Heres a question for all you people out there

Would you go for a girl/guy who is so HOT but has such a poor personality or would you go for a girl/guy who has the most awesome personality EVER but his looks are just down there (ugly).

Please reply/tell me

I don't know, I don't really have much experience, but for example I can't stand some girls no matter how hot they are and I'm not attracted to them at all (nor them to me =P), what I find attractive is either cuteness, which is both personality and looks or a strong personality.

I didn't answer your question but I'll leave it like that XD

Alright, last time I said this I was berated for it (who knows why) but here goes.

Most of what I choose is personality. I love a great personality in a girl more than looks. If I were looking for a girlfriend, I would be looking for someone I could get along with the most and love the most, and looks don't define that for me. If a girl has a bad personality, I won't go near her, that's that.

As it happens I have a girlfriend who fits in both categories. However what I like, if I were to be looking and when I was, is a good personality. Looks aren't much of a huge thing for me.

-waits for it-

Lol Its good enough ^^

P.S. Thanks for replying

Rachel Xx

Hahaha Dreamseeker thats a good answer...what does berated mean anyway lolol

P.S. You're lucky for having a girlfriend that fits both categories

Rachel Xx

RachelLim, berated means to make fun of someone harshly.

I would probably pick the guy who has the better personality; not that I wouldn't want him to look somewhat nice though. My boyfriend is very sweet and kind to me and has a wonderful personality and while he may not be a super model, he isn't bad looking and that is all that matters ^_^. I mean what is so great about a guy who will treat me like dirt and then probably end up cheating on me because I'm not "pretty enough"?

RachelLim

Hahaha Dreamseeker thats a good answer...what does berated mean anyway lolol

P.S. You're lucky for having a girlfriend that fits both categories

Rachel Xx

Yeah, it was sad really. I was being told, 'Stop lying! You're a guy, all you care about is looks. I've seen plenty of guys, they're all the same...'

Now I know that's not something to take seriously, but there was more than one person telling me this, which made me worry about the kind of guys they encountered... o_o;'

Personality is allways important

i would choose someone with a great personality rather then someone that is all looks what would be the point of that except for saying oh yeah my gf or bf is so hot but is a real well i won't say the word but alot of people have both great looks and personality

I usually go for both, though I weigh personality more heavily, I mean, I'm always asking myself, "What would it be like to be with that girl for the rest of my life?" I'm not looking for a uber pretty girl, just someone thin and doesn't put a lot of make up. I like a girl with a shy and quiet personality, and not too quiet to the point where she hardly says anything to you on a date. She's gotta be smart and knows how to cook lol

Both are important to me, but unfortunately you can't get to know personality as soon as looks

The personality is more important than the looks. That is because, you maybe look great until a certain age, then after that, the great looks will disappear and what will be left will be the personality =)

There is a problem though, isn't there? When we find someone we feel attracted to, it's not because of his personality, but because of his great looks. We all become affected by looks in one way or another, but the thing is, you have both pros and cons here. What benefits do you gain with great looks? -> you will love the body, hairstyle etc. What benefits do you gain with great personality? -> great moments, understanding, love, care, value etc.

Which one do you need the most to survive and live a happy life?

I would guess, a combination of both. It's difficult to find such a person though, because either he/she will have great looks and a nasty personality or the reverse, a great personality and nasty looks :P I don't say that you should go look for someone that has perfect looks, but as long as they are ok and you like him/her, it's good enough. Don't think though that you will live the happiest life of your dreams because of someone's looks, what if that person never listens to you, takes care of you, thinks about you or worries about you? Would you still want to be with that person just because of some perfect looks?

I liked somebody for a very long time. I became attracted to him because he had a great body and a very cute face. Of course he talked nicely and kindly to impress me ^ ^. Then when I found out what a really bastard he was, I realized that the value of a human lies in his/hers heart and not in the looks. I let my heart suffer while he didn't care about it, so I couldn't accept it anymore. I couldn't let my heart suffer because of his great looks, what about them if his soul is evil and nasty? I would want somebody who respected me, liked and cared about me. If he had great looks, it would be even better =) but believe me, looks are not everything.

The reason we like other people who look nice is evolution, if someone looks healthy, more chances of your sons being healthy, and the reason why most of men like young women, is because fertility, and the reason why most women like a little bit older men (and with money) is because it would be safe for the children. Of course I'm speaking in general, I'm not saying it is that way all the time, that is just the reason why if you are for example dating someone you can think of someone else, and feel attracted to someone else but in a very superficial way, and that doesn't mean you're going to cheat the person you are dating.

I'm not saying I prefer looks, actually I agree that personality is more important, but that doesn't mean that you don't find other people attractive, and denying it isn't going to fix anything, it's like a test to prove how strong is your love for your b/g-friend.

No matter how pretty they look, if I can't stand them... I push them aside.
Getting along with the person and being able to have a conversation for a long period of time is what's most important to me... looks are kinda second place to that.

Lol, I guess this is another topic that calls for pure honesty. XD
He's got to have a little bit of both for me. To be honest, I'm not sure if I could ever love (romantically) a really, really ugly guy. That's just me, I guess.
On the other hand, if a guy has six-pack abs and a face that makes girls swoon like sleeping gas, but has the personality of a tree slug...Well, sheesh, I'm not about to burden myself with such a liability. It'd be like trying to lug around a marble statue: something beautiful, but more or less a pain to have. XD

Overall, however, I have to say personality is important. Looks count - if a guy is intelligent and nice and kind but has really rotten teeth and bad body odor, I wouldn't get that involved with him: the latter factors indicate that he doesn't have proper hygiene and so can't be counted on much to take care of himself... :/ - but personality's still better. I mean, sometimes personality governs how a guy looks - hygiene, dress style, etc. - so it all evens out in the end. XD

roxasora

Both are important to me, but unfortunately you can't get to know personality as soon as looks

I completely agree and think that most of the people who have posted here so far are just afraid to look shallow.

Personality is important once you decide to actually go for someone, or even just talk to them, but it's going to be the looks that first get your attention.
Unavoidable.

I mean, I couldn't stay with someone who's incredible looking if they annoyed the hell out of me, but the fact that I would've tried them just because of how good they look has to count for something.
And I know I'm not the only one who thinks that. Admit it.