I believe that there are people who want to be feared and people who want respect. I've come to a conclusion about what underlies each one of these things that causes them not to be one in the same. I venture to say that with respect comes love but with fear comes hatred. One should not expect the same positve conotations that come with respect if they have the desire to be feared. Those who wish to be feared should not ever ask for mercy if they find them selves on the losing end of differnt situations in life and those who want respect are expected to give equally that which they wish to recive. If anyone comes to want either fear or respect, or both- I believe that in any case that person must first be humbled.

Do you think that fear and respect are one in the same or two totally different things that should be gone about getting differently and if so wich one of the two is of the utmost imortance?

Fear results in violence.

If I fear you, I'll eventually grow to hate you, and I'll act accordingly. If someone seriously attacks someone else it's because they are afraid. Sometimes it is simply fear towards the attacked subject ("If I let you live, you will destroy my life"). Maybe not of the subject that they are attacking but rather, fear that comes of what will happen if they don't attack it ("if I don't kill him, the gang'll disown me"). In that case, it would be fear towards oneself, fear that you are weak.

Fear does not mean respect. Fear means that I'm not going to mess with you, because I know I will lose; because I know that when I lose, you will punish me and pulverize my bones.

Respect, does not mean fear. Respect means that you acknowledge someone for some aspect of their nature, their being. Respect means that you acknowledge them for who they are. Maybe you don't agree with how they live their lives, but you see that it's brought them somewhere, and that it has brought them achievement. You see them as an equal individual. You respect them.

That's how I see it, anyway.