getting over someone

~-0buRiZe0-

Tue, 27 Jun 2006 08:37:16 -0400

This is the second time i commented on a love-related topic.. i must be pretty hopeless, am i?

first things first. he/she is not the only lovable person in the world. mind you, there are a lot of people who might be willing to go out with you, and might be better than the one you had last. always rememebr that things happen for a reason, even if you end your life eternally searching for that someone.. (!@#$ that's like so sad T_T) second, never regret the things that happened to you before, even if they are good or bad. here's the thing: for the good things, cry if it makes you cry, laugh if it makes you laugh. such good things will never happen again, and be glad all of that happened. for the bad things, rememebr that they made you stronger. that you learned from them. that you could always help people by giving advice of what you have experienced before. lastly, take time to heal yourself. it may be tomorrow, next week, next year, even forever. all i am saying is, you should never rush into getting over someone. time heals all wounds, right? so let time do it's job, for all you know, time might bring the one you deserve.

~i did all of this, and now i'm happy looking for another one! broken up with my first ever girlfriend 2 years ago, and she had her next boyfriend in the next couple of months. we lasted for a year and 8 months. i courted her three times, with being rejected two times. got hit by her boyfriend's gang due to jealousy. i am happy right now. :)

~csillesa

Tue, 27 Jun 2006 08:17:39 -0400

For me, all I did was, well try hard not to think about that person, the best way for it is to keep myself pre-occupied with things to do, like watch Anime, play video games, go out with my friends. Sure it'll be hard during the first few weeks, even months, but as they say... time heals all wounds ;)

~ecLipseDelacroiX

Tue, 27 Jun 2006 07:53:31 -0400

First, you need time. And space for yourself. I know it's really really hard...I'm still on a recovery process myself. I just ended a relationship which I really value. *sniff* I try so hard to make myself busy. Focusing in my studies..[sooo hard] and I try to go out with friends...but the problem is my mom is so strict so she doesn't lemme go out and do whatever stuff I like. So I just do the things i love most, playing my guitar and painting... hope i'd get through this lol

~Saka4Rob10

Tue, 27 Jun 2006 04:44:45 -0400

I've only an advice to tell :
keep your mind busy; so put all your resources and all you've got in work (till you feel better).

In conclusion, work very very much ...

$gheybo

Tue, 27 Jun 2006 04:42:43 -0400

I'm strange, I don't try to forget about the person. I notice the more you push the memories away it hurts even more. At times I believe that memories are so wonderful even though there are sad moments but hey that's what made you, you right?

I embrace it all and smile upon all the bitterness and happiness. I tell myself that was a great journey, I had fell, got up and learnt my lesson. Now I have to move on and continue with my own path where it will take me to other destinations and people. However I bring all of the past along with me as an imprint of who I am ^-^

You just have to be strong and face your fears, cry over it and laugh it off LoLz

~al3xa1906

Mon, 26 Jun 2006 04:09:37 -0400

Well, i was in the same situation with my ex but... i guess i couldn't get over this relationship yet and it's been 2 years since we broke up... still i meet another people and i like another guys but sometimes i stay and remember about what happend and... whatever... i guess what should be done is meet someone new, thinking every day about something else even it's a little difficult because you can't forget someone you love that easy... but anyway, do things that you like and try to not think about that person ^^

~hitome-sakura

Mon, 26 Jun 2006 03:02:06 -0400

The only way is to forget someone is not to attach
yourself with them at all, when i was young i have alot of
person's that i never wanted to leave, or to forgot
about them, and when they left it torn me apart , and
their leave left a hallow place in my heart, and i couldnt
forget about them, i dont know how to overcome, till
by time i realized that those who come either to visit
or your friends that pass the same time with you
have to leav you sooner or later, no matter what cause
they have their own paths and we have our own path,

and so when i learned this even if anyone leaves me,
it doesnt effect me at all, and neither it should, cause
its apart of life, so i never get attached to someone at
all,

and i dont care what anyone thinks about me,
cause its just who i am.

~avjai

Mon, 26 Jun 2006 00:54:54 -0400

This is no joke, watch the fifa world cup
go on animepaper more and participate in more other discussions that aren't like these
it's extremely hard to forget someone but what you can do is use that energy to steer it to making urself better at something else, rather than sulk use that energy to make urself better somehow or at something, either that or just chill with another group of friends for a change, what everyone said really is pretty much the only solution, keep urself busy.

`swordfish-II

Mon, 26 Jun 2006 00:39:37 -0400

Go out and meet someone knew.

~anya-to-willow

Mon, 26 Jun 2006 00:24:57 -0400

Well ill have 2 agree that seeing the person that you went out with, even though it brings back memorys there are always people in your life that will be there to support you no matter what and with that support it really makes a huge difference, as long as you remember this, its almost impossible to not have a good time and forget, its takes only time.

~anonymeX

Sun, 25 Jun 2006 23:01:35 -0400

It's majorly hard to forget about someone. I've tried to forget about this girl i've liked for five years, there have been a couple of lapses but still. It's hard because i'm about to start college and we're both going to different colleges. My friend suggests that I do something drastic because this is the last time i could ever see her. I've had trouble with this but i know that college will change my mind and i'll forget her. But in the future, i probably will regret this.

In the past, when i was trying to get over a girl and it wasn't working, I just befriended her. Now she has a new boyfriend and i don't even think about her. You should try to get as close as you can and wait for it to die.

~princessclover01

Sun, 25 Jun 2006 21:57:42 -0400

Yea.. i'm kinda in that boat right now.. so right now i'm trying to focus on work, and get out some artwork!.. and since i wanna lose weight but never have the gall to, i'm gonna start clearing my mind by pumping the iron :P

it's still not easy, i've been in the situation before, it's really just time.. and trying to put the energy into other things.. ((i tend to make really good artwork.. or sleep a hella lot O.o))

~Snowingheart

Sun, 25 Jun 2006 19:54:14 -0400

LSerenity
Forgetting someone is like trying to remember someone you've never met.

Wow... that's beautiful... Ok, back on topic, how to forget someone? Well, it's never a thing you can do in a couple days, and it depends a lot on who you're trying to forget... And, as eveyone above has said, to keep yourself occupied on something is one of the easiest, most effective ways to do this. You can try... making some wallpapers O.o or... doing something you really like, learning something new... I don't know, just try to not have time to think, because everytime you do, chances are you'll be thinking about him. And if he's too close to you right now, just try to get used to the idea that he's gonna be your friend, and a great one, but nothing more than that. It may be really hard at first, but you just gotta give it time, and sooner or later you'll see that you've forgoten about him.
If I come up with any more, I'll edit later...

`mooling89

Sun, 25 Jun 2006 19:47:24 -0400

I'm sort of going through this too, but all I have to say is trying to avoid the person really doesn't work. Because you have to think about who you are avoiding. I say don't try and forget. Just try to find someone/something new to occupy your mind. Because in reality, you probably don't really want to completely forget the person.

$RetroXIII

Sun, 25 Jun 2006 18:27:25 -0400

Keep yourself busy or like someone else.

`gat

Sun, 25 Jun 2006 18:26:54 -0400

Time and lots of it