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If your friend is having problem,wat will u do?
2 years 6 months ago
If your friend hds problem and he or she express their problems to you..wat will you do to comfort them.giving good advices?as for me..i think i won't give good advices..i think.me..not that type.i am not good at giving advices to other people.i will just be by their side queitly.i am that kind of person. or maybe gave some opinion(a little but hard to understand mostly)i am suck at giving advice and so i just be by their side.how bout you all?wat did you all did when your friends having the same situation?
2 years 6 months ago
After listening to the problem i will state how i would solve the problem if it was me. But I will also tell him/her that the problem must be solved by how he/she believe is right. Also problem must be solved immediately leave alone or ignore and it will just get more painful. Bit cliched but thats my answer.
I usually listen to them, and that I feel bad for him/her because if I would be in such a situation, I'd do the same thing or something similar. This is the best way to comfort anyone I think, I'm showing them they're not alone and did the right thing. I usually try to give advice as well, when asked. Sometimes advice isn't what they need so, I won't :)
You know, when you feel bad, you feel like you are the center of anything negative that happens around you. When you show him he's not, he'll calm down a bit :) So Never(!) say they had to do this or that or something else, they did what they did in the situation, and you don't know enough to calculate what should have happened to your opinion, so don't tell them they're wrong :)
Ah well, comforting is usually very personal so it depends on the person, and I've had a few strange situations like this. Glad I know now how to deal with it :) Most people just say something like 'It'll be alright', but no, it won't be if you say that. Anyone would appreciate is more if you'd just say 'Yeah I agree he's an asshole!' =P And you just show you think the same way and that he or she's not alone. (and I actually hope I helped some of you here :])
You know, when you feel bad, you feel like you are the center of anything negative that happens around you. When you show him he's not, he'll calm down a bit :) So Never(!) say they had to do this or that or something else, they did what they did in the situation, and you don't know enough to calculate what should have happened to your opinion, so don't tell them they're wrong :)
Ah well, comforting is usually very personal so it depends on the person, and I've had a few strange situations like this. Glad I know now how to deal with it :) Most people just say something like 'It'll be alright', but no, it won't be if you say that. Anyone would appreciate is more if you'd just say 'Yeah I agree he's an asshole!' =P And you just show you think the same way and that he or she's not alone. (and I actually hope I helped some of you here :])
I woke up in the middle of a dark facility,
And had the intense feeling of being watched.
The silence forced me to listen to my own heavy breathing.
I panicked.
I knew this was my final destination.
The extreme resistance of my own body, made me pass out.
The dark chamber became even darker.
This had to be it.
The end, of my existance.
When my friend has got a problem, I try to give her advice but usually she doesn't take it. Ok, she listenes to me and respects what I say. And I think these pieces of advices comfort her in a way so I keep telling them when she needs it.
And when I can, I grab her and take with me to see a movie or something like it because sometimes a change of pace is needed.
Nowadays she is sad so I try to cheer her up but it is hard. :(
And when I can, I grab her and take with me to see a movie or something like it because sometimes a change of pace is needed.
Nowadays she is sad so I try to cheer her up but it is hard. :(
I usually do the things that people have already posted. I give them advice on things, and if its something really drama related that I don't want to get involved with, I just buy them dinner. Food is a nice pick me up.
Other than that, I'm just a shoulder to cry on. One of my friends for three years has been really emo and depressed, makes me kind of hate him because it rubs off on me sometimes, but he likes it when I bring him food or anime or just come over to talk to him. Though he does tend to make the conversation really depressed and negative. I guess it just makes him feel better that someone still cares about him. Don't give up on depressed people!
Other than that, I'm just a shoulder to cry on. One of my friends for three years has been really emo and depressed, makes me kind of hate him because it rubs off on me sometimes, but he likes it when I bring him food or anime or just come over to talk to him. Though he does tend to make the conversation really depressed and negative. I guess it just makes him feel better that someone still cares about him. Don't give up on depressed people!
#593947 Quote Report Edited by ~joodeadfoo 2 years 6 months ago
I give advice, try to help clarify their problems and show them possible ways to solve them...or give them my support to give them confidence. Also as Joodeadfoo, I also provide a shoulder to cry on, always there to aid my friends who are in need. When the problem is something that they can't solve themselves, or I see that they're getting nowhere and clearly need help I will generally do my best to help solve it personaly, or alongside them...depending on the condition of my friend, but never in a way that will hurt my friends.
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2 years 6 months ago
I help, without thinking twice.
I'm always "there" when someone needs me and people are always with me.
But sometimes is harder, because the person don't want to be helped, but he/she asks for help... But i'm very sincere with everyone and when this happen i say "You don't want to be helped, so I won't help you" (peharps a little hard, but life is cruel).
Aiding people makes me happy, I get very happy when I talk to someone and them everything gets good and the problem is solved.
My friends even made a comunity in orku for me, called "Abaura's ONG" XDDDDDD~~
I'm always "there" when someone needs me and people are always with me.
But sometimes is harder, because the person don't want to be helped, but he/she asks for help... But i'm very sincere with everyone and when this happen i say "You don't want to be helped, so I won't help you" (peharps a little hard, but life is cruel).
Aiding people makes me happy, I get very happy when I talk to someone and them everything gets good and the problem is solved.
My friends even made a comunity in orku for me, called "Abaura's ONG" XDDDDDD~~
2 years 6 months ago
I will try to help him or her, but finally my friend should handle it himself...
2 years 6 months ago
One of the toughest situations for me.
Im honestly gonna say that im one of the most unreasonable and retarded person you could meet in your whole life. Therefore, it makes it tough for me to say something reasonable to my friend and perhaps, a normal advice (yeah, im fake. My friends dont know what im really like, cuz maybe...i'd lose them)
But of course, ill try to help no matter what cuz thats what a friend should be...
Im honestly gonna say that im one of the most unreasonable and retarded person you could meet in your whole life. Therefore, it makes it tough for me to say something reasonable to my friend and perhaps, a normal advice (yeah, im fake. My friends dont know what im really like, cuz maybe...i'd lose them)
But of course, ill try to help no matter what cuz thats what a friend should be...
2 years 6 months ago
I don't know how to help him. Or maybe I can do what I can to help him.
Well I'm hopeless when it comes to solving others problems, mainly because I can't associate with them or I think its too trivial to be called a problem (which is the case most of the times!).. So generally I refrain from giving advices..
However, if it is something that I can help with with I only try and guide them through it by listening to them and later giving points/ advices where necessary.
However, if it is something that I can help with with I only try and guide them through it by listening to them and later giving points/ advices where necessary.
I'd try to help out one way or another, but since i'm quite the carefree person, and the one with the problem is likely not to be(otherwise they wouldn't have had the problem), I'm probably no help at all. I'll just try to show that i do care about him/her having a problem.
2 years 6 months ago
Everyone needs help ^ ^
2 years 6 months ago
I listen to the prob...and then i say my objective opinion...
the most problems are probs with the relationship...and than this is over,it's important to do many things with him/her to bring she/he think other things...
the most problems are probs with the relationship...and than this is over,it's important to do many things with him/her to bring she/he think other things...
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2 years 6 months ago
I would try and give him/her advice to help them cope with this problem. If my friends are troubled, I will try my best to help them with anything.
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