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Relationships and breakups
4 months 1 week ago
"Thank you for your replies. I have read every one of them thus far. It's still difficult at times (only when I take the time to sit down and think about it) otherwise I feel pretty normal. The other day coming back from Walmart I found myself actually glad I was single. I still feel that way now, but of course there are times where I wish I had someone to hold and to be held by."View
What is a good lie?
4 months 1 week ago
"Eh. Yes and no.In the end, though, everybody lies."
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Relationships and breakups
4 months 2 weeks ago
"You know, after the relationship I will admit to going onto some online sites to attempt to find someone. But every time I thought about trying it out or getting close to someone I immediately stopped because I realized at that time that I didn't really like that person. They were just filling some void. I was just using them to feel better at that time. Nothing, absolutely nothing was there. Heck, I didn't even want sex. I refuse to do such a thing with someone I don't care deeply for.
I think the reason freak out is because it makes your life no longer part of some routine. You may not really like being with said person, but you have everything there. You have someone to hold, someone to comfort you and to comfort, someone to share your sexual desires with, someone to make you feel better, et cetera. When you step out of the realm of your routine most people usually panic and have no idea how to stabilize their life. No idea how to offset the fact they don't have that person anymore.
For me one of the hardest things to come to terms with is I won't see him anymore--not even as a friend. I know it's impossible. I will always have an ulterior motive to get back with him even if it's not really what I want. Perhaps it's out of habit. That and I don't think I can handle the thought of him being with another woman so I don't want to even have the chance to see it."
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Relationships and breakups
4 months 2 weeks ago
"Thank you for your response!
I wouldn't say I'm unhappy being alone, but at the same time I wouldn't say I'm happy either. I was told that when you're with someone and you suddenly don't have the affection, etc, that it's almost like going through withdrawal because the happiness you felt with that person released chemicals in the brain, so on and so forth. I won't go into detail.
I know that I am not ready for a relationship at this point in my life and I have no idea when I will be ready. At the same time I don't always think about, "when will I be ready?" Most of the time, at least right now with my busy schedule, it's the last thing I usually think about. But for some reason the thoughts have plagued my mind today. I'm in no hurry because the last thing I want to do is hurt someone else. And on top of that my plans to go, live and work in Japan could be jeopardized by it.
He'll always have a place in my heart, no matter how crappy the relationship turned out in the end once looking back on it. I don't feel the same way I did then even now. But I will probably always love him in some form or shape. At least the memory of him."
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Relationships and breakups
4 months 2 weeks ago
"I don't think I've ever started a topic here and I searched to see if one existed but I couldn't find one unless it's under some funky name or word.I'll quickly summarize. I recently just got out of a 5 year relationship with my boyfriend. You could say that the breakup blind-sided me because I didn't see it coming at all. We lived together for about two years (living with each other over the summer and then living fairly close to one another in a dormitory) and then for one year we completely basically lived together in the same place (an apartment).
He broke up with me May 11th, and I can remember that because it was our court case with our roommate who skipped out on the lease. We were finished with school and on Sunday we drove up to his father's home, spent the night and then Monday we went up to the court case in our roommate's county. After the case we went back to his home and he broke up with me. I was two hours away from where I live originally, two hours away from class at a different school and four hours away from my part time job (2 hour drive to my town, class as soon as I arrive and then work two hours later).
Of course when there's a breakup the person breaking up with you lists a bunch of reasons why, but in my case the reasons he gave me seemed really silly and stupid. Some of which I didn't understand because I knew damn well I wasn't guilty of them. Well, I suppose the reasons he gave then are irrelevant because since then he's told me the big, main reason was because "he just didn't feel we would work out in the end."
Well, I guess at the time I begged to differ, but as time continues I find myself agreeing with his "gut feeling". However, I do find myself guilty of wishing I could have him around for the companionship.
Sorry for the rambling. I guess my question is... (Preferably for those who have physical relationships--I mean in the sense that it isn't an online relationship... especially if all you've ever had is online relationships).
1.) Has anyone else had something similar? Being in a relationship for so long and then ending it?
2.) Regardless of whether you broke up with them or they broke up with you, how did you feel afterwards?
3.) How long did it take for you to "move on"?
4.) Did you have rebounds? Why did you have rebounds?
5.) Since then have you realized something that you didn't then?
6.) If you've since found someone (or your soulmate) how long did it take for you to find said person?
I'm usually a very strong individual but I find myself having dark thoughts about ending up alone, being unwanted, not being pretty enough, etc. I'm handling things fairly well now because of the intensity of this Japanese program I'm a part of (3rd year Japanese is kicking my ass!) but I worry that at the end of this program, in a month, I will be running around trying to figure out how to busy myself to keep myself from thinking about the breakup, my loneliness, ect.
Thanks for reading. :)"
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Do you believe in next life ?
4 months 3 weeks ago
"I'm not saying one way or the other mainly because I just don't know and I don't want to make a stand. I would like to believe that there's something after death instead of just rotting in the ground, but at the same time humanity has never had any proof otherwise.Sure, there are people who have near-death experiences, say they've spoken to or have seen Jesus, among other things, but at the same time when your brain is deprived of oxygen for even a short amount of time (or in cases such as coming close to death, etc) it's been proven that hallucinations are common and people are able to see what they want to see. I'm not sure if I buy into seeing God/Jesus/Afterlife during near-death experiences. But at the same time I'm not saying that it's not possible. It seems everyone is classified as a nut-case if they buy into those things when told (people used to be punished to death for blasphemy once upon a time if they claimed that they were contacted by God/Jesus/some holy being)--but that's a whole other story.
But as for me, dreams of a dead loved one that wake you up from your sleep just in the knick of time to catch a baby seems more like coincidence. I could argue my own case. After my father died (having never met him) I had a dream where I got to speak to him. We were in a white room and I was a child. I asked him many questions about why he wasn't a part of my life and he answered them. You could say, "Your father contacted you after his death! To give you closure!" But I think it's more along the lines of I dreamed what I wanted to hear from him. It was my imagination. It was all coincidence.
Is there some sort of life after death? Some sort of existence? I don't know. I hope so because it's such a boring idea to think that I'll rot away in the ground for the rest of eternity (or until whenever). People like to tell themselves there's something there for their own reassurance because they're afraid of death. Thinking something else is there and that it's not "the end" allows you to better accept the inevitable fate that is death."
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Do you think the base nature of humans is evil/bad?
4 months 3 weeks ago
"It depends what you define as bad and what you define as good. I believe that the general nature of humans is to be selfish though I am well aware there are times that we make sacrifices for others, but usually in those times I notice that the sacrifice they make, in the long run, also benefits the person sacrificing. In that case, the end result is for a selfish reason (themselves).Humans are capable of both good and bad. It's all how you define what is what. There are people who are mentally screwed in the head (e.g. they enjoy killing animals in a way where they suffer, murderers who enjoy murdering, people who enjoy inflicting pain, people who steal because they are selfish, etc).
I have made a lot of friends where I'm at now who are willing to buy things (e.g. food) or give things (e.g. note cards) to their friends, but I don't know if it's just because they want to or because they think it'll strengthen the friendship. They want friends so they give their potential friends things in attempt to keep them as friends--in attempt to make that person think they are a good person. If you look at that reasoning, it's somewhat selfish though the act is kind.
I look at the underlining reason as to why people do things when I decide what for. :)"
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The Day The Earth Stood Still
11 months 2 weeks ago
"The Day The Earth Stood Still is a remake of the same movie that was filmed in 1951. It was also a book. I've seen the remake (2008 version) and I plan to watch the 1951 version. From what I've gathered they have changed the focus in the movie.In 1951 I think they focused on the war (cold war, et cetera) and with the 2008 version they focused more on pollution when it comes to humans destroying the world.
I think the idea was nice, but I think they changed around too many things. The ending, et cetera. The CG animation they used was nice, though. You really got the feeling that those little machine-like bugs could wipe out anything that was human or man-made.
As for Keanu Reeves... I felt as though I was watching another Matrix movie--especially since in the end he controlled those little big-like machines that ate everything man-made or human."
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Do you think long distance relationships can work?
11 months 3 weeks ago
"I don't mean spam this page, but I just got done reading everyone's comments. To the writer of this topic, I have a few things to say directly to you regarding your situation.If it's something that's bothering you, you HAVE to talk about it. I know it can somewhat be scary because maybe you're afraid that you're going to lose him through all of this. But if that is the case (and only if that is the case) it's better to get the answer now than wait months more down the road when it's even harder on you.
You need to ask him, "What are you doing right now?" when he seems to get distant. If he answers with a simple one word response like, "Nothing really" or "Talking to you," you should respond with, "Are you sure? Because it feels like you're being so distant lately..." That can usually start the conversation.
What ever you do, do not come off as though you're pointing your finger at him. As in, "You're doing ___." It's too confrontational and in some situations it'll cause the person you're talking to just shut down right there and not offer any answers because they feel as though they're being blamed. Instead word your answers like so: "I feel ____ when you do _____." So, in your case, "I feel worried when we don't talk like we used to." Or however else you'd like to word it. It opens it up for him to give some insight into the situation.
He could be stressed or depressed and doesn't want to bring you down with him. If that's the case he needs to realize that you're there together as a team and that you're there for him--that leaving you out of these things only hurts you. That you want to be able to burden some of his troubles and be a shoulder for him to lean on.
Now don't take what I said above (the stressed or depressed idea) and use it as an excuse not to confront the situation with him. I am telling you with all seriousness that if you let this go unchecked it could be the end of your relationship with him. Regardless of distance, this can happen to anybody. My boyfriend was very distant with me at one point in time both while we were physically together and when we were physically apart. Each time I had to tell him that it hurt me. We almost broke up this summer because he neglected me for an entire month--no lie. You gotta nip it in the butt and nip it fast.
I truly wish you the best of luck but it's better to find out what is going on with your relationship now than to spend the money moving to the states only to realize the relationship went stale months or even years ago. Don't be afraid!"
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Do you think long distance relationships can work?
11 months 3 weeks ago
"For the most part it can work, but the question is: How long will it be until you're physically with that person you love or care about? Another thing to take into mind is trust. You must be able to trust the person you are with not to have a relationship with another person in your absence.If you haven't met in person (e.g. met over the internet and live in different states, et cetera) you have to take into account that the person you know over the net may not be the person you are really talking to. I don't mean in that creepy 40 year-old man pretending to be a 20 year-old man. I mean in the sense that sometimes people put on more of a front over the internet than they do in person. Sometimes looks plays a role in the whole thing as well.
I'm ashamed to say that I once had a long-distance relationship with a man I met over the internet who lived in my states capitol city who I ended the relationship over his looks. He came down to visit me (this was while I was still in high school... about 5-7 years ago.) and I was totally repulsed by a huge wart/zit on his face. I had never seen a picture of him prior to meeting him, so picking him up at the bus station was a little difficult. After he went home the relationship ended. He was far too scrawny and I couldn't get over the wart/zit the size of a dime on his face.
You have to have the motivation to save up and see him or for him to see you. That is if you've never met. Otherwise all you have is a chat conversation and no physical contact. If you're with a boy whom you've lived close to but parents moving or college caused you to create a distance... usually those relationships don't last because you're young and you grow up... and you move on. College however... sometimes they can last if the love is strong enough.
You have to really think whether or not it's worth the effort to put into the distance. You have to work harder to keep the bond strong whether it's chatting every night online or talking on the phone. If you're beginning to question the relationship, it's time to consider whether or not you're happy in the relationship and whether or not you can wait until the point in time where distance will not be a distance."
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have u ever thought of suicide?
11 months 3 weeks ago
"First of all, it disappoints me that people would be so callus to call him fake, to egg him on, to make fun of him--to say the things they would never say to someone's face only because no one knows who they are. I hope those people feel guilty for claiming he was faking death while they sat staring at the computer screen for hours. It's not right. It's not right at all.Second of all, I'm not keen on the idea of suicide. I have a coworker who attempted to kill herself a few weeks ago because her marriage of 8 years fell through and she couldn't talk her husband, who had an online affair and flew out to meet his online woman, into staying with her. She tried to overdose on sleeping pills and instead got very sick and had a seizure.
The kicker is she had told me about her thoughts previously and I had warned her about it--how life isn't something you can toy with. She had told me that more often than not people do not die from sleeping pill overdoses, yet she attempted. Which lead me to believe it was a cry for attention.
Not everyone who tries to kill themselves wants to die. Sometimes they want attention--they want to be noticed. They want people to care about them and they want people to try to stop them. In the case of the boy in the news broadcast I would almost say for certain that he did not want to die. His father said he was crying out for help. He changed his mind and didn't want to die. But accidents happen and he did succeed.
People want to kill themselves because of stress, unhappiness, feeling unloved or they feel lonely. They lose all hope and they stop caring. But what they don't realize is how incredibly selfish the act is. You put your friends and family through hell. They blame themselves for not watching you more closely, for not doing more when they didn't know anything was wrong.
I have lost respect for my co-worker. Now she uses her suicide attempt as a means to get attention. As a way to make me say, "Oh you poor dear. Your husband is leaving you and you'll need to consider a new means to bring in the money you need even though you refuse to go to college and want to sit working at a retail job up until you retire--but wait you can't afford retirement because you don't make enough because you won't consider other options."
If you can't attempt to help yourself and still try to pawn everything bad happening to you as life just hates you... I can't have any respect for you. I worked full time for a year and hated it, so I went to college. Majoring in something I can "deal" with the rest of my life and enjoy for the most part. Having to sue my roommate because she skipped out on the lease which may or may not fuck me over financially about 5 grand if by some crazy happenstance she wins. I'm trying to move forward--even when I feel depressed. I know people don't want to try when they're depressed but at the same time, seek help or stop complaining and deal with the life you've given yourself. If you're going to sit in the hole you dug, don't complain about how gross and smelly it is.
I feel sorry for his parents, but I don't really feel sorry for the boy who killed himself."
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8 of my drawings
1 year 4 weeks ago
"Very good drawings. I think your skill is well enough to start drawing the characters without looking at another picture and copying that image. Try drawing a character of your choice in your own pose. :)"View
PSP2 Concept Discussion
1 year 1 month ago
"I don't like it, though the idea for the display is interesting."View
Are anime addicts nerds?
1 year 1 month ago
"As for "otaku", I don't really like the word. In Japan it's not a good thing to be called otaku. It's not like how being called a geek or a nerd in America doesn't have that negative connotation it used to have. Otaku is actually a negative word to describe somebody--and there's nothing to be proud of when being called otaku.Here is one of the very, very negative connotations of the word:
If you want the same word to describe these people to describe you, have at it. But I, on the other hand, do not. No, not all usages of the word are as bad as what is above, but in Japan--what I'm trying to get at--it's not a good thing to be described by this word. "
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Are anime addicts nerds?
1 year 1 month ago
"In Japan anime isn't a driving force for social society. In fact, they use the term "otaku" to refer to the people who play the RPG anime games, read manga, and watch anime. Anime is really only accepted for those who are teenagers, just like in America it's okay for you to watch cartoons. In Japan, once you hit adulthood, it's not so accepted by society. People actually assume you're anti-social and if you're a man they expect you to be perverted and into hentai anime. Just like it's weird for adults to watch children's cartoons into their adulthood. The majority of anime is aimed at children and teenagers; but just as there are cartoons in America aimed at adults, Japan has the same.
However I can see where you may think it's a driving force in society. In Japan, outside every Pachiko place, is CG anime characters or actual anime characters (e.g. Lupin i was the most popular one I saw while I was there). Random fact... I know the son of the man who is the CEO of Pachiko in real life. He's a friend of mine! Anyways, I digress... Anime is used in ads, etc. But I don't think it's as accepted in Japan as most people seem to think it is. Just because there are a lot of anime to watch doesn't mean that it's so widely accepted when it comes to people who are adults.
To some degree, yes. From where I'm from the stereotypical anime fan does not care what he or she looks like or is perceived from the rest of the world--from the general public. I'm not saying that what people think of you is important, but these people (around where I live) wear dirty clothes, sometimes smell, and have a very bad idea of fashion. Most look as though they just woke up, threw on whatever dirty clothes were on the floor and went to the mall (all at around 6PM). This is what I have seen when working at Suncoast. I've seen anime families come in where the two parents are in a trench coat and their child is sucking on an Inuyasha plush toy, and all I can think is how that poor child is going to be anti-social from their parents who didn't even have the guts to answer my greeting, and instead shied away.
Some anime fans out there aren't weird, but most are very anti-social. And depending on where they grow up the anti-socialness may stem from no one else in their small town sharing the same interests (i.e. anime). In bigger towns/cities it's easier to find individuals who share those same interests. Some look normal and are normal. I know a few people who, if you were to look at them like a normal person, you would never know they actually really like Bleach or Code Geass, and really loved Sailor Moon.
So to answer your questions: it depends.
It's not very different to be into cartoons. Anime is just short for "animation". In Japan they spell "animation" as such: animesion (アニメシオン). It's not different for people to enjoy cartoons--there are people like that in America. I think what makes you different is when you partake in the fandom and practice cosplay. Now, I don't mean buying a costume and then wearing it. I mean when you actually spend the time and money--your sweat and blood--to make a costume so that you can dress up like your favorite character. This goes with any other area such as Star Trek, Star Wars, Buffie the Vampire Slayer; and whatever other nerd-like fandom you can think of. To some degree I feel that the person cosplaying is just a really huge nerd, but on the other hand, if they made their own costume (and it looks really good; because hey, let's face it... not everyone knows how to sew well) then I think they stand out a little more than the rest.
But watching anime as a past time making you "different" and "unique"? Meh... I don't really think so. I think just being yourself, as a whole, is what makes you unique as a person. But unique and different in the fandom of cartoons/anime? Read above in the previous paragraph."
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Do you have a life outside of glorious Computer-Land?
1 year 1 month ago
"In high school I really didn't have a life. In retrospect (I'm 23 now), I regret not spending more time with my friends. They tried several times to get me more involved but I was far more interested in petty, and pointless, stupid online relationships and didn't really socialize.Today I pay for it in lack of motivation to keep new-met friends. But I have a life outside of the internet now. I have a boyfriend I have friends who I do keep in regular touch with. But I think life would have been far better if I had been more socialistic with the outside world. Don't get me wrong--I like my online friends, but I can't chat with them in person without a lot of money.
Ah, as for what I do... I go to class Mon-Fri at a university and then work 20-25 hours a week to maintain my home/pay the bills. I'm shutting the cable tv off tomorrow because I just can no longer afford it with the small amount I'm bringing home per week from my job. So I guess I can add "looking for a new job" to what else I do. I haven't had a day off since early August."
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First Time Taking Something Huge?
1 year 1 month ago
"Wow! Good luck. I don't think I could handle it but with practice and training I probably could. But my issue is I just don't have the motivation for such things--but you definitely do. So go achieve it!It may sound weird but my greatest achievement so far was going to Japan. I was told by a self-proclaimed psychic who read my palm that I would never go to Japan when I was 14-15 or so (among a lot of other things). Now I'm 23... but when I went it was a month before my birthday so 22. So it had basically been ingrained in my head that I wouldn't go no matter what. The entire flight I kept thinking "Well, the plane could crash and he'd technically be right..." but it kept on going and when I stepped my food down on solid Japanese ground... the achievement hit me.
It was a big step for me. It was my first time out of my own country and it was an awesome experience. Maybe what I felt is the same feeling you're are as well. But just imagine how you'll feel when you achieve your goal. :)"
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18 years old and over
1 year 1 month ago
"Mavrickslayer:I think it just might be the language barrier that causes people to misunderstand you a little. It's all good."
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A question for all virgins over twenty
1 year 1 month ago
"Katelyn, there are men out there who have been in countless relationship and have chose to have intercourse within those relationships. Where do you draw the line? How many women is too many women? Or do they have to be a virgin too?It seems fairly low to hold things they did in the past against them when they have no way to change it. I'm not saying that all the guys out there you're talking about are saints and wonderful people (hell, the same thing goes for women, too. Women are able to sleep with just as many people as men are).
But seriously. My boyfriend has slept with 4 other women not counting me. He has had STD checks and the AIDS test to make sure that he was clean before we became intimate. I did this for my protection and he did it for his own safety, even though he used protection while having sex. How was he to know that when he was 17 years old and gave up his virginity for the first time that he would meet me 4-5 years later?
I hear people say they want to wait until marriage... that because once they get old and grey the only thing they'll have left between them and their loved one is conversation and they want to know that there is something between the two of them besides sex--so they choose to wait. I wish I could show you the statistics of couples who wait until marriage to have sex, have sex and then realize the sex is boring and down right crappy... and then in the end the relationship suffers because neither party knows what the heck to do and it's unenjoyable and frustrating.
"Oh then all they cared about in the end was sex."
No, in the end sex was a way to expression their emotions for one another but they couldn't do it correctly, or well, and it ended up with their marriage suffering. It sounds like it may not happen to you, but it may happen to the person you're with. No, this is not an excuse to go get laid... but what came down to my choosing to loose my virginity, besides the fact I loved the guy was this thought: "I could be okay losing my virginity to him. I wouldn't regret it later."
And the women who equate sex to love are idiots. It is certain you are not an idiot but you still fear the same fate. Does that imply you are afraid you do not have control over your emotions as much as you believe yourself to be?
And in the end you people are caring far too much about sex. In the end no one cares. The only reason people poke fun at you for it is because peer pressure is an old tradition handed down through the ages. People tend to think themselves normal and when they find someone who is unlike them, they are abnormal. Before I lost my virginity I got a lot of shit too. But if you want people to leave you alone about it just tell them it's none of your business. If they get snippy, tell them it's your choice and let it go."
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A question for all virgins over twenty
1 year 1 month ago
"Both men and women can have trouble controlling their hormones. I've known a lot of women who think the way you are stereotypically describing men. Both genders are able to do what you explained."
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A question for all virgins over twenty
1 year 1 month ago
"Actually, in Roman culture (or perhaps it was the Greek, I can't remember) they used to have public baths where people would openly engage in sexual acts. They used to have public benches and places where people would have sex right there in the streets. I don't think today is any different from the past. People are shown differently when they look at the history of Europe and Western culture where religion played a huge role. But there are places in the world that had openly accepted sex as a widely acknowledged act. It didn't matter who you did it with (they didn't understand STD/STI's [whatever kids call it now-a-days]) and did it because it was fun and felt great. But within either the Roman or Greek culture there were public orgies that people took part in. It was widely accepted and no one thought there was anything wrong with it.In the psychology aspect, it has been proven than women tend to literally emotionally attach themselves to the person they give their virginity to. When you say you are waiting until you are mentally ready, I find that hard to believe because you will never find yourself ready to deal with the emotions you feel when you give up your virginity for the first time. That's why I always find it best to wait until you find someone you love but also keep in mind that the average woman's heart will be swayed by the fact they gave their virginity to the man and they will think they love him, et cetera. I've seen it happen and I've been told about it. It actually scared me from having sex for a long while. With my boyfriend I told him (this was before we were dating) that I didn't want to have sex with him because I was afraid I'd fall in love with him right away and that it wouldn't be real love... it'd be me thinking I was in love.
Most of the negativity about having sex before marriage has a lot to do with religion. I'd love to say that it has to do with morals but I believe the initial moralistic value of it was first introduced by religion and people basically adapted it to a moralistic reason to remain abstinent. What you do is your choice and I never will judge people for being virgins. I lost my virginity when I was 18-19 years old and I had a friend (we are not friends anymore) who continuously tried to get me to have sex so I could talk to her about sex. I never gave into peer pressure and no one should feel obligated to have sex to fit in. It's your personal choice regardless of where the moral originated from. I find people low and shallow they either: a.) Judge you for being a virgin; or b.) Judge you for having premarital sex. I understand the circumstances if the person having premarital sex is sleeping around with many many men, then it's just wrong and there is something wrong with them emotionally most of the time (or mentally [i.e. see nymphomaniac]).
I had a friend who slept with 30+ guys (this was the number last I spoke to her) and her issue lied in her father. He never gave her love and she was the least loved of the family. Her twin sister was more beloved than her and got all new belongings whereas my friend got the hand-me-downs. She equated sex = love and therefore slept with anyone who winked at her because she felt loved. The love she didn't get. I tried to help her, but she didn't want my help. She chose to remain ignorant and for that I look down on her for it. This is an example."
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18 years old and over
1 year 1 month ago
"23 years-old. I tried smoking (cigarettes) at a young age and because my mom smoked I thought it was cool (and a friend pressured me). I never liked it so I never continued. I've never smoked pot or any other sort of other drug (besides cigarettes the one time) due to my mother smoking. I didn't like the smell and I didn't like the crutch she used it for. I tried drinking to get drunk for a friend, but after her almost throwing up in my mouth I decided that I no longer enjoyed that scene.I go to bars every now and then now-a-days with friends. I drink socially, but not to get drunk. Why? I enjoy it. I'm not drinking to be an alcoholic, I'm drinking just to be social with some friends and enjoy my time out of my cramped little apartment room. 99% of the time I sit in my room and chat, surf the web, homework, et cetera. I don't view what I do as weak because I am not using alcohol as a means to forget my problems or even mask them. This Friday (tomorrow) I am going to a bar because a Japanese professor invited me and many other Japanese students (it's a Japanese tradition). My boyfriend is coming with as well. I may have a drink, I may not. I don't know yet. I don't like to taste the alcohol, so it depends. But I love wine--and studies have shown that a glass of wine (in total moderation) is actually good for you due to the antioxidants in it.
Maverickslayer, I get the impression you may have just turned 21 and people are pressuring you to have your traditional shit-face drunk 21 year-old party and you're trying to find comfort in your decline of the offer. You're rather judgmental to say that anyone who puts their lips to a glass of alcohol is weak. Alcoholics are weak, yes. But normal people who drink socially in moderation and know how to limit themselves are not. You're asking for peoples' opinions and their lifestyles, so don't try to be like the Jehovah's Witness and press your beliefs on others. Most of what I read here from the people who drink now and again are decent people and do not appear weak in the choices they make to have a drink now and again.
I own a bottle of wine (Beringer White Zinfandel). I bought it a month ago. It hasn't been opened. That's how long it's been since I've last had an alcoholic beverage. It makes you weak when you use alcohol, or any other drug, as a means to escape. When you are addicted, you are weak. I'm rather wise--I don't drink often, but when I do I know when to stop so I don't get drunk. Others who can do that are wise, too.
P.S. I have never been to a party, and this will be my SECOND time going to a bar in my life. I've been pressured to go out and get wasted, and have turned every single offer down. I am not weak. I do what I want to have fun (and 99% of the time it involves staying home, playing games with friends, going to Perkins and having coffee at midnight, et cetera. I have a glass of wine maybe once every two months). and I can go to a bar without drinking. You DON'T have to have a drink in a bar. And where I live smoking has been banned, so I don't mind it much. I have friends who drink and party, but I don't do that and they respect me for my deicision. I am invited to those events, but I bring non-alcoholc beverages if I go (soda, tea, et cetera).
As for sex, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years, going on 5 in March (he's 25 years old). We are planning to get married in the future and we take every precaution to make sure we are practicing safe sex. He is also the first and only man I've been with. I lost my first cuddle to him, my first kiss to him; and yes, even my first time to him. I love him with my all and he loves me. We want children some day, just not today. If I got pregnant, we would welcome it and adjust our lives accordingly. I go to the doctor regularly for my annual. We're responsible adults."
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Torrent help pls!
1 year 1 month ago
"If you have a router there is a possibility that they don't work well because of your router (NAT Connection, etc). I know every now and then I need to go into my router and change my IP address so that I can get a clear connection to the bittorrent I'm downloading."View
Kindom Hearts lll
1 year 1 month ago
"No, I knew it was a remake of the Game Boy Advance game Kingdom Hearts Re: Chain of Memories, but I was strictly referring to the Playstation 2 release that was released in Japan. The Playstation 2 3D version is being released in America December 2008 and that was what I was referring to. Sorry for any mix-up. =\"
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Kindom Hearts lll
1 year 1 month ago
"There is a release date for Kingdom Hearts Re: Chain of Memories that was released in Japan to the PS2. It is due to be released in North America in December of 2008. I'm rather excited about that. The game takes place between KH1 and KH2, if I remember correctly.But Kingdom Hearts Re: Chain of Memories is not Kingdom Hearts 3 (just in case people are confusing the two). It was a game that was released in Japan in 2004 (I believe) and was never released in North America. It is only now that they have chosen to release it to North America. "
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