Situation
Well I'm in high school and I'm going out with a boy named Nick who is African American. Well my parents don't like me going out with guys in general because she thinks I'm to young and that it will ruin my future now. Well and than she tells me I should go out with a white guy instead of black guys and that people will make fun of me and all the negative stuff about them. I really like this guy but he is black and knowing my parents and how they don't like black guys I have this big conflict going on. Also my relationship with this guy is a secret to my parents which I don't like at all but this is the way it has to be for right now and my boyfriend knows about this being a whole secret. I'm so sick and tired of this and I don't know what to do. I definitely don't want to tell my parents.
Comments
I guess you're still in high school so it's probably not the guy you will marry but anyway it can feel like if it was. And that's the most important thing.
You shouldn't give up your love just cause your parents are a little stubborn on things like skin colors...
I know your age sn't easy at all and that the point of view of your parents counts a lot... But they wont marry him at your place. They are not going to live with him later. So never mind what they think.
Of course secret is hard to live... But if their parents accept you it's fine... You'll have a place to see each others other than your house.
I can just give you a little advice; try to lie the less you can... Lying about that can bring lot of troubles if the parents discover the truth... I did that before and got problems... I just hope you can have a real discussion with your parents about that boy you love and make them see the good points he has and the reasons you love him... It's important to have their approval on love... But you can live without it if necessary...
Good luck.
PS :A sorry if you think I shouldn't have come into your troubles... We don't know each others...
You shouldn't give up your love just cause your parents are a little stubborn on things like skin colors...
I know your age sn't easy at all and that the point of view of your parents counts a lot... But they wont marry him at your place. They are not going to live with him later. So never mind what they think.
Of course secret is hard to live... But if their parents accept you it's fine... You'll have a place to see each others other than your house.
I can just give you a little advice; try to lie the less you can... Lying about that can bring lot of troubles if the parents discover the truth... I did that before and got problems... I just hope you can have a real discussion with your parents about that boy you love and make them see the good points he has and the reasons you love him... It's important to have their approval on love... But you can live without it if necessary...
Good luck.
PS :A sorry if you think I shouldn't have come into your troubles... We don't know each others...
Hey how are ya doin'?
hmm..it's very interesting all that
Well:
1st thing don't abandon your love its not worth it to ruin everything for your parents
2nd talk with your boyfriend and ask him if he could stand more this secret relationshipa and
3rd try to have a cool conversation with your parents abt the black guys tell them if you have to that there is someone in your class who's a very good guy and that you like him and slowly try to tell your parents that there is something between him and you...
Oh and don't be afraid of them usually parents know everything even the things that we don't tell them but they never talk abt them till we go and talk for their advice
I hope i helped ya a little bit^_^
hmm..it's very interesting all that
Well:
1st thing don't abandon your love its not worth it to ruin everything for your parents
2nd talk with your boyfriend and ask him if he could stand more this secret relationshipa and
3rd try to have a cool conversation with your parents abt the black guys tell them if you have to that there is someone in your class who's a very good guy and that you like him and slowly try to tell your parents that there is something between him and you...
Oh and don't be afraid of them usually parents know everything even the things that we don't tell them but they never talk abt them till we go and talk for their advice
I hope i helped ya a little bit^_^













