked...never really happened.
There was one guy that i liked.

He was the first guy i liked since i moved to a new city. He was 2 years older then me, but that didnt matter.
he was cute, funny, and you could take to him about anything.
I flirted heavly with him for many years.
Then...i asked him out to see a movie with him. OH man was that exciting!! my last boyfirned never really did anything with me...but also i was really nervouse around him...but this guy...i wasnt.
I was able to lean up agenst him...and he didnt care...he let me...and i liked it ^_^
Then he asked me to go see a another movie with him...a scary one...and I get scared with scary movies( we watched Saw II by the way).
There was one part...that made us both cringe...and then...he held my hand...heavenly, no?
Well, weeks later, i was trying to get him out with me again, but he kept saying no he was busy...alright then, understandable.
But then i found out...he was dating a girl for a couple of weeks...and i didnt know this...
He broke my heart.
I told him i knew...and i didnt speak to him for a month...then we started talking again...i dont really like being mean or feel hatered towards some people.
But sometimes...i do wish i could be with him...but then i think...he knows hes hot, and he knows he can get any girl....just....not me, haha.
thats my love story
^_^

I just have to say that love life in anime is considerably different from love lives in reality. love life in anime usually has a sense of flippancy and "too good to be true" type of feeling. love life in reality is a lot more serious, requires a lot more thinking/planning/brain power/effort/etcetc. of course, it would be nice if love life in anime could replace love life in reality, but that's not gonna happen, so... boo hooo.....